May 6 GROWN UP CONVERSATIONS

You are in the right place at the right time. Grown Up Conversations takes you on a journey where we put away childish behavior and start having grownup conversations.

With Mother’s Day just three days away I’m taking the opportunity to celebrate all mothers today. A mother’s job is never done because the housework and raising children never ends.

Mom is the most important person in a child’s life where it first started in the womb. How she loves her child has a ripple effect on his or her life forever.

Mothers, you are doing a great job. All your kids need is to be loved by you. You are doing better than you think you are. It’s okay if you feel like you are losing it sometimes. God is merciful, He will sustain you.

No one is as perfect as it appears on social media. You are not alone in the anxiety hoping you’re doing it right. God loves you, and no harm will befall you or your children.

God knows you are always thinking and praying for your children even your adult children that are out there making unwise choices. He equips you with the strength to see the best in each child even though it gets pretty scary at times.

He will continue to clothe you with strength and dignity, and you will laugh again. Don’t lose sight of your purpose and relationship with God as a Mother. Worship Him at all times in spite of what may be going on in your life.

Here’s a story of a Mother’s sacrifice from 1Kings 3:16-27. It’s a story of two prostitutes who came to the king. One of them said, “This woman and I live in the same house, and I had a baby while she was there with me. The third day after my child was born, this woman also had a baby. We were alone; there was no one in the house but the two of us.

“During the night this woman’s son died because she lay on him. So she got up in the middle of the night and took my son from my side while I your servant was asleep. She put him by her breast and put her dead son by my breast.

The next morning, I got up to nurse my son—and he was dead! But when I looked at him closely in the morning light, I saw that it wasn’t the son I had borne.”

The other woman said, “No! The living one is my son; the dead one is yours.”

But the first one insisted, “No! The dead one is yours; the living one is mine.” And so they argued before the king.

The king said, “This one says, ‘My son is alive, and your son is dead,’ while that one says, ‘No! Your son is dead and mine is alive.”

Then the king said, “Bring me a sword.” So, they brought a sword for the king. He then gave an order: “Cut the living child in two and give half to one and half to the other.”

The woman whose son was alive was deeply moved out of love for her son and said to the king, “Please, my lord, give her the living baby! Don’t kill him!”

But the other said, “Neither I nor you shall have him. Cut him in two!”

Then the king gave his ruling: “Give the living baby to the first woman. Do not kill him; she is his mother.”

Lesson: Only a real mother feels the pain of watching her child being destroyed by outside forces.

HAPPY MOTHER’S DAY TO ALL THE MOTHERS WHO ARE THE REAL MVPS OF THE FAMILY.

YOU HAVE POURED YOUR HEARTS AND SOUL AND HARD WORK INTO MAKING THIS WORLD A BETTER PLACE. THANK YOU!

PRAYER TIME: Father, thank you for all mothers. On this Mother’s Day, please give all mothers the grace and the strength she needs to do the best she can as faces many discouraging moments. In the Jesus Name, Amen

Do your best and let God do the rest. Have a fabulous Mother’s Day 🌹

MAY 5 GROWN UP CONVERSATIONS

Proverbs Wednesday

Proverbs 1 Contemporary English Version

How Proverbs Can Be Used

These are the proverbs of King Solomon of Israel, the son of David.

Proverbs will teach you wisdom and self-control and how to understand sayings with deep meanings.

You will learn what is right and honest and fair.

From these, an ordinary person can learn to be smart, and young people can gain knowledge and good sense. If you are already wise, you will become even wiser. And if you are smart, you will learn to understand proverbs and sayings, as well as words of wisdom and all kinds of riddles.

Respect and obey the Lord! This is the beginning of knowledge. Only a fool rejects wisdom and good advice.

Warnings against Bad Friends

My child, obey the teachings of your parents, and wear their teachings as you would a lovely hat or a pretty necklace. Don’t be tempted by sinners or listen when they say, “Come on! Let’s gang up and kill somebody, just for the fun of it! They’re well and healthy now, but we’ll finish them off once and for all. We’ll take their valuables and fill our homes with stolen goods. If you join our gang, you’ll get your share.”

