OCTOBER 28 with DR. KRISSY DOYLE-THOMAS Medical Neuroscientist and Professor 🧠

Let’s talk about resilience!

💪🏽Resilience is our ability to cope when things go wrong.

😩It’s so easy at time to buckle and succumb to stress and give in to the heavy load of life.

🧠In fact that uncontrolled fear response is the action of our amygdala, our fear processing brain area.

🧠Our amygdala talks to our prefrontal cortex (PFC), that part of our brain that is extremely important for decision making, concentration, breaking down the problem, focusing on the positives, flexible thinking etc.

🧠Our PFC can exert control over our amygdala to tell it that “it’ll be okay”. But sometimes our PFC is not able to suppress that fear response. Our amygdala can then cause our PFC to turn off and cause our brain to go into survival mode.

❓So the question becomes, how do we calm down our pesky, anxious amygdala and turn on our PFC again. Here are some suggestions

🫂(1) Connect with a support system. Friends, family, those who love and support you. That would activate your love brain chemical oxytocin and will promote a healthy response.

🤔(2)Stay flexible and open minded to new ideas, opportunities, and solutions. This would engage your PFC in considering options, flexible thinking and making decisions.

🛑(3) Know your limits and when to ask for help. Spend some time alone to reflect on the big pictures and know that THIS is just a moment in time.

🧘🏽‍♀️Engage in some self care, mediation and prayer, exercise, and eating healthy. This would help to calm your fear response and the allow yourself space to “think”.

I hope this helps. Take care!

selflove #selfcare #wellness #wellnessjourney #resilience #health #neuroscience #psychology #everydayneuroscience #think #youvegotthis

OCTOBER 27 HEART TO HEART GROWN UP CONVERSATIONS

Today’s Topic: The Importance of Knowing God’s Voice

Children feel safe and protected knowing their parents are within reach. No matter how old or young you may be sometimes you just need a parent.

No one is an orphan. Your Heavenly Father stands ready and waiting at all times to communicate to you on all matters of the heart. No two children are the same yet He is familiar with all our ways. Our faces are not the same yet He knows every detail of our needs.

To recognize our Father’s voice does not call for emotional maturity but spiritual maturity. Two different things.

God keeps working on your spiritual maturity until you can hear what He has to say about those things that trouble your heart. Our relationship with God is at its best when we know His voice, trust His leading and walk in obedience even when you can’t see the end.

When God speaks you must come away from the crowd to hear what He is saying. He speaks softly and tenderly. Spiritual maturity is being comfortable to spend time alone with God.

How to know God’s voice vs Satan’s voice.

God the Father speaks in love while Satan brings on blame and guilt.

God will encourage you to keep on believing in yourself while Satan will discourage you making you feel alone in the world.

God’s voice will lead you into the path of truth, Satan makes you act spontaneously.

God’s voice will comfort, Satan’s voice brings chaos and tears.

You may say that you can’t figure it out. God says that He will order your steps.

You think it’s impossible. God says that all things are possible.

You say that you can’t go on. God says that His grace is sufficient.

You can believe everything that your Heavenly Father says to you. You will know the truth, and the truth will make you free.

The truth is, we are slaves to overthinking. A slave does not believe that tomorrow will be a brighter day. But a child of God lives every day in hope of a better tomorrow.

No matter how old you may be …sometimes you just need a parent. God is the Father to the fatherless.

Prayer Time: Father, make us spiritually mature to hear your voice. Even when we don’t see you, we want to hear your voice say, “This is The Way walk in it.” In Jesus Name, Amen.

Place all your concerns, worries, fears, hopes, dreams, families and your relationships in God’s hands and walk in spiritual maturity.

OCTOBER 26 HEART TO HEART GROWN UP CONVERSATIONS

Today’s Topic: Be a Bee 🐝

I read something great this week and it resonated with me – ‘Butterflies cover a lot of ground, but only bees gather honey.’

Out of interest I gave it some thought to see what I can learn about this statement. Butterflies are light, pretty, and gentle, while bees are hardworking and busy.

When someone says that they have butterflies in their stomach you get the impression that they are anxious and nervous about something. Their restlessness makes them what to take flight and run away from the stress.

