Wednesday GROWN UP CONVERSATIONS with June Doyle

You are Valuable

If you don’t value yourself, then you will always be attracted to people who don’t value you either.

When someone makes themselves easily accessible, they repeatedly are attracted to the wrong people. Insecurity makes someone go from one relationship to the other – unfortunately with great ease without missing a beat. Insecure people never pause to consider that maybe they deserve better – they make themselves fairly happy in the misery.

On the other hand, a confident woman knows what she will accept and what she will not accept. She recognizes that being single is far better than remaining in a horrible relationship. A confident woman doesn’t set herself on fire to keep someone else warm.

We all deserve a relationship that never makes us have to guess where we stand in it. Long before you were born, God defined your worth from His perspective. He watched you being formed, and He put together every part of you in the womb. He recorded every day of your life–past, present, and future–before your mom ever heard your first cry.

Even in our brokenness God sees our worth and gives it value. He sees our pain and gives it purpose. He sees our need to be loved and gives us a bright future. It’s important that you live everyday knowing your worth. The dream you had yesterday – God has given you another day to work that dream.

Isaiah 53:2-7 tells us that there was nothing attractive about Jesus. He was looked down on and passed over. He suffered and knew pain firsthand and no one looked at Him. They thought He was scum, but the fact is – He was carrying our pains and all the things that were wrong with us. Never doubt that Jesus does not understand what you are going through because He does.

God is putting together every episode in your life to bring about your success story. God is more than enough even if no one else sees your worth. He saw you at your worst and still thinks the best of you. The words you hear becomes the house you live in. Change the way you think. Do it for yourself. Do it for your children. Do it for your success story.

PRAYER TIME: Dear God, thank you that you saw my brokenness and you give it value. Thank you that you saw my pain and give it purpose. I am whole in you. Today, I change my status from broken girl to  a healthy woman. Thank you for loving me unconditionally and showing me another way of thinking. In Jesus Name, Amen.

Tuesday GROWN UP CONVERSATIONS with June Doyle

Relationship is Essential

Everyone of us had a time in life when we wanted to breakdown and cry but pretended to be happy simply not to worry the people we care so much for. God created us to have relationships.

The LORD God made a woman from the rib He had taken out of man. It was God’s idea for humans to interact, learn to trust, support each other, and to build friendships.

Our relationship with God pretty much works the same. When we interact with God and learn to trust Him – He quiets our heart when we become anxious. Daily conversations with God produce faith even if He remains silent or immediately answers our prayers.

In my relationship with God I’ve found that His Peace is a priceless gift as many of my anxieties remain bottled up in vials before the Throne. It does not make me exasperated if I don’t immediately get all the answers I have been waiting for. It’s a TRUST FACTOR.

John 14:27 Jesus says, “ I’m leaving you well and whole. That’s my parting gift to you. Peace. I don’t leave you the way you’re used to being left—feeling abandoned, grieving. So, don’t be upset. Don’t be distraught.”

True relationships never leave you feeling abandoned, upset, or distraught.

Tony Gaskins Jr. says, “Ladies hear this – If a man isn’t following God, he isn’t fit to lead. If he doesn’t have a relationship with God, he won’t know how to have a relationship with you. If he doesn’t know God, he doesn’t know real love.”

Whether it’s God or a person you are in a relationship with – respect, trust, support, and daily dialogues survive the true test of times. The hymn says, ‘Can we find a friend so faithful who will all our sorrows share? Jesus knows our every weakness just take it to the Lord in prayer.’

God never leaves us the way He met us – we become whole with nothing missing. God sets the example for us to follow when looking for signs of a healthy relationship.

True love doesn’t make you feel abandoned. We were made in the image of God. Relationships are important so it makes sense that we should mimic everything that God has taught us.

It should be the benchmark in all relationships. No matter how long you have been waiting – do not rush ahead of God. Trust takes years to build and seconds to break.

If a man doesn’t have a relationship with God, he won’t know how to have a relationship with you. If you don’t have a relationship with God, you won’t know how to have a relationship with others. May our bad days keep us near to God and prove that He is good.

