Confidence is based on the level and years of a close relationship you have had with someone. Let’s say, you met a complete stranger at Niagara Falls. The both of you have agreed to enjoy a fun evening of dinner and dance. After spending the evening with you, he surprises you with a wedding proposal on bended knees with all the bells and whistles of a good gentleman – will you say ‘Yes’? Think about this while I move on to another scenario…. A well dressed professionally clad gentlemen is waiting behind you to be checked in at the Airline counter – you are seeing him for the first time. Both of you begin chitchating to pass the waiting time. After finding out a little about each other, it turns out that you both are traveling to the same destination and will be in Business Class, sitting one row apart. He politely asks you to check in one of his extra bags under your name to avoid him paying the extra cost of the bag – will you say ‘Yes’? Hmmmm…..
I am hoping based on your intellect and instinct you would have firmly responded with a resounding ‘No’ to both scenarios stated above. Why? No relationship = No confidence = No action
Relationships are usually formed from the time you met the person to about three years of knowing each other. Relationships can be either healthy or unhealthy. Unhealthy relationships create mistrust and negative vibes leading to a no-confidence vote in the person. Healthy relationships are those that have been tested and tried over some time, and have proven to be rock solid through it all. Building trust and confidence in people takes time/years, not hours.
**** Note carefully, the following part of my blog continues to deal with my topic today – No relationship = No confidence = No action.
Frequently asked Questions:
- I think God does not like me because He would have answered my prayers? Is it a relationship issue?
- Why would a good loving God send people to Hell? Is it a relationship issue?
1. I think God doesn’t like me because He never answers my prayers:
Based on what was discussed in the previous paragraphs ….therefore it’s really all about a relationship bond with the person you are asking for help. Without a RELATIONSHIP there will always be a trust factor questioning the integrity of the both parties. If an individual never read God’s Word NOR have not even attempted to have a RELATIONSHIP with God, how can that person say, God doesn’t answer their prayers? How do they know God’s voice?
How do you know when God is speaking? Does it have anything to do with God? Absolutely NOT! When we pray, we pray in faith believing that God answers our prayers based on our RELATIONSHIP with God. The only way you can know God’s voice is by learning His voice. RELATIONSHIP always bring a bonding element between two persons where you can distinguish your friend’s voice sometimes from a distance.
When someone doesn’t have a relationship with God, there will always be a no confidence vote in God leading up to a no action by God. Therefore, it’s not about God but really about our refusal to have a relationship with Him.
Two men in the Bible that are known for their faith are Abraham and Moses. Both of them were known for their INTIMATE RELATIONSHIP with God. Abraham was called THE FRIEND OF GOD. Moses spoke with God face to face as a man speaks to HIS FRIEND. Both saw God do miraculous things in their times. This proves it’s all about the RELATIONSHIP that make things happen and work in your favor. This is a great time to ask God to have a relationship with Him.
2. Why would a good loving God send people to Hell?
I’ve got great news for you. God died for ALL OUR SINS EVERYDAY and EVERYTIME we do wrong – so we can have be free from the burden and guilt of our sins. This is about a RELATIONSHIP….God doesn’t want anyone of us to perish in Hell. He’s gone ahead of us to prepare a place in Heaven for us. Our acknowledgement of our sins and seeking God’s forgiveness gives us everlasting life.
Why then, would anyone choose to REJECT a LOVING GOD? NO RELATIONSHIP = NO ACTION. This right here should be our rebuttal to anyone who asks us, how can a loving good God send people to Hell? GOD DOES NOT SEND ANYONE TO HELL, it’s our REJECTION of a loving God that sends a person to HELL. It’s never about doubting God’s love, but it’s always about our decisions to either delay or to refuse having a personal RELATIONSHIP with God. This is what really matters.
HELL is, “But for the cowardly, the faithless, the vile, the murderers, those who commit sexual immorality, those who use drugs and cast spells, the idolaters and all liars—their share will be in the lake that burns with fire and sulfur. This is the second death.” Revelation 21:8 CEB
First death is natural. It’s our final day here on earth.
Second death as noted above is HELL. It’s a lake that burns with fire and sulphur. It’s prepared for those who have rejected God’s love here on earth.