They may relocate for a chance to survive the threatening outcome. They may say things like ‘if this continues, I will go mad’ or ‘I will have a heart attack’. So, like the butterfly they move around. Butterflies cover a lot of ground.

The saying ‘As busy as a bee’ means someone is moving about quickly doing many things. Bees are hardworking and if faced with threat they do a surprise attack on the unwanted visitor as they literally get together, hide, and then attack.

I decided that it’s better to be a Bee than a Butterfly.

When we come together, work together, we accomplish more. Quote: “If you want to go fast, go alone. If you want to go far, go together.” One move can change your life for better or worse. For richer or for poorer.

God is in the details so don’t be a butterfly becoming restless and wanting to take flight. We can choose to be either a butterfly getting anxious and nervous or a bee that is busy getting things done. We can’t be both.

Don’t leave your assignment prematurely. At the end of your life, you want to be known for your obedience to God.

God is not in a hurry. We are in a hurry and that is what keep us unhappy, disappointed, and stressed.

Isaiah 40:29-31 says, “The Lord gives strength to those who are weary. Even young people get tired, then stumble and fall. But those who trust the Lord will find new strength. They will be strong like eagles soaring upward on wings; they will walk and run without getting tired.”

One move can change your life for better or worse. For richer or for poorer. God is in the details so don’t act out of haste. Waiting on God calls for a disciplined life or you can live a life of regrets.

Nehemiah 6:3 says, “I am doing a great work and cannot come down.” Nehemiah was in charge of rebuilding the walls of Jerusalem. His enemies tried four times to stop his work.

Nehemiah was not going to be distracted. He was not leaving the work. If he had stopped, he would have been killed. Don’t be distracted, don’t come down from what you are building. You are doing a great work and will not take flight.

Prayer Time: Father, we are not coming down nor taking flight. We don’t know how and we don’t know when but we know you will do whatever you have spoken. In Jesus Name, Amen.

God has not lost track of you. God doesn’t come and go. He stays with you in the waiting room.

OCTOBER 25 HEART TO HEART GROWN UP CONVERSATIONS

Today’s Topic: Relationships

To be happy and contented you must maintain healthy relationships with your parents, siblings, aunts, uncles, cousins, spouse, baby’s daddy, baby’s mommy, and children.

Relationships are not easy but if there are shared DNAs try everything possible to make things cordial.

Relationships are harder now because Social Media has become a platform to vent and air out dirty laundry. Conversations are done through texting, and counselling is accepting advice from people who don’t have to live with the consequences.

If you don’t heal what hurt you, you will bleed on people who didn’t cut you is such a powerful quote. Hurting people are sitting on a time bomb waiting to explode at a drop of a pin.

Relationships are not easy, but it’s ridiculous to
spend a lifetime being bitter and rehearsing the history until you take your last breath on earth.

I have had my fair share of deep hurt doing
cartwheels, throwing tantrums, and having emotional roller coasters till all my strength was gone. Getting out of self-pity was huge until I decided to take back control of my life. I decided no more poor me and I can’t believe this happened to me stories.

Nope. Bad stuff happens to everyone like a bad flu.

Anyone can catch it once you’re exposed to the outside world. During those experiences I learned the true meaning of unconditional love.

We learn how to live. We live what we learn. If we live with resentment, we will become fighters. If we live with love, the love will cover a multitude of wrong doings.

If we do not mend broken relationships with family members there will always be a white elephant sitting in the room staring at you all hours of the day and night making you vulnerable to the haunting images.

Let’s stop ignoring the white elephant in the room so we could heal. Cycles must be broken. Anger, divorce, sibling rivalry, parent-child conflicts, baby’s daddy, and mommy, did not start with you it started generations before you.

And if you keep refusing to do what’s right the toxic and negative cycles will be passed down to your gorgeous Princess and handsome Prince. Look for lessons learned. What could have been prevented and how to reset your choices in life.

The good news is, Jesus heals the broken hearted. Every person needs forgiveness. Allow God to examine each piece of the puzzled relationship and whatever hurts allow Him to heal.

1Peter 5:7 says, “Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you.” Nothing works until God steps in and miracles happen.

Prayer Time: Father, thank you that you are the Wonderful Counsellor and the Prince of Peace. Teach us to forgive so it doesn’t destroy our hearts. In Jesus Name, Amen.