Don’t follow anyone like that or do what they do. They are in a big hurry to commit some crime, perhaps even murder. They are like a bird that sees the bait but ignores the trap. They gang up to murder someone, but they are the victims. The wealth you get from crime robs you of your life.

Wisdom Speaks

Wisdom shouts in the streets wherever crowds gather. She shouts in the marketplaces and near the city gates as she says to the people, “How much longer will you enjoy being stupid fools? Won’t you ever stop sneering and laughing at knowledge?

Listen as I correct you and tell you what I think.

You completely ignored me and refused to listen; you rejected my advice and paid no attention when I warned you.

“So when you are struck by some terrible disaster, or when trouble and distress surround you like a whirlwind, I will laugh and make fun. You will ask for my help, but I won’t listen; you will search, but you won’t find me.

No, you would not learn, and you refused to respect the Lord. You rejected my advice and paid no attention when I warned you.

“Now you will eat the fruit of what you have done, until you are stuffed full with your own schemes. Sin and self-satisfaction bring destruction and death to stupid fools. But if you listen to me, you will be safe and secure without fear of disaster.”

May 4 GROWN UP CONVERSATIONS

Hearts Without God

Life without God leads to family conflicts, misbehaviour at schools spilling over in the community, abuse, broken laws, street gangs, murder, heartless neighbors and a complete breakdown in society. Life without God leads to a meaningless life. Anyone without God is poor whether you are the richest man on the Forbes List or the displaced citizen on the street. Seven days without God makes one weak.

If the message of the love of Christ is unclear to anyone it’s not because someone is not speaking loud and clear. It’s because people have chosen to pursue their selfish desires refusing to give any serious attention to the things of God. 

2 Corinthians 4:4 says, “The god who rules this world has blinded the minds of unbelievers. They cannot see the light, which is the good news about our glorious Christ, who shows what God is like.” Yes, there is a god who rules this world, and he has blinded the minds of those who refuses to give God a second thought.

I believe the Bible and the Bible says that the god of this world blinds people’s minds so they will not want to hear about God. I don’t know about you, but I am not allowing the god of this world to blind my eyes. The people who are blinded to the things of God often ask – “Where is God when it hurts? Where is God when so many people are dying with COVID19?

You can’t ignore God when life is great and when tragedy hits home you expect Him to magically appear. You either need Jesus to be the center of your home and your personal life or live with the consequences of a life without Jesus.

Proverbs 19:21 “Many are the plans in the mind of a man, but it is the purpose of the Lord that will stand.”

Ask Coronavirus who can command it to go away? The scientists have tried, the laws have changed, people everywhere are lockdown, and yet no human has proven to have the power to lockdown Mr. and Mrs. Coronavirus.

2 Chronicles 7:14 says, “If my people, who are called by my name, shall humble themselves, and pray, and seek my face, and turn from their wicked ways; then will I hear from heaven, and will forgive their sin, and will heal their land.”

George Washington said, “It’s impossible to rightly govern a nation without God and the Bible.” Put God back into our homes, schools, government places, court rooms, and anywhere the buck stops.

God without you is still God. You without God is powerless.

You are responsible for your life, your belief, your feelings, your choices, your consequences, your growth or lack thereof, and your home.

Remember the Lord, who is great and awesome, and fight for your families, your sons and your daughters, your wives and your homes.

Finally, keep God in your home, your relationships, and in your heart and He will command His angels to keep watch over you.

PRAYER TIME: Father, from our heart to the Heaven be the center of our lives. In Jesus Name, Amen

May 3 GROWN UP CONVERSATIONS

Roll with the Punches.

It’s never the strongest person who survives whatever life throws at them but those who God gives the peace to accept the things they cannot change.

We’ve got to learn to roll with the punches making the most of everything that comes our way. There’s a quote I love “The same boiling water that softens the potato hardens the egg.” When a potato is boiled, it becomes soft but when an egg is boiled, the opposite happens!

Life is how you deal with the punches.

