TODAY’S TOPIC: Are You Burned Out?

Helping others is good but you can’t help if you have nothing to give.

In a world that values being busy and available, sometimes at the cost of your own happiness, I am here to tell you, it is not good for your brain or your health.

Burnout can physically change the anatomy and function of your brain.

Symptoms of burnout included extreme fatigue, loss of passion and motivation, a growing sense of emotional depletion, cynicism and negativity.

Research has found that key brain areas in emotion control and executive functioning are not communicating as well as they should in individuals who are burnt out.

Burned out individuals show weaker working connections between the amygdala (which is our fear and negative emotion processing area) and the medial prefrontal cortex (mPFC), a structure involved in sophisticated problem solving functions. So this might be the reason why individuals who feel burnout experience brain fog and difficulty controlling their negative emotions.

The brain also structurally looks different in individuals who are burnt out. In fact, their brains show signs of chronic stress.

Our cortex, the outer layer of our brain, gets thinner with age. This natural and perfectly fine. However in chronic stress and in individuals who are burnt out the medial prefrontal cortex, which I mentioned it responsible for sophisticated problem solving shows pronounced thinning and accelerated aging.

The amygdala (our fear and negative emotion processing area) and other brain structures that are susceptible to neurotoxins show signs of wear, tear, and shrinkage.

The point here is your brain changes how it looks and works when you are burned it. Being burnt out is not good for your brain and you will definitely feel it physically.

If you feel burnout today, make sure and engage in some self-care, figure out new strategies to share and address the load, and begin to set boundaries.

I hope you found this helpful. Take care.


Today’s Topic is Happiness is on You

Being happy doesn’t mean everything is perfect. It simply means that you have had many happy memories that you have held close to your heart. Happy mind. Happy life.

You can’t stop the birds from flying over your head but you can prevent them from building a nest in your hair. Meaning you can’t stop things from happening in your life, but you can help not thinking about it too much.

Your happiness is your safe haven so don’t feel badly for making decisions that others don’t understand. Someone’s happiness is not your responsibility and your happiness isn’t someone else’s responsibility. Your life is 100% your responsibility.

The best thing you can do is to enjoy what you do. We are all learning and growing at different times. We have not lost time because everything we went through from birth till now is beneficial to where we are heading.

Be like a tea bag you never know how strong you are until you get dipped into hot water. When the hot water hit the tea bag it draws out the true taste of the tea. Draw on that strength to get up and accomplish your goals one by one.

It’s your personal journey and with a lot of hard work and determination you will get the results you worked hard for. Only God can take your efforts and make them opportunities.

You are doing this for yourself, so push until you’re happy with the results. People who are living a fulfilled life are not the ones who never had a reason to give up, they are the ones who decided to not to quit.

Imagine what could happen if you decide to keep on praying until the heaviness is lifted. Focus on God’s promises and not the Devil’s threats.

There will always be a cow jumping over the moon. Three blind mice crossing. And the dish running away from the spoon. They are all just distractions to keep you from setting goals and achieving them. Fall seven times .. get up on the eight. You are the product of your choices.

The more God blessed you the more you can help others. The more you help others the happier you will be. The truth is that you can’t be really happy if you’re always thinking of yourself. Do the right thing on purpose whether you feel to or not.

Happiness is saying your prayers and putting your expectations on God, and not on people.

PRAYER TIME: Father, thank you for re-directing my plans as so many times I’ve been misguided and confused. Thank you that not one day goes by without me seeing your grace and mercy. In Jesus Name, Amen.

REMINDER: Happiness is when you are tempted to give up but choose to move forward anyway. Put your expectations on God and not on people.

How are You Managing Your Thought Life by Dr. Krissy Doyle-Thomas

My Guest today is my daughter a Medical Neuroscientist and College Professor. Life has certainly hit us many curve balls.

I’ve asked my daughter to put her knowledge in layman’s terms with the hope to help someone see the light at the end of the tunnel.

Here are Dr. Krissy’s thoughts:

We know that our brain is biased to negative thinking, but that doesn’t mean we have to stay in a negative space.

Here are 3 things I want you to do that I know would change your brain chemistry.

(1) Say affirmations

Look in the mirror and say positive statements about yourself, to yourself. Research shows that affirmations activate brain areas in the centre of our brain that is responsible for our perception of “self”. These areas are known as the medial prefrontal cortex and the posterior cingulate cortex. Even after affirmations are spoken, the brain keeps benefitting for an extended period of time.