REMINDER: Don’t allow today’s social media culture to drag you down to a level of immaturity.

OCTOBER 18 HEART TO HEART GROWN UP CONVERSATIONS

Today’s Topic: Believe in Yourself!

If something is important to you, you will do it even if all the odds are against you. You must be determined, passionate, and disciplined.

Quote: “You will never reach your destination if you stop and throw stones at every dog that barks.” This quote doesn’t literally means dogs. It means you will never reach your destination if you stop and respond to everyone who has something to say.

As grownups, our runway is shorter than it was before. No one has time to stop and respond to everything that others have to think or say. If you are determined and disciplined nothing is impossible.

Stop getting bent out of shape with things that have nothing to do with your goals. You have places to go, people to meet, and things to achieve.

There will always be people in your inner circle who are territorial and will from time to time throw obstacles in your way. They are the critical part to keeping you humble and focused.

If you lose heart you will never reach your destination. Do not feed the negativity. Don’t engage in the circus.

Jesus handpicked 12 people to be in his inner circle and one of them refuse to put their faith in Him and betrayed Him for money.

At the end of the day …it’s your dream/goal not anyone else’s that you are working on.

1 Peter 5:10 says, “Yes, you will suffer for a short time. But after that, God will make everything right. He will make you strong. He will support you and keep you from falling. He is the God who gives all grace.”

God will make you strong keep you from falling and His grace will keep you going. If there’s one piece of advice I can leave with you is, if there’s something you really want to achieve – be determined and disciplined.

Don’t give up no matter how long it takes. Keep a cool head. Stay focus. There will always be people who don’t believe in you and would like nothing better than to watch you fall.

Believe in yourself because God believes in you. You will never reach your destination if you stop to respond to everyone and everything that stands in your way.

Prayer Time: Father, help us to be determined, disciplined and to finish strong. Let us not lose heart by what’s happening around us. Make us a good examples of someone who believes in themselves even when no one else does. In Jesus Name, Amen.


Thought for today: If what you are working on puts a fight in you then be prepared to work hard.

OCTOBER 14 HEART TO HEART GROWN UP CONVERSATIONS

Today’s Topic: Reclaim Your Ground

A cluttered mind has too many tabs/thoughts all open at the same time. Your mind is not a storage unit. A cluttered mind makes the most noise at nights.

Your mind is one place where less is more. Unlike having a cluttered home you can’t keep empty boxes, trash, and items of no value in your mind.
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Hoarding unhealthy thoughts affect your personality, you eat more junk and watch more TV. It also affects your family’s lives, and other close relationships. ‬‬

A cluttered mind leads to impulsive decisions, drugs, alcohol, and waking up the next morning feeling overwhelmed. Like cleaning a cluttered home you must get rid of everything that’s toxic and harmful to your mental health and reclaim your space.

You don’t have a choice if you’re exhausted from the clutter and chaos of the mind. With the help of medical professionals and God …your chaos can turn into cheers of celebration.

Proverbs 15:22 says, “If you don’t ask for advice, your plans will fail. With many advisors, they will succeed.”
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Clutter is not only what goes on in the home and in the mind. It’s anything that keeps you back from living your best life. A calm mind is a calm heart and a calm life.

God will help you rebuild the wasted areas of your life. Your foundation will be stronger for the next generation. God will repair the gap and restore the beaten down paths of your life.

A mind is a terrible thing to waste. Your life is worth living in the sunshine of your soul. Be careful how you think. Your life is shaped by your thoughts.

Get rid of anything that steals your joy. God is with you. You will not fail. This time next year you will be proud of the choices you made. ‬‬

Prayer Time: Father, help us to cherish and hold those things that makes us feel strong. Help us to get rid of old habits, toxic thoughts, and hold fast to your Word. In Jesus Name, Amen.

OCTOBER 12 HEART TO HEART GROWN UP CONVERSATIONS

Today’s Topic: Stop Monitoring Things You Already Surrendered to God

Every mistake, heartbreak, cuts, bruises, betrayal, rejection, divorce, separation, and broken promises are important life’s lessons taught in the School of Hard Knocks.

It’s time to graduate. Walk through those doors like it’s your graduation day. It’s time to exhale, clear your mind, adjust your crown, and walk out like a boss.

