Grown Up Conversations

The Little Irritants in Our Lives

GOD CAN FIX everything that transpired in your life whether by error or by your own choices. Don’t sweat the small stuff. Very often we carry around weight that is way too heavy for us because someone did not apologize to us or we refuse to accept someone’s apology. At this point it’s causing you more harm than good so why not let it go?

Building walls with the hope to keep one person out can keep everybody out. Quote: “There is a purpose for everyone you meet. Some people come into your life to test you, some to teach you, some to use you, and some to bring out the very best in you.”

I love the idea that some people come to bring out the very best in you regardless whether it was their intention or not. My goal is to take those lemons that they bought for me and make something resembling  lemonade and serve cold lemonade to every thirsty person that passes my way.

Healing doesn’t mean that the pain never was there – it just means that you made up your mind that it will no longer control you. When I stop to reflect on my past, I really don’t remember the ill intentions of those who pass through my life. All that comes to my mind is someone I met in my past, but I no longer live there.

It always feels good to move on. You are no longer living in an abandoned house with no lights. When we stand before God at the end of our lives let’s hope that there will not be one single regret that we did not wish others well despite the wrong they have done.

Someone said, “An eye for any eye will make the whole world blind.” If we keep wishing folks bad, then we are no better than them and the whole world will be a mess. Let’s work towards becoming better and not bitter so we can heal faster from the pain. This will definitely flatten the curve of aggression towards each other.

It’s more polite to build boundaries than walls. Boundaries are your responsibility. Quote: Healthy boundaries are gates and fences that allow you to enjoy the beauty of your own garden.” Who you were yesterday should not be who you are today – it calls for a different version of yourself.  You have a right to put an end to anything that draining your energy or creating toxic behaviour.

2 Timothy 2:23-26 says, “Again I say, don’t get involved in foolish, ignorant arguments that only start fights. A servant of the Lord must not quarrel but must be kind to everyone, be able to teach, and be patient with difficult people. Gently instruct those who oppose the truth. Perhaps God will change those people’s hearts, and they will learn the truth. Then they will come to their senses and escape from the devil’s trap. For they have been held captive by him to do whatever he wants.”

Boundaries allow us to take better care of ourselves – emotionally, mentally, physically, and spiritually. Quote: “You may not be able to control someone’s negative attitude towards you, but you can control how long you participant in it.”

Finally, live at peace with everyone. LIVE! LAUGH! LOVE!

Grown Up Conversations

Truth is like Surgery

When you fill your life with everything else BUT God, it will very soon become monotonous regardless of what it is or who it is. I wish I could emphatically without a second of a doubt say to you that everything you spend most of your waking hours thinking about can be easily be resolved by having a caring spouse, a ‘ride or die’ friend, or even a puppy. But I know you will end up disappointed if I comfort you with a lie.

Some people will only appreciate you as long as you are meeting a need in their life. Don’t blame God for the people that you allow to come into your personal space when you didn’t even consult with Him. The truth is everyone you ever trusted or counted on will somehow disappoint you because GOD IS A JEALOUS GOD.

Psalms 146:3  “Do not put your trust in princes, in mortal men, who cannot save.”

The best relationship to become entangled with is one with a higher power than mere earthlings. If you allow anyone to take the place of God in your life – know for a surety that you will have no control over their loyalty. It may very well have nothing to do with you but the sincere love of your Heavenly Father; or your Mama or grandma’s prayer; or the promised blessing of the former generation.

There are many benefits to having God as your partner in life. He removes people from your life without you having to deal with the mess. He removes them because of where He is taking you next – the next level requires a different you. Your next level requires you making different decisions.

When you are in a relationship with God – He knows how to get you where your destiny awaits you. Hold your peace and do not be afraid of the mess – spread it before the Lord and watch God gave you the courage to turn it your most powerful message.

