Relationships are not easy but if you really love someone you will try everything to make things work. It’s not about perfection since no one will ever be perfect. Perfect couples do not exist but finding someone who is proud to introduce you to the world, appreciates you, cares for you, and loves you without limits make a great foundation to build on.
Tony A. Gaskin Jr. says, “If marriage isn’t the goal then why are you dating? That is like working a job and saying you don’t want benefits and a retirement plan.” Why date someone if the end goal isn’t marriage? If there’s no commitment, then there a great possibility of hearts being shattered.
As adults it can get exhausting to jump from one relationship to the other so in all your understanding look for loyalty, commitment, and stability. All relationships go through difficult times but those who are in it for the long haul get through the difficult times. Let everything you do be done in love and for love.
Marriages take work, commitment, love, and respect – these things don’t just happen. Everyone has something valuable to bring to the table. No one’s gift is bigger than the other. Teamwork makes the dream of a healthy marriage works and giving up is never an option. You either win together or lose together.
It’s a partnership where you protect each other’s image and reputation at all cost. I am never impressed with a man that complains about his wife. A lack of friendship makes a marriage unhappy. Song of Solomon 8:7 says, “Many waters cannot quench love, neither can the floods drown it.”
It is a vow where two adults make a commitment to love for better or for worse, for richer and poorer, in sickness and in health. Marriage is a safe and healthy place to forgive, love, pray, show mutual respect, and to invest in each other. Your spouse on the worst day is never your enemy.
In my opinion picking your battles work well in any relationship and most importantly for you. Whether it’s family members, friends, co-workers, neighbors, enemies, and more so in marriages – choose not to take part in minor, unimportant, or overly difficult arguments, or confrontations.
Surround yourself with people who will strengthen your marriage while keeping communication lines open at all times. Relationships are not like having two credit cards in your handbag or wallet hoping that one will work. It is more like being stranded on an island and there are only two of you.
Finally, you don’t sell your expensive car because one of the tires went flat or the oil needed changing. Don’t break up. Fix the problem. Happiness is not a goal, it’s a benefit you get when you fix something that was broken. See the worst in each other and stay because no one is flawless including those you admire when you use the hashtag #relationshipgoals.
FIX IT! It isn’t dead! Someone is waiting to be inspired.