Stop monitoring things you have already surrendered to God. This was the moment you were waiting for all your life. You have reached a higher level of redeeming your past. Your past was the dress rehearsal.

You don’t have to be famous just make yourself proud that you left everything in God’s hands. Stop monitoring things you have already surrendered to God. It’s a new day where the future looks bright.

Reloading the promises of God: Proverbs 16:7 “When a man’s ways please the Lord, He makes even his enemies to be at peace with him.”

Psalms 18:33 “You make my feet run as fast as those of a deer, and you help me stand on the mountains.”


Proverbs 4:23 “Carefully guard your thoughts because they are the source of true life.”

Exodus 23:20
“Look! I send an angel in front of you, to keep you safe on the journey. He will bring you to the place that I have prepared for you.”

Jude 1:24 “Now unto him that is able to keep you from falling, and to present you faultless before the presence of his glory with exceeding joy.”

Exodus 33:14 “And He said, “My Presence will go with you, and I will give you rest.”

Ecclesiastes 4:12
“Though one may be overpowered by another, two can withstand him. And a threefold cord is not quickly broken.”

You’ve got a bright future and it doesn’t look like your past. God’s promises will sustain you when your past comes knocking. Promise yourself to be brave enough to set up your boundary lines.

Prayer Time: Father, thank you that I don’t have to carry my past into my future. Your presence will go with me and give me rest. In Jesus Name, Amen.

You will be amazed at who and what you attract once you start believing in yourself. God loves you.

OCTOBER 11 HEART TO HEART GROWN UP CONVERSATIONS

Today’s Topic: Don’t be Muzzled

Today is Canada’s Thanksgiving 🇨🇦 Thanksgiving isn’t limited to what is going in and around you. Thanksgiving is the WAKEUP call that God is good all the time, and all the time God is good.

In a healthy relationship people experience good times, bad times, and in between times. Times never change the dynamics of the relationship. The team remains loyal to each other regardless of what’s happening in and around them. Their loyalty is untarnished.

So, when you hear someone say that God is good all the time, and all the time God is good … I trust you understand it’s the trust relationship between God and the person.

Seasons never change a person’s heart, and the heart doesn’t change because of the seasons. So the next time the devil tries to cloud your vision that God isn’t good all the time … put a silencer on his voice.

To be thankful isn’t a feeling, it’s that you choose not to be beat down, defeated, or allow wounds to muzzle your praise. You choose to remain in hope while your feet remain rooted in the goodness of God.

Your life is a story of many giants but your gratitude isn’t tied to the activities of the giants. Heaven is cheering you on because seasons are not dead ends.

Have you ever wondered why Thanksgiving Day in Canada and the USA falls during the season where everything is dark and gloomy, trees have lost their beauty and just before the coldest season of the year.

What’s happening in and around you should not limit your gratitude. The devil knows that if he can distract your vision by keeping you focus on the gloom… he will steal your praise.

Thanksgiving Day is not the time to be muzzled. It’s the best opportune time for Heaven to record your spirit of gratitude.

Over the last two years it feels like sorrow and sadness have taken up permanent residence in the secret room of our homes. Our gratitude has been muzzled by Satan’s scary antics.

Thanksgiving Day allows us to take back ownership of our homes and what activities need to be discouraged.

Whatever country you reside in send out a notice that it’s Thanksgiving Day in your home. No frills required. Just find a place at your table to give God thanks for bringing you through the varied seasons of life.

We may have 99 reasons to be gloomy and disheartened today but there’s always one reason to give God thanks. Do not be muzzled.

Regardless of where you live, every home should have a day to officially pause and give God thanks. Thank God for the bread and cheese and the water. It’s a great teaching moment for the family.

It’s not about the spread on the table but the spread of a grateful heart. Then watch God double your blessings. Don’t be muzzled. Seasons come and goes but your loyalty to God never changes.

Prayer Time: Father, in everything we give you thanks. In the good or bad times we will do the same. In Jesus Name, Amen.


Untangle your thoughts and move into an atmosphere of thanksgiving. God loves a grateful family. Thanksgiving is NOT a country. It’s NOT the spread. It is GRATITUDE towards God.

Happy Thanksgiving Day 🙏🏾