The Weekend Is Here!

Here’s to another weekend. Most people do what they enjoy on the weekend. Let’s plan to laugh louder and longer. Take time to enjoy the view.

Thank you to all my followers for reading, sharing, commenting and simply pushing me to be the best I can be.

Some days are good, and some days I just make it because of you. So…. THANK YOU!

Have an awesome weekend and let’s share a smile. You absolutely never know who needs it. Save a life. Share a smile.

Know Yourself. Know Your Enemy

“Sensible people will see trouble coming and avoid it, but an unthinking person will walk right into it and regret it later.” Proverbs 22:3-4

Here’s a Quote by Sun Tzu that I’ve been pondering on for some time now:

“If you know the enemy and know yourself, you need not fear the result of a hundred battles.

If you know yourself, but not the enemy, for every victory gained you will also suffer a defeat.

If you know neither the enemy nor yourself, you will succumb in every battle.” End of quote.

Could it be possible that the reasons we end up feeling drained, confused, depressed, living with regrets are:

1. We know ourselves but not our enemy?

2. We neither know ourselves nor our enemy?

Nothing makes our enemy more conniving than when we are clueless about his tactics, schemes and lies.

The enemy watches for the best time to attack and attacks when we are physically or emotionally wounded and drained.

It’s time to know ourselves and know our enemy.

If we do not know what we are standing for, we will keep falling for anything, and happiness will be hard to find.

No wise person begins a journey without knowing their destination. Know why you started and know when you have arrived.

If we do not know what we are fighting for or against, we will be taken advantage of.

We must stand up for SOMETHING. And we must determine who is going to win.

It is better to be respected than to be rich and famous

Wise people see trouble coming and get out of the way

The one who borrows is a slave to the one who lends

Those who spread trouble will be destroyed by the trouble they caused

All arguments and insults will end…so walk away from confrontations

● A lazy person will eat the bread of idleness. Idle hands are the devil’s workshop

The Lord gets angry with anyone who falls into the trap of adultery

Two things will make us poor – hurting the poor to get rich and giving gifts to the rich

It’s easy to steal from the poor, but don’t do it. The Lord is on their side

Avoid quick tempered people … we may learn their ways

Do you see a man that excels in his work? He will stand before men of high calibre

Evil people are trapped by many troubles, but those who want to live must avoid them

Respect the Lord and be humble

Finally, ‘if you know your enemy and you know yourself, you will not fear the result of a hundred battles’. Sun Tzu

Tough L❤VE

Tough love is an expression used when someone treats another person sternly with the intent to help them in the long run. Tough love can be a very challenging exercise to carry out as our hearts are tender towards our loved ones.

However, a strong dose of tough love may be the last resort to helping someone get off the road of destruction.

King Solomon says in Proverbs 13:25 MSG “A refusal to correct is a refusal to love.”

When we protect someone from the consequences of their follies, we are actually enabling them in their problematic behavior – A refusal to correct is a refusal to love.

Enforcing the law of tough love is never a pleasant thing for both parties involved….but, it’s a necessary step to take because gentle rebukes don’t work well on a person bent on self destruction.

Tough love may be the refusal to stop giving second chances.

Why?

Because lack of respect increases when the boundary lines of tender love have been trampled on. Know your love limits and gain back your respect.

It is normal to appreciate, love and respect those who work diligently with us. When kindness is shown …we hold the giver in the highest esteem of love because of their generosity.

This is not difficult to comprehend if someone is ready to move past their destructive behavior.

The Bible says that we should warn those who are undisciplined, unruly, disorderly and reckless.

Be patient with everyone and always control our temper.

Be persistent in prayer.

Test all things carefully so that we recognize what is good. Hold firmly to what is good.

Reminder: God is faithful and dependable and can be trusted. We just need to trust God’s timing.

We need to ask ourselves if what we are doing today is getting the person closer to where we want them to be tomorrow.

The final choice lies in the person’s hands.

Will It Be A Happy Meal?

By the time we realize our mothers were right, our children would have grown up and thought that everything we did was wrong.

My fellow parents, it is not our money in the bank, or the location of our house that makes our home a happy home.

If the Lord is not building and watching over our homes…we are wasting our time.

Our children are gifts given to us for a short period of time. Childhood is a short season. We have a little window to groom, and nature, and love our children.

Most millennial moms don’t want to raise their children the same way they were bought up.

But the truth be told – there’s no happy meal that can substitute for the older women teaching the younger women to love their children, to be self-controlled, to be busy at home, and to teach the values that make up the foundation of a good home.

Turning to YouTube and Google to learn how to manage the different stages in our children’s lives will turn out to be disastrous.

Why?

Because our kids are also turning to the same media sources to learn how to live their lives free from parental control.

The devil learns from our mistakes even if we ourselves don’t learn from our mistakes.