PRAYER TIME: Father, thank you for teaching me to understand how relationships work. You have never abandoned me and left me feeling misplaced. Let my relationship with You be so real that I will know when I am surrounded with healthy people who carries your image. In Jesus Name, Amen

GROWN UP CONVERSATIONS with June Doyle

Change your Mindset

If Satan can keep you believing everything your mind tells you he will keep roaming around looking for more junk food to put in your trunk.

Someone said, “A shark in a fish tank will grow 8 inches, but in the ocean, it will grow 8 feet or more. The shark will never outgrow its environment, and the same is true about you … change your environment and watch your growth.”

From today November 23 to December 31 there are 39 days remaining in the year 2020. For many people, the verdict is in that 2020 was the worst year they have ever seen, and they can’t wait for it to be over. There has been a lot of negative things to say about 2020 as many have said goodbye months ago like a couple caught in a bitter divorce.

Most people are anxiously waiting the arrival of 2021.

I absolutely agree that living during a pandemic is no fun but as everything else we have had to endure as grown ups – let’s keep vigil over our emotional health. Someone said, “The happiest people don’t have the best of everything, they just make the best of everything.”

What IF 2021 turns out to be a lot worse than 2020? No matter how hard 2020 is or was – we all must have something to be thankful for that wasn’t there at the end of 2019.

The truth is no one knows what 2021 is bringing so it’s ridiculous to put your confidence in 4 digits.

The hymn reminds us that ‘We have an anchor that keeps the soul. Steadfast and sure while the billows roll. Fastened to the Rock which cannot move. Grounded firm and deep in the Savior’s love.’

When your anchor is fastened to God regardless of how 2020 ends or whatever 2021 brings, you can rest assured in God’s arms – IT IS WELL. The strength of your anchor makes you feel calmer and more at ease while facing the unknown.

It’s unwise to put your confidence in 4 digits (2021). Our future depends where our anchor is fastened.

2 Corinthians 5:7 says, “For we walk by faith, not by sight.”

For the next 39 days of 2020 let’s confess – ‘I will walk step by step in faith into 2021.’  Be strong and fearless. Don’t say what others are saying. Inspire others to trust God and give thanks even if we can’t see what’s ahead.

Gratitude turns everything we have survived in 2020 into a miracle. There is always something to be grateful for.  Psalm 126:3 says, “The Lord hath done great things for us; whereof we are glad.”

If you have planted seeds of hope may you live long enough to reap the harvest. The opposite is true – if you plant seeds of despair you will not live long enough to fulfill your destiny.

PRAYER TIME: Father, let your peace rule my mind and help me to always to find something to be grateful for even in a pandemic I fasten my anchor to You, and I rest secure knowing that whatever befalls me it will be well. In Jesus Name, Amen

WEDNESDAY 3rd WEEK NOVEMBER GROWN UP CONVERSATIONS

Today’s Topic: Who’s holding YOUR hand?

God allows EVERYTHING we come face to face with to bring us closer to Him. He uses those difficult times to get our attention. When things are going great, we get on the merry go round. The weather in the neighborhood is perfect for laughter.

Unfortunately, when tragedy strikes – everyone pauses the music to run across town to request pray because the weather in the neighborhood has changed.

The reality is – God has left a void in our lives as humans and the reason is – people need the LORD in ALL seasons and more so when the music stops. A life without God is like an unmanned plane. Gliding for a while but heading for a crash.

The three most important days in your life are: the day you were born, the day you find out why and the day you die.  For most of us we would have already celebrated at least eighteen birthdays and counting. The challenge is the other two important days of our lives still need to be answered. Why were we born? Are we prepared to die?  

The purpose for us to be alive is not just to be happy. Happiness is an emotion that depends on many varied uncontrolled factors in life. A life without a bigger purpose is a life that has no meaning.

Someone said, “GOD without a man is still GOD. But a man WITHOUT GOD is NOTHING.”

The void that we try to fill with shopping, going on vacations, partying, purchasing houses and cars, and making new friends – have proven to be useless. The emptiness we feel on the inside is our need for a relationship with God. God never takes something away from you without replacing it with something more worthwhile.

It might be interesting to look around at our circle of friends, family members, and our own lives and see if we can find one person who is living a life free of challenges.

