Last year, all my blogs were written in the wee hours of the morning because my life style was fast paced leaving little time for me to gather my thoughts. So I had to find some quiet time after my world was asleep and before I got into bed to write. This was my passion, therefore I didn’t count the cost. To me – it was my selfish alone time to do something I love …priceless.
This year however, started off with numerous inspirations that kept pumping into my heart during the Christmas break. I was excited with every nugget of inspiration that was now freely flowing like waves into my spirit. January 9th took like forever for me to start back my blogging. It showed me the importance of taking breaks in life. You become refreshed and reenergized.
My blog today is dedicated to my friend of 20 years. She has been battling Colon Cancer for approximately the last four years. Never once did I hear her either curse Cancer or asked God – Why? ….My heart ached as I watched her physical body reduced to a mere skeletonize state. But, her brain was as fit as a great king. She was (presently in a comatose state) a smart young woman only 47 years old. Just last week I was assisting her with some banking transactions in her room at a long term healthcare facility. She literally blew my mind as I watched her very frail body and her sharp mind accurately dictate to me what to do.
I wrote two blogs last year on her remarkable faith, disposition and attitude towards this deadly disease called Cancer. She was a brave and very courageous woman. Her life was filled with many obstacles but she faced every challenge in her life like a quiet giant. I definitely believe that it was out of her bumpy rides in life that it created the strength she so needed once she was diagnosed with Cancer. I watched her go from ER trips to Hospital stay to finally being placed in a Longterm Care facility.
I find great comfort and peace of mind in knowing that I was there for her in good times and bad times. I reminded her daily of the great times we had together, and how proud I was of her during this very difficult time. Each and every time she smiled along with me. She’s an amazing human being who has faced Cancer with incredible faith and courage.
Many days it took everything out of me emotionally to support her and to take care of her needs. I became fully aware that my touch was more important than my words. It was imperative that I would have to produce positive energy which will send a direct message to her that I care. Empathy and Compassion had to become my mindset to ward off any bit of physical exhaustion that would come on me from the long days.
If you ever find yourself lost for words around a Cancer patient know for certain that your body language would reflect your thoughts. I encouraged myself to remain very positive and upbeat regardless of whatever may be going on in her life that day. I held her hands reassuring her that I was never going to leave her during this difficult time. My words were put to the test when I had to postpone a fight last Saturday. If you ever find yourself unable to lift your head, make certain that you are resting it on someone who can be trusted with your weight.
When you LIKE a flower, you pick it. When you LOVE a flower, you water it. My love for my friend made me want to water it every day. She’s my friend. Everyone needs someone to weather the storms with them. I cannot stop the pain and discomfort, but I can hold her hand when the doctors and nurses walk into her room.
My friend is one strong person who has kept a positive attitude through it all. Every day my visits with her helped me to see her struggles and her strength. It takes me ONE HOUR driving to get to her during the week days, but I know if I don’t make it – she will be alone.
It has been emotionally difficult for me as I watch her face and body wrenched in pain, and then I had to release the pain medication with a click of a button to subdue the excruciating discomfort she was experiencing. The saddest part in holding a friend’s hand in the final stage of Cancer is – to hear the doctor say to her, ‘There’s nothing more that can be done. The tubes are no longer functioning as they are supposed to work. There’s no IV, no solids, no more surgeries – Only a higher dose of pain control medication.’
At this moment- She looks me in my eyes and said, ‘Auntie, did you hear that?’ I said, ‘yes my dear, but you’ve got this!’ I held her hands tightly while the nurse administered the medication.
To be honest I don’t have any words to make it better for her, but she have my hand to hold. She has my undivided attention when she shares her painful thoughts and secrets. I have my ear to hear when she tells me, ‘I love you Auntie June’ 🌸🌸🌸. I have lots of hugs to share with her to reassure her that she’s not alone. I am so grateful to have been afforded the incredible opportunity to have held her hands during the last two months. Whatever she wanted to talk about – my heart was waiting to respond.
Today, she’s still present in body, but tomorrow she may not. But, my heart is at peace knowing that I did my best and kept my promise.
Moral: Don’t despise your hardships, they gave you the strength and the grace to face the bigger giants in your life. An easy life produces self pity in the challenges of life which makes it hard for you to produce enduring faith.
I wish to leave a few verses from the Bible that helped to comfort me many nights fearing to lose my friend. I had to go right to God’s Word for my comfort because it was beyond any human’s understanding. I would like to let you know that it’s the best place to find lasting comfort for anyone who would believe.
👓👓 Revelation 21: 3-8 ERV
“I heard a loud voice from the throne. It said, “Now God’s home is with people. He will live with them. They will be his people. God himself will be with them and will be their God.
He will wipe away every tear from their eyes. There will be no more death, sadness, crying, or pain.
All the old ways are gone.” The one who was sitting on the throne said, “Look, I am making everything new!”
Then he said, “Write this, because these words are true and can be trusted.” The one on the throne said to me, “It is finished! I am the Alpha and the Omega, the Beginning and the End.
I will give free water from the spring of the water of life to anyone who is thirsty. All those who win the victory will receive all this.
And I will be their God, and they will be my children.
But those who are cowards, those who refuse to believe, those who do terrible things, those who kill, those who sin sexually, those who do evil magic, those who worship idols, and those who tell lies—they will all have a place in the lake of burning sulfur. This is the second death.”