Three Questions to Manage Your Emotions
By Rick Warren
“From now on, then, you must live the rest of your earthly lives controlled by God’s will and not by human desires” (1 Peter 4:2 GNT).
What are human desires? They’re your emotions and your affections.
Once you become a Christ-follower, your life should be controlled by
God’s will, not by how you feel.
Let me give you three questions to ask about your emotions when you’re trying to figure out how to deal with how you feel.
angry or upset or frustrated — whatever you’re feeling — ask yourself:
1. “What’s the real reason I’m feeling this?”
Maybe the answer is fear or worry. Maybe it relates to something someone said to you years ago that was never resolved.
2. “Is it true?”
Is what you’re feeling at that moment true? There’s a point in the Bible where Elijah got so discouraged that he went to God and
complained, “God, I’m the only one in the entire nation of Israel left serving you.”
And God challenged him, saying, “Are you
kidding me? I’ve got all these people who are still serving me! You’re acting like you’re the only one trying to do the right thing in the whole world! No. That’s not true.”
3. “Is what I’m feeling helping me or hurting me?”
Will you get what you want by continuing to feel this way? A lot of feelings we have seem natural, but they’re actually self-defeating.
Let’s say you go to a restaurant, and the service is extremely slow. You wait a long time to be served, and then a couple comes in 15 minutes after you and gets their food before you do. You get increasingly more irritated until you feel something welling up inside you.
What’s the real reason you’re feeling that way? You’re hungry!
Is it true? Yes. You’re frustrated because the service is slow. But is your emotion helping or hurting? It’s hurting. Do you get better
service by getting angry with the server? Absolutely not.
Does nagging work? Has it ever worked? When somebody tells you all the things you’re doing wrong, does it make you want to change? No! All it does is make you defensive.
When you ask yourself these three questions, you get a better grip on WHY you feel the way you do and what you need to do to help the
That’s called managing your emotions.
Talk It Over:
Why is it hard to sometimes admit that an emotion you think you feel isn’t actually true?
Think of a recent experience where you felt angry or frustrated with someone. How do you think asking these three questions could have changed
the outcome of the incident?
What do you think it means to be controlled by God’s will?
Discover God’s power to change your life!
God is all about changing lives. He can help you through any struggle you’re facing, and take you from where you are to where you want to be.
*******Rick Warren has helped people live with hope and on purpose for more than 40 years. He’s the founding pastor of
Saddleback Church in Southern California and author of several books, including The Purpose Driven Church and The Purpose Driven
Life, which has been translated into 137 languages and sold more than 50 million copies in all formats. He created the PEACE Plan (plant churches
of reconciliation, equip servant leaders, assist the poor, care for the sick, educate the next generation), which is used by churches in 196
countries. His radio teaching and daily devotional, Daily Hope, is offered around the world.
This devotional © 2018 by Rick Warren.