The Fight is Fixed

If you ever called on to defend yourself and you know that the fight was fixed to make you the winner, I want to assume that you will not back down or move reluctantly towards your opposition.

I think you will be exciting to hear the bell ring for the fight to begin…after all, the fight is fixed in your favor.

But many times when the battle gets fierce and the opposing factors stand unfazed by your appearance…and your heartbeats have changed the momentum … and the crowds are watching … some are silent, others are cheering loudly for your opponent… I can tell you it’s a struggle to believe that the fight is fixed with you in mind.

You look around and those who were standing with you are now hidden behind the walls as the sounds of war is deafening. There’s a lot of blood shedding during the battles. The enemy has sent out a war cry that makes you tremble in fear as you watch your loved ones fall one at a time.

You are fighting for life and the sweats and tears are turning into blood … but you heard from the head quarters that the fight is fixed in your favor … so you are not going to back down.

As a child of God, be confident, overly confident that your fight is fixed with you in mind … but … you must show up. Don’t cry to the LORD … move forward … the fight is fixed. Your opposing factors will know without a doubt that God is with you and God will be honored and respected by all those who are looking on. The fight is fixed with you in mind.

The angel that’s assigned to you who had been going in front of you, will move behind you and stand behind you. Darkness will blind the eyes of those who are pursuing you as the LORD takes His position.

The light will go before you as the noonday sun and darkness will move behind making it difficult for those pursuing you.

No plot of the enemy that is setup to destroy you will come to pass.

The LORD will confuse the strategies of the enemy and they will be thrown into chaos. They will know that the LORD is fighting for His chosen children. Not one of their plans will prosper. You will go to bed and your sleep will be sweet.

The fight is fixed … God don’t like lazy people….so have to show up and give it your best shot.

Summer Needs to Slow Down

I want to give a huge shoutout to all my followers who have made me love what I do. To each of you, I want to say, ‘THANK YOU”.

But life is short and Summer goes by so quickly….so before Summer and I both get a speeding ticket …I’m taking a break from writing for the next two months to travel.

I’m looking forward to the days when my biggest decision would be where are my sandals.

Whatever you do make sure you are happy.

Wishing you all a wonderful and safe Summer. See you in September.

Alexa, is it Friday?

Life doesn’t have to be perfect to enjoy it. There’s always the weekend for the strong in heart waiting to show you a good time.

Friday is very therapeutic as it brings a sense of relief from the busyness of life. It’s the day when we somehow mentally get ready to let down our guard. It’s called REST!

Now, sit back and let’s enjoy a few laughs.

Remember that you don’t have to have a perfect week to have fun on the weekend.

Go ahead, LAUGH, and LAUGH, and LAUGH some more.

Don’t let one day make you feel like you are having a bad life….it’s only one day … not your entire life.

See you on Monday … But not until you take some time to laugh.

Temporary Relief

Anything that’s temporary is never permanent …. meaning it will only last for a short time before it expires. Relief is a feeling of calmness after experiencing some form of stress and anxiety. Temporary relief brings calmness for a short time … but it will never bring closure to whatever was causing the anxiety or stress.

Sometimes when pain is absent for a short period we do not give it our full attention forgetting that the root cause was not dealt with …. and before long the pain will resurface. The relief makes a person become comfortable enough to forget that the situation remains unresolved.

Temporary relief makes people repeat cycles of dysfunction because the calmness tricked them into believing that the pain was gone. Some girls are habitually drawn to losers and some guys accept the nightmares of bad relationships both believing that it’s better to be in a bad relationship than to be lonely. The relief is temporary. 

People living an abnormal or out of the ordinary life should at least be mentally healthy to recognize when they need help. Living with temporary relief is convincing your mind that things are okay when it is not. It will only encourage negative thinking and behavior that would soon erupt into anxiety and frustrations when the pain returns.

There was a woman with an issue for many years and she spent all she had going to a therapist and her situation wasn’t changing. She was running out of options and knew that something had to be done quickly … so out of desperation … she remembered that she overheard people talking about a man named Jesus.