This pandemic has changed the entire world forever. It’s not “magically going away” and is now part of our daily life and will remain so for a very long time as the death rates soar higher and higher by the hour. Without question, it takes courage and stamina to face the times in which we live. But one fact is clear – God wants to do life with us, and the longer we come to realize this – is the more heartbreaks we will continue to encounter.

With God’s help, we can do more than just survive. We can actually do life proving what it is to follow the Lord with confidence and serve Him fearlessly. You don’t have to ask God – Why me? Why me? Instead we can say – when my days get dark Precious Lord, hold my hand lest I fall. Through the storm, through the night, take my hand, precious Lord, lead me on.

My friends, the question is, “Who’s holding your hands when you’re tired and worn out?” There’s no pain that God cannot heal. With God’s help, we can do more than just survive. We can count on the Lord to be a very present help in the time of trouble.

PRAYER TIME: Dear God, please take my hand and help me not to be afraid of the darkness all around me. Thank you that I do not have to do life alone. In Jesus Name, Amen

TUESDAY 3rd WEEK NOVEMBER GROWN UP CONVERSATIONS

Don’t feed the Monkeys

An overactive mind is like being the ringmaster in a circus. The ringmaster introduces the different acts in a circus show and the juggling of thoughts is one of the most common performances in the circus. Yes, it’s our circus and our monkeys. Their names are Doubt, Worry, Guilt, Shame, and Overthinking. These are just a few of the best trained monkeys that perform at every show.

An overactive brain is a scattered brain, and it gets pretty tricky like untrained monkeys when they steal our hat (thoughts), shoes (future), food (health), and camera (focus). Fortunately, you’re the ringmaster so every monkey (thought) can be trained.

The inner voice that constantly analyzes everything about your life, circumstances, and the people you interact with – must be pulled down making them obedient to the voice of Jesus Christ.

Quit trying to reason things out when your brain is acting unreasonable.

God always presents a PLOT TWIST at every show:

Isaiah 35:4-7 says, Tell fearful souls, “Courage! Take heart! God is here, right here, on his way to put things right and redress all wrongs. He’s on his way! He’ll save you!”

Isaiah 46:4 says, “And I’ll keep on carrying you when you’re old. I’ll be there, bearing you when you’re old and gray. I’ve done it and will keep on doing it, carrying you on my back, saving you.”

Matthew 6:26: “Look at the birds of the air; they neither sow nor reap nor gather into barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not of more value than they?” And one of them shall not fall on the ground without your Father. But the very hairs of your head are all numbered. Fear ye not therefore, ye are of more value than many sparrows.”

Why should we feel anxious when the monkeys start jumping and flipping in our mind? Are you not more valuable to God than those doubts, fear, guilt, shame that bombards our every thought? Know that Jesus is your portion for every thought that disturbs your peace.

A prayer a day keeps the monkeys away. God is a constant Friend. His eye is on the sparrow, and I know He watches over you and me. Sing your fears away. Pray those monkeys away.

One prayer will send a thousand of untrained monkey thoughts away.

God never intended for us to do life alone. “Let not your heart be troubled,” One day at a time that’s all God requires of us to live. Tomorrow has its own troubles. Stop feeding the monkeys.

God is fully capable of doing a far better job than any investigation. Stop sighing and allow hope to fill your heart. Let us draw  closer to God and begin to breathe again.

PRAYER TIME: Lord, thank you that my life is in your hand. I will not panic and rush into overthinking. Teach me to stand in confidence knowing that you will  take care of all that concerns me.  In Jesus Name, Amen

MONDAY 3rd WEEK NOVEMBER GROWN UP CONVERSATIONS

Today’s Topic: Stop Touching the Wound

When we were children, we dramatized every minor cut. Our mothers would tell us –“Stop touching the cut!” A mother knows that for the healing process to take place naturally you need to stop touching the cut if not – it will become infected making it a lengthy recovery.

So, my beloved – to heal a hurt, you simply need to stop touching it.

That pain that’s tearing you apart – stop revisiting it over and over again. As we trust Jesus Christ as our true healer, we will find He gives us special grace, and our pain turns to courage.

The scars are reminders that you have survived your deepest wounds and came out stronger. Be relentless in your faith in God and His grace will prove to be sufficient.