Faith in a human is of no comparison to having faith in an infallible (foolproof) God. Never underestimate the power of a never-failing God. He will save you from falling blindly into relationships that you cannot see without an MRI, a Ct scan, or any X ray.

God will command His angels to protect you wherever you may go and when you go through difficult times, He stays with you to the end. Ephesians 3:20 says, “God can do anything, you know—far more than you could ever imagine or guess or request in your wildest dreams! He does it NOT by pushing us around but by working within us, his Spirit deeply and gently within us.”

Quote: “Bravery is NOT the absence of fear. Bravery is feeling the fear, the doubt, the insecurity, and deciding that something else is more important.”

If God is all you have, you have all you need. Ask God to show you the way and be content with doing it His way.

Finally, you have been complaining, creating unnecessary drama, playing the victim role, and blaming everyone for your problems – and all those wasted years have gotten you no where closer to your goals or dreams. Let go of the entitlement that people owe you something and trust God to rewrite your story.

Truth is like surgery – it hurts but it treats the wound. Truth is like a debit card pay first and enjoy later.

Grown Up Conversations – October 15 – Video

It’s October – Embrace the seasons of life – it’s only a season

Today’s topic: You are God’s primary concern

We build solid relationships with the hope of finding security, but we keep God as a third wheel moving around with us for emergency cases only.

God cannot be your defense if you build houses for yourself but keep Him on the outside for your emergencies. God is King and Kings sits on thrones.

God wants to have a healthy relationship with you. The lyrics of the song ‘His eye is on the sparrow’ is a reality. Matthew 6:26 ESV “Look at the birds of the air: they neither sow nor reap nor gather into barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not of more value than they?”

You are God’s primary concern. God helps you handle whatever you’re given. He turns your battles into blessings and as long as He is with you – you will not fail.

Sometimes just having one bad day can take an emotional toll on us making us feel like our life is bad. The truth is, every day is a new day so trust God’s timing for your breakthrough.

No matter what may happen – don’t let go of God’s hand. God can do more for you than you can do for yourself in a lifetime. There’s always a way when God is involved.

True peace comes from knowing that God is always in control regardless of how it appears to you. If we can handle everything then we wouldn’t need God.

I would have lost heart, unless I had believed that I would see the goodness of the LORD in the land of the living. Wait on the LORD; be of good courage, and He shall strengthen your heart; wait, I say, on the LORD.” Psalms 27:13 NKJV

Grown Up Conversations – October 14

It’s October – Embrace the seasons of life – it’s only a season.

Quote: “God prunes us when He is about to take us into a new season of growth and expansion.”

No matter how long your favourite season last, we know that it will come to an end. We must prepare to move right into the new season whether it’s your favourite or not.

Going into the unknown always brings about a certain amount of anxiety but Psalms 91 reassures us that we are never alone. God holds all of our tomorrows.

Psalm 91 Easy-to-Read Version

You can go to God Most High to hide. You can go to God All-Powerful for protection.

I say to the Lord, “You are my place of safety, my fortress. My God, I trust in you.” God will save you from hidden dangers and from deadly diseases.

You can go to him for protection. He will cover you like a bird spreading its wings over its babies. You can trust him to surround and protect you like a shield.

You will have nothing to fear at night and no need to be afraid of enemy arrows during the day. You will have no fear of diseases that come in the dark or terrible suffering that comes at noon.

A thousand people may fall dead at your side or ten thousand right beside you, but nothing bad will happen to you! All you will have to do is watch, and you will see that the wicked are punished.

You trust in the Lord for protection. You have made God Most High your place of safety. So nothing bad will happen to you. No diseases will come near your home.

He will command his angels to protect you wherever you go. Their hands will catch you so that you will not hit your foot on a rock. You will have power to trample on lions and poisonous snakes.

The Lord says, “If someone trusts me, I will save them. I will protect my followers who call to me for help. When my followers call to me, I will answer them. I will be with them when they are in trouble. I will rescue them and honor them. I will give my followers a long life and show them my power to save.”