At that very moment she decided that something has to change very soon in her life because she was growing tired dealing with her issues. She made a decision to find Jesus to see if He could help her … and the Bible says, she was made well. A sick person should be mentally healthy to recognize when they need help … and they should risk everything to get help when help appears at their front steps.

It’s hard to stand by and watch someone trying to fix a leak with a hammer. But the challenge is … if they are convinced that the hammer is the right tool for the job … then there’s nothing more you can say to them until they ask for help.

The woman with the issue went looking for help. She knew Jesus was in her city and if she didn’t get to Him … the window of opportunity would have gone … and she would have to continue living in her misery. Pride will keep a person believing that temporary relief is the way to deal with issues. 

A glass of wine will dull the pain for a moment, a date night will keep you happy for the hour, a mini vacation will take you away for a week …. all these are temporary relief that have not dealt with the root cause of the misery. The best time to know God is when the pain is unbearable.

Anything that’s temporary is never permanent. Relief is a feeling of calmness after experiencing some form of stress and anxiety. Temporary relief brings calmness for a short time … but it will never bring closure to whatever was causing the anxiety or stress. It’s never too late to be happy. But it’s all up to you!

Living Confidently

If you work for a company – most times after your first three months of probation you are given perks … also known as “benefits in kind” that can include bonuses, profit sharing, medical, disability, and life insurance, paid vacations, free meals, use of a company car, pensions, stock options, childcare, gratuity, company holidays, personal days, sick leave, other time off from work, retirement and pension plan.

Receiving benefits/perks is the ultimate goal for working for a company. These perks only become effective after you have met all requirements. The higher you climb up the ladder the better the benefits. The company will do everything to retain you by increasing salary and perks.

Well, the sad reality is, if for any reason your health begins to deteriorate, or your family dynamics changes, or the company begins to lose confidence in you, or someone smarter than you come along … well it’s so long bye bye with all the years, hours and loyalty you painstakingly gave to the company over the years.

I’m proud to go public to let the world know that there are great perks/benefits when you serve God … and the longer you serve Him … the benefits/perks goes up like the stock market. And most of all, when the going gets rough, God comes alongside us, and toughens us up so we can withstand the pressure.

When your confidence begins to fail, He scoops you up and reassures you that everything will be well. God stays with you to the end.

But the opposite is true, if you don’t serve God … there will always be lack in areas where money and notoriety don’t cut the deal.

When you serve God … you set apart yourself and make yourself available to do any and every thing He asks you to do. You respectfully observe and obey His leading even if it looks scary because you trust His ways.

Many times the trust goes beyond our understanding … but the benefits are found in knowing God will bring you out on the other side. He promotes you in the ‘More than Enough’ category.

My God is big enough to handle anything that may oppose you and any giants that will come against you. He is so detailed … He knows if a bird falls to the ground and He watches over you with those same eagle eyes while you are asleep. You don’t have to depend on your resources because He is able to do more than you can think or ask.

When anxiety strikes, you can run to Him and let Him know you’re scared. God reminds you that He is still in control and nothing, absolutely nothing, can come nigh where you live.

He will shelter you and you will find your rest in Him. God watches over your household and they too will have no lack.

God makes a way when your backs are against a wall. He changes your story from being victims of society to reigning and ruling your world.

The benefits/perks of serving God will continue to be a sign and a reminder to you in your golden years. The best is yet to come.

Living confidently knowing your God. He’s got your back!

Take Your Stand

A double minded person is someone who is undecided and unstable in everything they do. They have two minds that is always at war and their loyalty is problematic because they are neither with you or against you.

They remain neutral when there are opposing factors. It’s a miserable way to live because there’s no inner peace as they struggle with their true self-worth.

The sad thing is, double-mindedness never happens overnight as habits repeat themselves till the individual has little or no control over simple decision making. It’s a battle of the mind that does not stop as it ruins any good intention by the one held captive. They are tossed to and fro when faced with decisions.

Carrying out a simple task becomes a huge challenge to a person trapped by their double-mindedness. Some people choose this way of living because anything else requires change and change only comes about by being single-minded … and that is not an easy task for someone who is unstable.

