MARCH 8 Grown Up Conversations


Do not make a landmark out of disappointments. The fascinating thing about living in the Caribbean is asking someone for directions.

Here is an example:

Trini: OK, when you’re driving down the road a bright pink house with a tall cream wall with a mango tree in the front, across from a small shop, see the corner house there, don’t turn in there, turn after, then you reach.

Island people are the coolest family-oriented people who believe that landmarks are the easiest way to give lost people directions – pink house, cream wall, mango tree, shop, corner house are all landmarks leading you to your destination.

All around the world people are labelled as tall, short, thick, slim, or even by a major incident in their life. Our names sometimes get attached to grief, heartbreaks, you name it and unfortunately, they become landmarks in our lives. Like ‘the woman at the well, the blind man at the gate, the childless woman, and such like.

As grownups, we are certainly not working this hard to be the same person others once knew us to be. It’s good to note that you could have had many achievements and yet there will be someone who only remembers you by your past hurts, mistakes and failures. It has absolutely nothing to do with you. You are never meant to impress anyone but to love them. Learn to applaud yourself.

In life there are some people who make you go ‘hmmm.’ Your consistency in what you do over a lengthy time will have more to say to them than using your words.

No one wants to go through life with labels or landmarks of past pain or hurts. You are not here to please everyone. You are kept alive to bring your God-inspired gifts to the world. Those who are meant to be a part of your present life will be attracted by your gift. Don’t be perturbed by those who can’t see your growth. You no longer live where others once knew you. Live in a way so that no one can find fault in you or where you have taken up residence.

Isaiah 54:4 “Do not fear, for you will not be ashamed; do not be discouraged, for you will not suffer disgrace; for you will forget the shame of your youth, and the disgrace of your widowhood you will remember no more.”

Make a deliberate effort to withdraw yourself from things that remind you of your past, and the people who still lives there. Trust the miracle of new beginnings. After a disappointment happens it’s funny when you look back you suddenly realize that you weren’t really lost. Not all disappointments come to disrupt your life, some come to clear your path.

It’s okay to turn the page and start writing a new chapter. Don’t rehearse it! Don’t curse it! Don’t post it! Don’t find quotes about it! Stop giving your past oxygen! Let go of everything that is weighing you down.

Quote: “If you don’t like where you are, move. You are not a tree.” It’s like standing on a platform with people who are not inspiring you and complaining about it. Get up and build your own platform.

Prayer Time: Father, thank you for our new beginnings. Help us to move forward from anxiety, and anyone or anything that’s holding us back. When we stand before you at the end of life, we pray that we would have used every single bit of the gifts you have given us. In Jesus Name, Amen

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