The world needs more heroes and less wounded victims.

John 5:2-9 – Hundreds of sick people—blind, crippled, paralyzed—were in these cubicles. One man had been crippled for thirty-eight years. When Jesus saw him stretched out by the pool and knew how long he had been there, he said to him – “Do you want to get well?”

The sick man said, “Sir, when the water is stirred, I don’t have anybody to put me in the pool. By the time I get there, somebody else is already in.”

Jesus said, “Get up, take your mat and start walking.”

The Bible says that the man was healed on the spot. He picked up his mat and walked away. Your life and my life will be much easier and lighter if you didn’t have to carry around our pain.

Jesus still asks the same question today – “Do you want to get well?”

God promises to turn fear into faith and courage.

Do you want to get well? Follow the instructions – Get up from your place of pain and have faith in God. Make your way to Jesus even if you are stumbling through the tears that make you blind. Wounds sometimes are so painful that there are no words to express how you truly feel but I can confidently tell you that God can interpret those tears.

Don’t be angry. God will find you in your darkest moments. His love is overwhelming when you sit in His presence. You will feel strength coming back into your spirit giving you hope. It’s not the end – it’s actually the beginning of a new season. Don’t become a prisoner of war to the pain that held your attention for years. Pick yourself up and allow healing to take place.

God daily renews our hopes and heals our bodies. God decided how many stars there would be in the sky and gave each one a name. He knows your name and has already positioned you for your healing. God understands everything. He wants to help.

PRAYER TIME: Father, thank You for healing my wounds. Today, I choose to walk in your healing knowing that my best days are now here.  In Jesus Name, Amen.

Be Happy

We’ve come to the end of another week. There are 6 weeks and 5 days until the end of 2020. Through it all we all can say ‘There’s still so much to be thankful for.’

Life can be tough but so are we. Whatever you decide to do make sure you’re happy. Life is better when we’re laughing.

It’s time to laugh again

Take time to laugh again. Cheers to a wonderful fun filled weekend.

THURSDAY 2nd November GROWN UP CONVERSATIONS

Hold the Bat and Swing

We all have had the experience of enjoying quiet days, and then, without warning, some crisis happens, and it demands a different you to deal with it. The only way to avoid getting knocked over is to take a big leap of faith believing God that no matter how much it hurts now, one day you will look back and realize there was purpose in the pain.

There’s a reason why the rear-view mirror is so small, and the windscreen is so big – it’s because what has happened in your past is not nearly as important as what’s in your future. How you react to the unexpected – shows your level of trust in God. Psalms 112:7 says, “He is not afraid of receiving bad news; his faith is strong, and he trusts in the LORD.”

God asks us to trust Him not to go figure it out. As humans, we take pride in becoming first responders. We are the act now and think later generation. Never allow a crisis to turn you into a person you will later regret. No matter how bad a situation maybe – it will change. I’m not telling you it’s going to be easy but what I am telling you is to keep your faith strong and have confidence in God.

Your smallest effort to stay calm in the middle of a crisis is a lot better than thinking too much.

The songwriter writes “O what peace we often forfeit, O what needless pain we bear, all because we do not carry everything to God in prayer.”

When fear and uncertainty pound at your heart late in the midnight hour take that time to talk things over with God. It’s better than scrolling through social media or picking up the phone to talk to anyone. Don’t let anyone rent space in your head, unless they’re a good paying tenant.

Quote: “Tell the negative committee that meets inside your head to sit down and shut up.”

On your worst days there are the same twenty-four hours as your good days. Things will get better otherwise you and I would not be alive today. There isn’t enough room in your mind for both worry and faith. You must decide which one gets to stay. With God, one day is as good as a thousand years, a thousand years as a day.

Hold On! Help is coming! God isn’t late as some folks may think – He’s running right on schedule. Don’t quit! Somebody is praying for you and you will make it through this.

Quote: “Life kept handing me all these curve balls. Then God handed me a bat and taught me how to swing.”

PRAYER TIME: LORD, on my worst days help me to remember that You are with me. When I’ve done everything I can do, You promise me You will step in and do what I can’t do. I thank You that You will move me from a low place to a high place. In Jesus Name, Amen.