I’ve seen a great tragedy:

Children going home to babysitters and live-in nannies in the absence of their parents

Children becoming exposed to risky behavior and negative feelings if left alone without a hands-on parent

The instability of the family circle also creates huge fears in the lives of children

Allowing children to be fully opinionated regardless of the topics at hand leads to a breakdown in the family. Where there’s no law – there’s no order.

The devil learns from our mistakes even though we don’t. Is it time to break the cycle? There are some things in life that cannot be recovered:

The moments after they are missed

The years after they are gone

The social media culture in this world is not on our side.

I researched some statistics over the internet and found that every year 12,000 children aged between 5-14 years old are admitted to psychiatric hospitals for suicidal disorder or mental illness.

Who is in charge of nurturing our children? Who are the role models in our homes?

Ten years from today, would our children be proud of us, and would we be proud of our children?

Children are arrows in our hands, if we are irresponsible archers then there will be many casualties and early deaths.

One of the best ways to teach values to our kids is by our example.

Not For Human Ears

Have you ever stared out of your window into the pitch darkness of the night just thinking and thinking?

Have you ever walked the floors while everyone else is asleep worrying about an unresolved situation?

Have you ever had conversations without a listening audience looking for answers or solutions to your deepest fears?

I would like to think that with maturity comes responsibility, and with responsibility comes accountability, and with accountability one must face tough issues.

Life has a way of leading us down a pathway where there are always more questions than answers.

Restlessness and anxiety takes a toll on us in seasons of distress and grief.

The music fades away. The chatter goes still. No one is dancing on the dancefloor….and the thoughts get louder and louder as if they are on a mission to wake up the sleeping giant next to you.

These are feeble cries of an achy troubled heart that needs the attention of Someone that is greater than you and I.

This is the time when our runaway thoughts should be held hostage smack in the middle of a sentence converting it into a prayer.

Sometimes ‘real prayers’ are not made for human ears…but only for God’s ears.

“Trust in and rely confidently on the Lord with all your heart

And do not rely on your own insight or understanding.

In all your ways know and acknowledge and recognize Him, And He will make your paths straight and smooth [removing obstacles that block your way].”

PROVERBS 3:5‭-‬6 AMP

There’s a midnight cry that requires an intervention from only God.

Nice religious prayers don’t relieve a broken heart. When faced with a tough situation in the lonely hours of the night, we will be surprised at how many deep painful feelings we had buried deep within us that quickly surfaces to the top as we open our mouth to pray.

Real prayers are not made for human ears….they are for God’s ears only. That when truth meets reality and reality needs a miracle.

“All he has is human strength, but we have the LORD our God, who will help us fight our battles!”

2 Chronicles 32:8 CEB

It’s God’s pleasure to create a way out of our confused mind. There is a Christ for every crisis.

When we are pushed against a wall – let’s not frustrate ourselves by kicking against the wall. The wall isn’t going to come tumbling down because of our frustration or anger. It’s our prayers that will move the hands of God.

God is on our side, we do not need to be afraid of the unknown. It is far more rewarding to talk with God when anxiety takes a hold on our minds than it is to pace the floor, or stare through the window into the darkness, or have a conversation with no listening audience.

There are some prayers that are not made for human ears….they are for God’s ears alone.

Thus says the Lord : “Cursed is the man who trusts in man and makes flesh his strength, whose heart turns away from the Lord .

Jeremiah 17:5

Sometimes God calms the storm, and sometimes He lets the storm rage and calms His child.

Never Let Her Go!

Strength has nothing to do with the way a woman looks.

☆ Strong women are great role models. They are not swayed by public opinion. Their values are not determined by their girlfriends or Desperate Housewives.

☆ Strong women juggle multiply roles in life… they know what they want and will go after it. They got lots more power than their lion knows about.

☆ A strong woman does not let rejection discourage her from doing anything. She gets up, accepts it, learns from it, and fights again. Her pain is silent.

☆ Strong women get past criticism. They know their worth and never competes for validation. Their pain is their motivation.

☆ Strong women can comfortably tell the truth about her past because its a candle that lights the way for others.

☆ Strong women turn houses into homes. A house is the structure we live in. A home is filled with memories. A wise woman makes her home and knows that without love, they are like birds without wings.

☆ Strong women become more selective as they get older. They know that some people will inspire or drain them so they choose wisely.

☆ Strong women fix each other’s crowns. They all have different things to do. The sun shines on everyone.

☆ Strong women are funny and they enjoy hanging out with people who make them laugh. There are millions of people who are dying because they are not laughing.

☆ Strong women do not need constant validation. They believe in what they do and go after it without hesitation. A Caterpillar never looks like a butterfly.

☆ Strong women have great relationships with their parents…they understand that sometimes they may need their hands to hold.

☆ Strong women turn wounds into wisdom. Mess into messages. Scars into stars. And curve balls into creativity.

Men, if the ladies in your life has some or all of these qualities, treat her well and never let her go.