The End

Thought to ponder:

Do not try to hold on to a past season in your life. Seasons change to change you. There’s purpose in every season. Remember, we are more capable than we think.

Grown Up Conversations – October 13

It’s October – Embrace the seasons of life – it’s only a season.

As the seasons change so must we. To everything there is a season. EVERYTHING!

Quote: “A tree with strong roots laughs at storms.”

Psalm 1 New International Version

Blessed is the one who does not walk in step with the wicked or stand in the way that sinners take or sit in the company of mockers, but whose delight is in the law of the Lord, and who meditates on his law day and night.

That person is like a tree planted by streams of water, which yields its fruit in season and whose leaf does not wither whatever they do prospers.

Not so the wicked! They are like chaff that the wind blows away.

Therefore, the wicked will not stand in the judgment, nor sinners in the assembly of the righteous.

For the Lord watches over the way of the righteous, but the way of the wicked leads to destruction.

The End.

Thoughts to ponder:

  • There’s a clear difference between those who walk with God and those who choose to do life without a fear of God
  • Anyone who walks with God will not be afraid of the storms. When you’re rooted in faith – you will not run scared when hardships come. You will find your peace and tranquility knowing that God will come through for you
  • Those who choose to do life without God will be tossed and confused in every way when faced with a crisis
  • When God is for you WHATEVER you do will prosper and the evidence is visible to all who’s looking on
  • It’s important to pray the Word back to God. Memorize Psalms 1 and seek godly counsel when needed
  • A mustard seed of faith grows with every new challenge. The greater the challenges are – the greater the opportunity is for growth.
  • The LORD watches over those whose faith is rooted in His Word. But the ways of the ungodly leads to destruction

Quotes: “A tree with strong roots laughs at storms.”

“A seed grows with no sound, but a tree falls with huge noise. Destruction has noise, but creation is quiet. This is the power of silence. GROW SILENTLY.”

Grown Up Conversations – October 12 – Video

It’s October – Embrace the seasons of life – it’s only a season.

October shows us how lovely it is to let dead things go. The trees show us dead leaves in all its stunning beauty and splendour. If the trees can drop all their dead leaves each year – we can drop off all our baggage too.

Psalm 27 New International Version

The Lord is my light and my salvation whom shall I fear?

The Lord is the stronghold of my life of whom shall I be afraid?

When the wicked advance against me to devour me, it is my enemies and my foes who will stumble and fall.

Though an army besiege me, my heart will not fear; though war break out against me, even then I will be confident.

One thing I ask from the Lord, this only do I seek: that I may dwell in the house of the Lord all the days of my life, to gaze on the beauty of the Lord and to seek him in his temple.

For in the day of trouble he will keep me safe in his dwelling; he will hide me in the shelter of his sacred tent and set me high upon a rock.

Then my head will be exalted above the enemies who surround me; at his sacred tent I will sacrifice with shouts of joy; I will sing and make music to the Lord.

Hear my voice when I call, Lord; be merciful to me and answer me.

My heart says of you, “Seek his face!” Your face, Lord, I will seek.

Do not hide your face from me, do not turn your servant away in anger; you have been my helper.

Do not reject me or forsake me, God my Savior.

Though my father and mother forsake me, the Lord will receive me.

Teach me your way, Lord; lead me in a straight path because of my oppressors.

Do not turn me over to the desire of my foes, for false witnesses rise up against me, spouting malicious accusations.

I remain confident of this: I will see the goodness of the Lord in the land of the living.

Wait for the Lord; be strong and take heart and wait for the Lord.

The End


  • In every season there’s God
  • Remain confident of this one thing – you will see the goodness of the LORD in all your seasons
  • In the day of trouble God will keep you safe
  • The LORD will teach you His ways
  • Wait for the LORD
  • Be strong and take heart

The LORD bless you and keep you – make His face shine on you and be gracious to you. Have a wonderful day my WordPress and Facebook Family!!