To be double-minded is like having two brains … it brings about instability where one day they act in one way and tomorrow they act in some other way. It’s a little more complicated dealing with people who show these symptoms. Their choices and decisions are affected by their instability, and they are unaware of the negative impact it’s having on them.

I am happy that I never heard about a triple-minded person … that definitely will be a human curve ball that requires extra grace and an overflow of patience.

As humans, we live by making decisions. It’s a personal decision to get up early and to go to bed late. To smoke or not to smoke. To overeat or eat too little. To live a quiet life or to be a busybody in other people’s affairs.

Everything about life is about decisions and choices. The things we want to do, we don’t do, and what we hate we do. Yep, life gets complicated most of the times.

Don’t be fooled in believing that only some people have these struggles … those who conquer them are those who decide to be single-minded and will not compromise on their beliefs. They are focus, free, and they live a peaceful life with purpose.

They do not try to please everyone. They are bold and confident and will not be easily persuaded.

A single-minded person is fully aware that the struggle to do good can only be won by having a strong-will power to do what’s morally right. They are not afraid to take a stand even if no one else is on their side. Folks may mock and laugh at them … but they know that they are not all heading to the same destination.

The fight to take a stand when everybody else is sitting calls for courage. A single-minded person does not stand in the middle of the road wondering which side to cross over. They know they will get run over so they quickly pick a side. They know that it’s their responsibility to get to where they are going.

Someone said, “Beware of those who seek constant crowds; they are nothing alone.” We must strive to get to a place where we do not need the praise and approval from others. If we ever find ourselves waiting for everyone to like us before we make our next move, we will never get to our destiny.

We will not play the victim. We will not throw a pity party. We will not point fingers. We will not give excuses. We will not look back. We will stand up for what’s morally right. We will speak up, and never give up. I’m with HER!

Go Ahead and Take that Wobbly Step

Life is ticking by even if you are not watching the clock. In life, things will go wrong and there will be many twists and turns along way. Some people see them as growth spurts while others see the same the twists and turns as road blocks. But, I’ve learnt that life goes on regardless of how you view the horizons, so I use them as my growth spurts.

I want to think that the biggest mistake in life is holding on to hurts. Emotional hurt is like hugging the most venomous snake, sleeping with it and totally believing it’s not going to kill you. Why would someone put themselves through all that pain hugging toxic thoughts and emotions towards another fellow human being … believing it’s not going to hurt you?

Forgiveness may seem like it’s easier said than done … but the truth is … forgiveness should be our number one priority because it brings immediate healing to our body, our brain, our emotions … and our ability to think and behave in a normal and rational manner … better known as having a sound mind.

Hurts lead to resentment and resentment is not cool. Hate, anger, and hurts are tricks that the devil uses to keep us as captured slaves chained to long years of resentment and unresolved conflict that can go deeper than you and I may realize—it must affect our physical health after being chained for years and years.

Forgiveness is a God-given gift to us and it gives us the ability to see others the way we want others to see us when we fail to meet their expectations.

It’s painful to remember the date, time, occasion, and even what you were wearing when someone hurt your feelings. To remember that for a whole life time is like hugging a venomous snake and sleeping in bed with it, believing it will never kill you. You can fret and fume over who hurt you, but be mindful that your life has an expiry date and maybe you could have been a zillion times happier many years ago.

The road to healing may not be paved with gold and smooth running, but taking a few wobbly steps towards forgiveness will eventually encourage you to take bolder steps towards new horizons with unfamiliar landscapes of happiness and healthy relationships.

We all experience pain in life, and no emotional pain is the same as anybody else, but we must all walk the journey and path that God has mapped out for our lives. Our greatest ministry/gift/service to mankind usually comes out of our greatest pain. So far, you and I have survived our worst days. Haha … I hope that’s not breaking news.

When I get hurt … my first response is Shock, then Anger, then Resentment, then Acceptance and finally Hope. If we have resentment and bitterness in our hearts, it’s time to let it go! Sleeping with venomous snakes will kill you in your sleep. Tomorrow may never come.

Allow God to heal the scars and He will give you the ability to forgive and love again. Our life and eternity are dependent on the power to love again.