February 25 Grown Up Conversations

Today’s Topic: Stop the Pain!

I’ve learned over time that if someone seems to be always angry and unpleasant to be around there is always pain hidden behind the mask. Hurting people hurt others. You can’t start the next chapter of your life if you keep replaying the hurt. People who love themselves don’t hurt others.

Have you ever held a newborn baby that didn’t want to be cuddled? Absolutely not!!! Why? Because babies come with the need for bonding which helps them to grow mentally and physically. As life plays out and the baby grows up in an evil world the trust factor gets broken and the curse of isolation becomes the new norm in adulthood.

Hurt is an ugly curse that sometimes goes from generation to generation. The truth is, only Jesus can touch where it hurts the most. We must make a deliberate effort to stop the pain from breeding and producing seeds of discord. Pain breeds in dark and lonely minds like mosquitoes breed in stagnant water. If pain remains hidden in our lives it will produce crazy unhealthy thoughts that will eventually ruin everyone’s life.

Pain changes everyone and makes you overthink more and shut people out. Not all pain is visible, and it can be easily masked making it difficult to pinpoint the root cause. Our village can be turned into a healing community if we begin building a bridge and not a wall. We must not allow pain to become a barrier between us. We are either building together or losing the war.

Quote: “Strong minds discuss ideas, average minds discuss events, weak minds discuss people.”

James 4:1-6 “What is the source of conflict among you? What is the source of your disputes? Don’t they come from your cravings that are at war in your own lives? You long for something you don’t have, so you commit murder. You are jealous for something you can’t get, so you struggle and fight. You don’t have because you don’t ask. You ask and don’t have because you ask with evil intentions, to waste it on your own cravings.”

Let’s move from discussing people to finding solutions to make our village a friendlier place to live in.

When you don’t feel strong enough, ask for help from others.

Here’s a great prayer I came across online call ‘The Knots Prayer’

Dear God,

Please untie the knots in my mind, my heart and my life.

Remove the have nots, the can nots, and the do nots that I have in my mind.

Erase the will nots, may nots, might nots that may find a home in my heart.

Release me from the could nots, would nots and should nots that obstruct my life.

And most of all, Dear God, I ask that you remove from my mind, my heart and my life all of the “am nots” that I have allowed to hold me back, especially the thought that ‘I am not good enough.’


At any given moment you have the power to say: “This is not how my story is going to end. It is what it is and I’ve got this.”

Prayer Time: Father, make us instruments of your peace; where there is hatred, let me sow love; when there is injury, pardon; where there is doubt, faith; where there is despair, hope; where there is darkness, light; and where there is sadness, joy. In Jesus Name, Amen

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