Google says that newborn giraffes enter the world in a sort of ‘superman’ position. Their front legs and head come out first, followed by their body, and then back legs. The entire calf appears as the giraffe tumbles ten feet to the ground and lands on its back. Within seconds the baby rolls over and stands struggling to move its awkward and untried legs.

The mother positions herself directly over her newborn calf, looks it over, kicks it, and sends it sprawling. If it doesn’t get up, she kicks it again. And when it grows tired of the struggle, she kicks it again to stimulate its effort to stand. In fact, every time the baby manages to get to its feet, the mother kicks it again.

It may look and feel cruel to be kicked or knocked down time after time, but you are actually learning to move into survival mode like the giraffe and her young one. Unless you learn to get up quickly and be courageous when danger comes, you won’t survive.  The Bible reinforces that good people fall seven times, but they will get back up.

Willpower and determination are your best friends on any given day. So be tough and bounce back. God is not unfair to watch you deal with the complexities of life and not have a better plan in place. The warrior in you will rise again.

Her actions may seem cruel, but she is preparing her young calf for survival. Unless the little calf learns to get up quickly and run with the herd when danger comes, it won’t survive.

AHA MOMENT: When life knocks you down, let’s do it the giraffe way. You have to be knocked down lower than you have ever been to stand up taller than you were before. There’s no time for pity parties.

Life has certainly thrown many curve balls at us and we all have experienced unbearable sadness that we wouldn’t even pray for our enemies to experience … but… be encouraged that your comeback will be greater. The longer you stay down it’s the harder it is to get back up. So GET UP and GO AGAIN!

Proverbs 24:16 says, “Even if good people fall seven times, they will get back up. But when trouble strikes the wicked, that’s the end of them.”

Being resilient doesn’t mean you don’t have doubts and fears, but you don’t allow your emotions to stop your journey.

PRAYER TIME: Father, let wisdom and understanding fill our heart and mind with priceless truths from your Word. If we fall seven times, we will get back up. In Jesus Name, Amen

Reminder: Being resilient doesn’t mean you don’t have doubts and fears, but you don’t allow your emotions to stop your journey. It’s time to get up and roll with the punches.

APRIL 29 GROWN UP CONVERSATIONS

Reset. Restart. Refocus.

Every day we get a new opportunity to try something new. No one can make you happy unless you decide to be happy. It’s a privilege to be alive, to breathe, to think, and to even make mistakes and learn from them. As we grow older, we will have to get rid of baggage we have accumulated over the years. Holding grudges deprive you of enjoying your best life.

When things change inside of you then the things around you will change. Fighting the same old battles and being negative only make the next steps more difficult. Someone said, “You may be given a cactus, but you don’t have to sit on it.” Every day we must make a conscious decision not to overthink anything that causes emotional stress.

Ready for your new beginning? Here are a couple scriptures you can read and pray over your life.

ISAIAH 43:18-19 – “Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past. See, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs up; do you not perceive it? I am making a way in the wilderness and streams in the wasteland.”

Start everyday by refusing to replay negative experiences. Things don’t always go as planned but with faith in God, we can make it through the hardest times. Prayer is the best medicine to calm a trouble mind.

2 CORINTHIANS 4:16-17 – “Therefore, we do not lose heart. Though outwardly we are wasting away, yet inwardly we are being renewed day by day. For our light and momentary troubles are achieving for us an eternal glory that far outweighs them all.”

Do not lose heart. God is not asking you to figure it all out. When you do life with God, He gives you an inward peace that far outweighs what’s happening around you. Everyday make a step that will lead you closer to depending on God.

C.S. Lewis says, “You are never too old to set another goal or to dream another dream.”

Adulting is accepting the fact that you ended up with a stack of broken bricks and suddenly realizing you can build a tower overlooking a beautiful skyline. Someone said, “If the plan doesn’t work, change the plan but never the goal.”

The goal is, no matter how hard the past is, there’s a new beginning. Every day is a new beginning, take a deep breath and start again this time with God. Purpose in your heart to never start a new day holding grudges against anyone. Let them go.

