Sometimes you can just be the frosting of someone else’s anger. A spoken word, a dropped feather, a simple smile, a glance in the wrong direction are sometimes just a few unassuming things that can create friction between two people. When episodes like these occur be assured that the anger did not originate with you. You are just the top layer of that person’s anger.
Proverbs 22:24-26 says, “Do not hang out with angry people; do not keep company with hotheads. Bad temper is contagious – do not get infected.” The Bible has instructions for everything you can possibly face off in life. In other words – when someone is rude or acts like a bully, do not stoop to their level.
Isaiah 53:4 says, “Surely he hath borne our griefs, and carried our sorrows.” God wants to heal our wounds and take our pain and hurt from us. You know how you love your children so much, that you wish you could take their pain or suffering from them? Well, that is how much love God feels for us.
He loves us so much that He paid the price for our emotional healing on the cross. Hanging on to fear, hurt and pain can actually block your healing and many opportunities to soar above the mess. Why would anyone want to keep a diary of hurts, pain, rejection, and years of abuse? That is unthinkable.
It is like dropping dirty laundry on your bed week after week while tossing around in bed at nights trying to get a good night rest. Sleep will evade you even with the help of sleeping aids.
Alternative choices: Be honest and allow the Lord to heal your wounds. Allow yourself to release the painful emotions to the Lord.
#2: It is okay to cry, weep and let the hurt come out as you hand them over to the Lord. Holding on to the pain and hurt will limit your potential.
It is disturbing to carry around a heavy suitcase filled with years of painful memories. You should not allow anyone to have so much power over you to keep you stuck in their dysfunction. Bad things happen to good people and it is irresponsible to wait for the bad things in life to go away. Accept it as part of growth.
Stuff happens everyday. Each day is a new day to do something that your future self will thank you. No matter what the circumstances may look like today know the power lies within you to make it either a happy ending or a miserable ending.
Refuse to become stuck in the wind of uncertainty. The school of hard knocks is designed to bring out the best in you. It teaches you the difference between ordinary and extraordinary. Those ugly scars can be turned into sparkles leaving glitter everywhere you walk.
Guard your unguarding moments. Guard your responses. Guard your heart.
The Lord restored the fortunes of Job when he prayed for his friends, and He increased all that Job had lost. May your ending be like Job after you pray for those who have caused you emotional pain – prepare for rebuilding. Be brave enough to heal yourself.