🗣Attention Ladies 🤳🏼

The little things we say to ourselves becomes the stumbling blocks that hinders us from moving forward. 

As far back as I can remember  – I USED to be my personal chief critic. 

If there was a penalty handed out for anyone who said anything bad about themselves – I would have been convicted numerous times and be thrown behind bars as a repeat offender. 

Just a FEW examples of things I said to myself:

  • “I can’t”  … this was the quickest phrase to roll off my lips many times without even thinking. 
  • “I’m so stupid” …. when I made a mistake – I would say it out loud to myself 
  • “I’m not smart” …. would never volunteer to do anything. Or if called upon – I would decline without batting an eye 
  • “I’m not pretty enough” …. was always afraid of being rejected 

Today, I MAY just be that one adult woman who has suddenly flipped the coin and started believing in MYSELF. 

It wasn’t until around 2014 …. I convinced myself that EVERYONE (no one excluded) lives with some measure of unhappiness and I should do myself a Favor and begin loving ME before it’s too late.

I asked MYSELF – “What happened that made you begin believing in me?” My answer came back to me loud and clear “When I found out that the warrior within me was hearing my unhappy words.” 

From that moment on – I began setting boundaries. 

I needed to develop a healthy relationship with MYSELF. 

How did I plan to do this? 

  • By checking my thoughts. I began thinking positively about MYSELF. 
  • Followed by setting personal boundaries to protect myself from being manipulated, used, offended or hurt by others. 

Setting up personal boundaries helped me to keep a daily check on:

  • Who am I? I am who I am behind closed doors. Lying on my bed at nights
  • What am I pondering on? – every minute/hour of the day determines how my day will end
  • What am I feeling? – keeping a personal check on my emotional, mental, physical and spiritual state to ward off negative vibes

NOTE: All of the above has NOTHING to do with the thoughts and feelings of others. 

This was all about ME and loving MYSELF. 

The secret is – the Word of God clearly states:

‘Love others as well as you love yourself.’

‭‭Mark‬ ‭12:29-31‬ ‭MSG‬‬

My AHA Moment: Have you ever wondered that the people (ladies) who don’t like you, who criticize you, talk behind your back – just may be struggling with loving themselves and literally – it has NOTHING to do with you? It’s almost like everybody wants to make a paper doll out of you. Put your eyes in certain colour, your lips in a different shape, your hair kinky or straight, clothes to match their colour tone …etc etc

Now do YOURSELF a Favor today –  Start controlling what you think because the WARRIOR within you HEARS YOUR WORDS. 

6 thoughts on “🗣Attention Ladies 🤳🏼

  1. Loved you then and love you now. Always and forever. Fearfully and wonderfully made. Happy to see you blossom and become all that you are destined to be. 👭👏

  2. I actually read this out loud.
    I wanted to see this, say it and hear it.
    Now I am smiling .
    Smiling because you have chosen to give us tools that are always within our reach.
    Love you just the way you are.
    Red hair, blue hair, golden locks whatever…
    God loves you, you love us and this help to brighten our lives day by day.
    Keep sharing. Stay Blessed.

    1. Esther, you are amazing and so beautiful. I love your openness and honesty. Love you and thank you for supporting and encouraging me. Jesus loves all the colours too 😊😊😊😊😊

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