Two people will not walk together unless they have agreed to do so…in life you will meet two kinds of people. Ones who will build you up, and ones who will tear you down. But life has taught me that if you are smart enough, you can learn from both kinds of people.
Let’s look at those who build you up. They are the kind of people who inspire you and motivate you. They want the best for you. They dream with you and hold your hand in agreement when you need encouragement. They bring out the good in you. They are proud of you, and everyone knows you are friends. They lovingly and secretly correct you if you went wrong. They aren’t afraid to cheer you on in front of the world. People who walk in agreement with you, build bridges for you along the way to ease your weariness . They look for new ways to inspire you so you don’t quit or walk away from your dream. In the end, their encouragement leaves you inspired to help others make it to their destiny.
What about the folks who tear you down? The first lesson you will learn from them is – what not to do. It’s amazing how much you can learn from people who tear you down. There are some people who always seem angry and always looking for a fight – you must learn to quietly walk away without offending them. Many times the fight isn’t about you, but ongoing battles in their personal lives. You cannot help anyone who doesn’t see their needs. Lifeguards are trained to help those who are drowning and has given up. The weight of carrying a person depends on their willingness to get help. Then, there are people who are committed to misunderstanding you irregardless of how much you have tried to explain yourself to them – don’t waste your time. It’s really okay to walk away from confrontations, unhealthy and toxic relationships. Lesson – learn what not to do.
Our sole responsibility in dealing with people is – never disrespect or humiliate anyone. Remain classy as long as you can, and learn to walk away when that relationship no longer serves you. Two persons cannot walk together unless they have agreed to do so. Good relationships bring out the good in everyone. Bad relationships are those you avoid as much as possible.
Louis C.K says, “When a person tells you that you hurt them, you don’t get to decide that you didn’t.”
Another great relationship quote I rely on when decoding a healthy relationship – “True friends fight for you. They include you. Encourage you. Need you. Deserve you. Stand by you.”
Don’t become a victim of a bad relationship. You deserve to be happy and to fulfill your destiny. Your relationship elevator should be able to stop on every floor. There are some relationships that end on the bottom floor, and then there are those that go up to the higher floors. You are the only person who decides the level of the relationship you keep with others.