Body language is so hard to fake. I’ve always been one who is a bit wary, and cautious of spoken words. The older you get is the wiser you should become. Every day life should teach you unforgettable lessons. Choose your friends based on the unique footprints/memories they leave behind. Love the people who treat you right.
NOTE to SELF: Always remember, someone’s effort is a reflection of their interest in you. No one is really busy if you are one of their priorities.
Whenever I have come to the end of my day – I lie quietly in bed processing the things that either I heard, read, seen, or felt during my waking hours. I work on my thoughts/memories to detoxify any negative feelings or relationships in my life. I enjoy reflecting on my day. Yes, I am a deep thinker, unlike my husband who can fall asleep at the drop of a hat. Maybe, it’s the Men are from Mars – Women are from Venus syndrome.
I would like to consider myself a good reader of non-verbal communication. I am more inclined to observing people’s actions more than I trust their spoken word or written messages. Why? Because it’s easier for anyone to write or say things that they think will make you feel happy than it is for them to hide their true feelings about you face to face.
Personally, I’ve had some very awkward experiences during social events with unfamiliar people. I would either stumble on my words or I become so nervous that my words get frozen in mid-air. Can I hear the word ‘awkward’ loud and clear? Yep, those were my most embarrassing moments. After, I would worry about how they view me.
My non-verbal communication in a socially awkward situation made me look like an introvert or someone who doesn’t fit into the mold. But for those who know me well, knows that I’m the complete opposite of being an introvert. But honestly- I cannot fault anyone because ….my Communication or lack of – plus my Body Language were hard to fake. I was just NOT comfortable with the crowd.
So, how do you really feel when you are in a familiar setting? When someone speaks to you, watch their actions. If someone makes you laugh till you cry, stay close to them. Chances are they care a great deal about your happiness. People may not always tell you how they feel about you, but they will definitely show you, so pay close attention.
I’ve been blessed to have some great people in my life. Maybe, I can count them all on my both hands …but wait a moment – No, I didn’t really count….because it’s more important to me to have real friendships, than have lots of friends. These are the people in my life who have PROVED that they were there for me before I even knew there may be a need. There were no written nor verbal agreements, but solid friendships. They are the ones who will daily call to check in on me and they will not give up until they reach me on ANY of my numbers. No matter how busy folks are, if they honestly care about you, they will find the time for you.
True friends will DANCE with you in the middle of the streets to NO MUSIC and think it’s COMPLETELY NORMAL. The most beautiful thing about writing on this topic is that right now they are smiling while reading – that’s the TRUE power of non-verbal communication.
- I don’t just listen to words because it takes little thought sometimes to speak
- I find it more interesting to observe people’s facial expressions
- I check body language
- I listen to tone
- I take note of words
- I watch what is not said
- I watch when they clap
- I watch when they don’t clap