One of the most courageous decision anyone can do on any given day is to finally let go of whatever is hurting.  There are healthy and unhealthy thoughts … the good thing is we get to make the choice best suited for where we are heading.

Satan loves to take everything that is beautiful and destroy it. God loves to take what’s hurting and make it beautiful. The choice is yours.

PRAYER TIME: Father, thank you for new beginnings. Thank you for strength to move on as you daily bless us with peace. In Jesus Name, Amen

REMINDER: Reset. Restart. Refocus. Adulting is accepting the fact that you ended up with a stack of broken bricks and suddenly realizing you can build a tower overlooking a beautiful skyline.  Keep Christ in your life.

APRIL 28 GROWN UP CONVERSATIONS

Psalms Wednesday

Psalms 25

Unto thee, O Lord, do I lift up my soul. O my God, I trust in thee: let me not be ashamed, let not mine enemies triumph over me. Yea, let none that wait on thee be ashamed: let them be ashamed which transgress without cause.

Shew me thy ways, O Lord; teach me thy paths. Lead me in thy truth, and teach me: for thou art the God of my salvation; on thee do I wait all the day.

Remember, O Lord, thy tender mercies and thy loving kindnesses; for they have been ever of old. Remember not the sins of my youth, nor my transgressions: according to thy mercy remember thou me for thy goodness’ sake, O Lord.

Good and upright is the Lord: therefore will he teach sinners in the way. The meek will he guide in judgment: and the meek will he teach his way.

All the paths of the Lord are mercy and truth unto such as keep his covenant and his testimonies. For thy name’s sake, O Lord, pardon mine iniquity; for it is great.

What man is he that feareth the Lord? him shall he teach in the way that he shall choose. His soul shall dwell at ease; and his seed shall inherit the earth. The secret of the Lord is with them that fear him; and he will shew them his covenant.

Mine eyes are ever toward the Lord; for he shall pluck my feet out of the net.

Turn thee unto me and have mercy upon me; for I am desolate and afflicted. The troubles of my heart are enlarged: O bring thou me out of my distresses. Look upon mine affliction and my pain; and forgive all my sins. Consider mine enemies; for they are many; and they hate me with cruel hatred.

O keep my soul and deliver me: let me not be ashamed; for I put my trust in thee.

Let integrity and uprightness preserve me; for I wait on thee.

Redeem Israel, O God, out of all his troubles.

Psalms 150

Praise ye the Lord. Praise God in his sanctuary: praise him in the firmament of his power. Praise him for his mighty acts: praise him according to his excellent greatness.

Praise him with the sound of the trumpet: praise him with the psaltery and harp. Praise him with the timbrel and dance: praise him with stringed instruments and organs. Praise him upon the loud cymbals: praise him upon the high-sounding cymbals.

Let every thing that hath breath praise the Lord. Praise ye the Lord.

APRIL 27 GROWN UP CONVERSATIONS

Faith Under Pressure

Life many times shakes all of us to the core. We’ve been surrounded and battered by troubles, and many times we’re not sure what to do. We face the nightmares of losing loved ones, losing our jobs, marriages are hanging on by a thread, and literally a host of doom and gloom events. Many times, our lives feel like trusting a ‘stranger’ at midnight in an unknown city to take us safely to grandma’s home.

As much as we would love to hide our fear and uncertainty the reality is, they just cannot be hidden. We cannot bluff our way through life. When we lose courage, it leaves unpleasant memories lingering in our mind never knowing when it will all come to an end.  

What do you do when you don’t know what to do? What do you say when there’s nothing to say? The truth is you can’t live with uncertainty it is emotionally draining. Everything on earth is temporary with many moving parts. We will never fully understand the process, but we simply have to trust the wisdom of God.

We have an anchor that keeps the soul. Steadfast and sure while the billows roll. Fastened to the Rock which cannot move. Grounded firm and deep in the Savior’s love. Will your anchor hold in the storms of life? God never disappoints anyone who places their trust in Him. Whenever life is interrupted by unforeseen circumstances, the anchor is activated, and we cannot move.

