If you live long enough and have accepted the invitation to adulthood you will appreciate the fact that not every fight requires your undivided attention. All fights are not created equally so you cannot enter the ring before understanding the opponent’s strategy. There are battles that choose you, but your maturity must know whether you are attending or declining.
There are fights that turn up on your doorsteps, others knock on your door, some call you on the phone, and the ugliest ones jump out from behind the bushes scaring you to death. Even if you react in self-defence there is a great chance you can be severely wounded and left to die. All fights are not created equally.
Do not get pulled into silly and petty arguments. Fights can be costly when words and emotions get in the way. One thing has been proven when it comes to fights – everyone walks away with scars and there are no winners. The emotional scar is a reminder that you fought in a battle that was not intended for you to fight.
Ephesians 4:26-27&29 says: “ In your anger do not sin. Do not let unwholesome talk come out of your mouth, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs.” Sticks and stones may break your bones but leaning on God in moments like these would not hurt you. Do not allow angry words to get stuck inside of you.
Of all the words a person most likely will ever regret are the ones spoken when they are angry. “The eyes of the Lord run to and fro throughout the whole earth, to give strong support to those whose heart is blameless towards Him.” 2 Chronicles 16:9 . When the battle chooses you, hand it over to God.
At the end of the day, let God rule your heart and mind. Forgive because God has forgiven you more times than you can count. Overlook whatever you can. My mom used to say, ‘Anything for peace sake.’ There are times you just have to let it go for peace to reside.
Someone said, “Reconciliation takes two people. Forgiveness only takes one.” Do not wait on another person to ask for forgiveness before you forgive. It only takes one person to forgive. The only other option is to live with bitterness.
Romans 12:20-21 The Message (MSG)
“Our Scriptures tell us that if you see your enemy hungry, go buy that person lunch, or if he’s thirsty, get him a drink. Your generosity will surprise him with goodness. Don’t let evil get the best of you; get the best of evil by doing good.”