People learn from each other. Being a good friend isn’t always easy, it takes time, commitment, and sometimes selflessness to really be there for a person.
The saying “Show me your friends and I will tell you who you are’ is a true statement. Our friends reflect who we are — what we stand for or don’t stand for. We mirror the circle of people we spend the most time with. I am VERY picky when choosing my friends, and I am honestly not insecure by having ONLY a FEW friends.
My definition of a true friend is one who is:
- Non judgemental
- Great listener
- Great cheerleader
After carefully pondering all of the above traits of a true friend — it will be a real accomplishment if I can brag about having lots of friends.
I believe that we use the words ‘friends and friendships’ very loosely.
There are many views of the types of friends and friendships a person may have in their life…but one warning about friendships that is clearly written in the Bible is:
“Don’t be fooled, BAD friends will RUIN good habits.”
I think it will be foolish to argue that warning unless you are willing to deal with the consequences of your decisions.
Bad friendships can be easily identified:
- Smooth talkers
- Lead others to do wrong
- Don’t keep their promises
- Use your ideas and then copy everything you do
- They are not trustworthy
- Get an adrenaline rush while gossiping
- Encourages negative behaviour
It’s e.x.t.r.e.m.e.l.y important to socialize and L.o.n.e.l.i.n.e.s.s is a killer … but it’s wisdom to be selective when choosing your friends.
We are social beings by nature and it would be unthinkable to not have people around you. We all need people in our lives to talk with, to share our joys, sorrows, viewpoints, etc.
Friends make life beautiful and they do add a lot of spark to your boring days. But friends should be your biggest strengths and definitely not your weaknesses. Don’t be fooled …bad friends will ruin good habits.
Friends should teach you how to be honest, just, fair, how to live intelligibly and overall — help you to improve your life.
What matters the MOST is how YOU see yourself. You can be THE candle by lighting another candle.
When you know YOUR worth you will stop settling for less. Friendships are costly. Don’t pay a high price because you want to be popular.
You are amazing! You are strong! You have worth! And you are braver than you believe!!!!