Many of us are either going through, coming out of a difficult situation or walking into the eye of a storm but when under pressure our faith is fastened to the Rock Christ Jesus.

James 1: 2-4 says, “Consider it a sheer gift, friends, when tests and challenges come at you from all sides. You know that under pressure, your faith-life is forced into the open and shows its true colors. So don’t try to get out of anything prematurely. Let it do its work, so you become mature and well-developed, not deficient in any way.”

It takes tests and challenges to push us into another level of faith maturity. No one can get full blown faith without the challenges of life. Faith in God cannot grow any other way. Stop asking God why and begin thanking Him for the tests as it is impossible to please God without faith. Jesus said that in this world we will have trouble. But take heart!

Noah built a ship in the middle of dry land. He was warned about something he couldn’t see and acted on what he was told. The result? His family was saved. When you learn to rely on God above everything else, He will sustain and keep you in all circumstances. Your cry brings you right into God’s presence where angels will attend to your cry.

PRAYER TIME: Father, thank you for the opportunities you have given to us to increase our faith. When we are under pressure let our faith prove that we are anchored to the Solid Rock of Christ. In Jesus Name, Amen

Faith under pressure increases our intimacy with the Heavenly Father. The true you surface when you are under pressure. Trust God even if no one else will.

April 26 GROWN UP CONVERSATIONS

TODAY’S TOPIC: DON’T WALK ALONE

I believe we all know Psalms 23 The Lord is my shepherd …
Let’s get the conversation started with Psalms 23 in the light of the pandemic.

The years 2020 and 2021 so far have hit us like a tsunami leaving us traumatized with the impact and aftermath of this deadly virus.

Here are some reassuring facts about our Good Shepherd:

  • A shepherd is a person who protects, guides, and watches over sheep. His main responsibility is the safety and welfare of those under his care keeping a watchful eye out for poisonous stuff that can harm his flock.
  • The Lord is our shepherd. He is our personal Shepherd. He got it all figured out how we will find the strength to handle the varied emotions that we battle with each and every day.

The Bible says that the secret of the Lord is with those who fear Him. As sheep it’s important that we recognize the voice of our shepherd and listen to His secrets.

Our brains are wired to pay more attention to unpleasant news. So, as sheep we must pay close attention to the secrets of our shepherd.

We are constantly under the watchful eyes of the good Shepherd. The job of the shepherd is to care for the sheep until he is confident to walk again.

The Book of Luke tells a parable – “Which of you men, if you had one hundred sheep, and lost one of them, wouldn’t leave the ninety-nine in the wilderness, and go after the one that was lost, until he found it? When he has found it, he carries it on his shoulders, rejoicing.”

You are God’s personal concern. Resist the urge to think that God does not see your wounded heart or hear your midnight cries. Instead, quiet your heart. He sees when your mind goes wandering and He will quiet your heart besides the still waters. He shields you with His rod of protection.

Can a sheep survive alone? I have seen videos of a single lost sheep being cared for by other animals. The lone sheep eventually picks up the habits and mannerisms of the other animals.

The Psalmist David calls us sheep. We are not created to do life alone. Our circle should be likeminded influencing each other to remain under the care of the Good Shepherd.

I read an article once about a dumb sheep having a conversation with a shepherd. The dumb sheep blurted out, “What are you griping about, I almost drowned in the pond?” Shocked at hearing the Sheep speak, the Shepherd asked the sheep why he was in the pond in the first place, “Don’t you know sheep can’t swim?”

Lesson: You are a sheep. You cannot survive if you keep wandering around in places where there is no Shepherd.

You are a sheep. Sheep needs a Shepherd.
The closer we are to the Shepherd the safer we are from deadly diseases.

PRAYER TIME: Father, we thank you that you are the good Shepherd that keeps watch over us day and night during this great pandemic. We will not be afraid of evil news our hearts are fixed in you. In Jesus Name, Amen

Final thought: You don’t have to be in control or feel in control because Jesus the Good Shepherd is always in control.