Grown Up Conversations – October 8 – Video

It’s October – Embrace the seasons of life – it’s only a season.

Today’s topic: Don’t Test God – Try Him

A booby trap is a bait that is set up to intentionally attract an innocent victim to either kill, or to harm them. The truth is, we are always knowingly or unknowingly in danger of booby traps.

It’s beyond any human being’s capability to be alert and watchful twenty-four hours a day, seven days a week; all the time. As human beings we may have the capacity to stay awake 24 hours but do we have the capability to do so?

That’s why we need God’s protection from hidden traps – God neither naps nor sleep. If there was any time we need God’s protection is today. The Lord is our safe hiding place and our covering.

Buying face masks, gown, gloves, hand sanitizers, or staying in the safety of your home are no guarantee that you are protected from deadly hidden traps.

It’s a blessing to feel assured that God is keeping watch over us day and night even when we are unaware of His presence. In sickness and in health – God is a present help. He’s just one prayer away.

When you choose to make the Lord your hiding place there shall no evil catch up to you for He gives His angels full responsibility of you. We all know how dangerous hidden traps are – don’t risk becoming victims.

Don’t allow the discomfort of being in a relationship with God cause you to run back to what God has already delivered you from many times before.

When we have God’s covering, evil cannot live in God’s presence – it’s like having a lifetime insurance. It’s unimaginable the evil that creeps us around in the night, the objects that come from nowhere and fly pass us by day, and the tragedies we escape when using the highways and public places.

Be strong and do not let your heart give in to fear. When you make God your secret dwelling place you will sleep well at nights because He is your keeper.

Proverbs 14:30 “A peaceful heart leads to a healthy body.”

Joshua 1:9 “Be strong and courageous. DO NOT BE AFRAID, DO NOT DISCOURAGED, for the LORD your God will be with you WHEREVER YOU GO.”

Grown Up Conversations – October 7 – Video

It’s October – Embrace the seasons of life – it’s only a season.

Today’s topic: The Village got Awfully Quiet

So many times, we ask God – ‘Why then has all this happened to me?’ Then the Lord answers – “Have I not sent you.” None of us on live an island all by ourselves. Growing up among the villagers teach us to lean on each other making us stronger. God never intended us to live like hermits.

Village life gives us purpose and meaning. When we support each other – incredible things happen. When we compete with each other – the village goes awfully quiet.

Relationships thrive best when there’s open communication. Our relationship with God goes the same way as we do in other relationships – communicate your feelings.

When we arrive at wanting answers to life’s unanswered questions listening to the clues and cues lead to truth. A clue is anything that helps to steer you in solving a problem. And the cue prompts you to know when to act.

When God allows you to take the lead in your village it means he has full confidence that you can get the job done. Leading a family requires you to have a forgiving heart and the fortitude of a solider. The courage to stand in the frontline of a village where the arrows can come from any direction. It requires skill in warfare strategies.

Can you save your family if yours is the weakest clan and the least in your generation? Absolutely! If God is with you! We can accomplish nothing without God.

African Proverb “When there’s no enemy within, the enemies outside cannot hurt you.”

May God bless all those who simply want to do better and feel better despite the pain and the load she carries. When you know your potential you become consistent and your vision becomes clearer.

Tunnel vision sees beyond where the village ends and shines the light where others may have fallen. Be strong and do not let your hands be weak, for your work will be rewarded.

Let’s light a candle for all the villagers who need a light to guide them through the dark times. Quote: “A candle loses nothing by lighting another candle.”

Learn to appreciate every single person in the village. The village is a place where you don’t meet people by accident. There’s always a reason.

We are all in this together. When we understand that we are all struggling – there’s no competition. How we make others feel about themselves says a lot about you.

Someone once said, “People of vision see the invisible, hear the inaudible, believe the incredible, think the unthinkable, and do the impossible.”