“Do It for Yourself”

Our family is made up of our parents, spouse, children, siblings, grandparents, grandchildren, aunt, uncle, cousins – all biologically connected and as we sometimes say, ‘Cut from the same cloth.’ Meaning, we are very alike in some or most ways, our mannerisms, and sometimes even our voices sound the same.

From early childhood we are exposed to life through the eyes of those closest to us. But as we grow into adulthood, we become more curious about things we may have inherited from the generations before. There’s alcohol, drugs, sibling rivalry, adultery, fear of the dentist, pain, procrastination, and poor communication skills are just a few of the hurdles we must overcome being born into a family.

Maneuvering our way through and out is an uphill battle as every level requires a different version of you. Not everyone passes through the levels smoothly. But experiences have taught us that tough times never last, but tough people do.

Even on our hard days we know the sun will rise in the morning and it has nothing to do with us. The things we are exposed to in life reminds us that we are not stuck unless we decide to be.

1 Chronicles 4:9-10 says, “Jabez was more honorable than his brothers. His mother named him ‘Jabez’ saying, ‘Because I bore him with pain. ‘ Now, Jabez called on the God of Israel saying, ‘Oh, Lord, bless me indeed and expand my territory, that Your hand would be with me, and that You would keep me from evil, that I may not cause pain.”
“So. God granted him what he requested.”

Jabez’s mother had a difficult time giving birth to him and named him as a reminder of the pain she experienced. Let’s think about this for a moment. Some of us may have names tied to situations far beyond our control.

Jabez changed the course of his life by a simple prayer asking the Lord to bless him with more than enough. To keep His hand on him and to keep him from evil that he may not cause pain in others.
What a faith. Just one prayer can turn a mess into a message.

What’s your excuse? Your pain can turn into a Godly promise if you will dare to trust the Lord with your pain. Your family’s affiliations don’t limit you into living with purpose. Create a different version of yourself. First, they will watch, then they will hate, then they will copy.

Jeremiah 31:29-30 says, “In those days they shall say no more, the fathers have eaten a sour grape, and the children’s teeth are set on edge. But everyone shall die for his own iniquity: every man that eateth the sour grape, his teeth shall be set on edge.”

God mercifully secures a change of course in your life once you see and understand the consequences of wrong decision making in your family’s history. We can reintroduce ourselves – “Hello World, I am here to show up and leave with my blessings.

Prayer Time: Father, make me more honorable than those who have gone before me. Keep your hand on me that I may not cause pain to anyone. In Jesus Name, Amen.

Our past is there for us to learn from, not to be repeated. We are evolving.


    1. We can!!! Yes we can!!! Have a beautiful day my Sister. The things we are exposed to in life reminds us that we are not stuck unless we decide to be. And God granted Jabez what he requested 👩🏿‍🤝‍👩🏾


    1. You are a gem Sandy. I am humbled by your kindness. You are absolutely correct with God’s help we can change the outcome like Jabez.

      Some of us may have names tied to situations far beyond our control. Just one prayer can turn pain into power. Our family’s affiliations don’t limit us into living with purpose 👩🏿‍🤝‍👩🏾

      Thanks so much for sharing. God bless you my Queen 🙏🏾🙏🏾


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