“And don’t say anything you don’t mean.
You only make things worse when you lay down a smoke screen of pious talk, saying, ‘I’ll pray for you,’ and never doing it, or saying, ‘God be with you,’ and not meaning it.
You don’t make your words true by embellishing them with religious lace. In making your speech sound more religious, it becomes less true.
Just say ‘yes’ and ‘no.’
Matthew 5:33-37 MSG
For most of my life I was a people pleaser. I would be the one who would go on an empty stomach meanwhile giving others more than they could have eaten. During the process – I unconsciously allowed others to take full advantage of my kindness.
Until …one day I woke up and decided to take back my power after a brief season of resentment stepped in. I came to terms with myself that speaking up will cause some people to become angry and I must be okay with the outcome.
The pressure of trying to please people can really change who you are. Saying ‘no’ was once a difficult word to leave my lips even though my heart was loudly screaming out this little two letter word – NO!
Now, if I’m approached by someone asking me to do something – I will take a few minutes to consider the request before answering. I started paying close attention to what I was happy to do and what I was comfortable doing.
Unhealthy boundaries creates havoc in your life. When you let people soak up your energy, your time and your personal space ….resentment begins to leak into your life. When your boundaries have been demolished, unhappiness holds you hostage and squeezes the life out of you.
If you spend all your time trying to please everyone around you – you will never be mentally strong to be the best version of yourself. The more I allow myself some personal “ME” space, was the more energy I had to help others.
I’ve learnt that it’s impossible to please everyone. The secret to living is, do what’s right and forget worrying about what others think of you. If you are afraid of other people’s opinions… chances are you will never be the best version of you.
Learn to press Pause when your thoughts are spiralling out of control.
Rest without feeling guilty.
Refresh yourself with a hearty laugh that comes from deep within.