(2) Reflect

Reflection helps us to grow and develop our understanding more deeply, so that we continue to improve the next time we encounter similar situations.
Reflection changes our brain by reinforing neural architecture associated with a particular task or behaviour. It acts as scaffolding and reinforcement for brain cells involved in the behaviour we want to remember and repeat again.

(3) Practice gratitude

Gratitude releases dopamine and serotonin, two neurotransmitters that promote happiness and pleasure and motivates us to do more of what makes us happy and grateful.

When we do these 3 tasks that we know releases brain chemicals that help us feel happy, focused and motivated, it actually helps us interpret life through a positive lens because it changes our mood.

So try it today:
(1) Say affirmations
(2) Reflect
(3) Practice Gratitude

…and see how you feel after a few days of doing these things. When we chose to do these things repeatedly we are changing our brain for the better.

Making a Difference One Child at a Time

Congratulations to my daughter Dr. Krissy who just published her 24th peer-reviewed scientific article this past weekend in the American Public Library of Science’s PLOS One.

As a medical neuroscientist, Dr. Krissy has studied how the brain looks and works in autism spectrum disorders for the past 16 years.

Her study that was published two weekends ago looked at how well a portable, inexpensive, brain imaging device was in measuring pain in children with ASD, without the children having to say they were pain. This is important because some people with ASD have a difficult time telling a doctor or caregiver that they are in pain because they have a difficult time communicating, or they might not recognize pain in their own bodies.

As such, It is possible that pain can go untreated, if we don’t have a way to measure pain that does not rely on a person saying, “I’m hurting”. Dr. Krissy’s study shows that this brain imaging tool called Near-Infrared Spectroscopy can detect pain in the brain of people with ASD without them having to say it.

Dr. Krissy is one of the first researchers to explore the use Near-Infrared Spectroscopy to measure how the brain responds to pain in children with ASD.

To God be the glory. Our children are gifts from God. Born with Purpose and destined for Greatness.

Heart to Heart Grown Up Conversations

Today’s Topic: Don’t Go Tripping

I saw this funny quote: “I’m sorry I can’t go on your guilt trip with you today. I haven’t packed a thing and have nothing to wear anyway, can’t find my passport, haven’t had my shots and I really don’t speak the language.” The End.

Song of Solomon 2:15 says,
“Catch us the foxes, The little foxes that spoil the vines, For our vines have tender grapes.”

It’s usually the little things that causes you to trip. When you feel like you’re caving in to stress, pressure, pain, and failure … it’s time to pray. Nothing more. Nothing less.

Learn the language of the little foxes
and find your internal compass that will guide your thoughts and decisions getting you closer to living your best life.

We first need to ask ourselves some thought provoking questions like, ‘Why did I feel this way? and ‘Why don’t I feel this way anymore?’ The more you understand yourself is the better chance you have of staying on course.

None of us perfectly have it all together. We get it wrong nearly every time we open our mouth. It only takes one thoughtless reaction to create a rippling effect leaving you disappointed many times with your behavior.

There are fights you will win and fights you will lose. Every fight does not need an active participant.

The devil is very patient as he sits idly around throwing darts for you to trip over. Live well, live wisely, live humbly. Make a promise with yourself not to allow anyone to ruffle your feathers. Stop tripping over the same little foxes in your life.

Today is the day to let go of regrets, pain, anger, hate, and fear. Don’t be held a prisoner to things you cannot change. If you do what is right, you will be fine. But if you refuse to do what is right, sin waits outside the door.

Never ruin a good day by thinking about a bad situation. Give it time. You are the driver of your dream and the destination. There are bigger battles to fight.

PRAYER TIME: Father, thank you for teaching us how to let go of things that are holding us back from reaching our full potential. Forgive us for becoming emotionally trapped in our feelings and our reactions to outside influences. In Jesus Name, Amen.

None of us perfectly have it all together. We get it wrong nearly every time we open our mouth. It only takes one thoughtless reaction to create a rippling effect leaving you disappointed many times with your behavior. There are fights you will win and fights you will lose. Every fight does not need an active participant.



Yesterday, I was sipping my hot drink in the moving car. One jerk caused the liquid to spill on my top which made me squeal like a trapped mouse looking at himself in the mirror.

While trying to clean up the mess it reminded me of something my Mom used to say to me – “There’s many a slip between the cup and the lip.”

How true. I was certain I had the cup firmly gripped in my hand, but one jerk of the moving car while I was sipping created a spill.

Sometimes, we can be that close to finishing something, but at the very last moment it slipped out of our hands.

Many things can go wrong between the start and the ending of anything. Even when things seem certain, something can go wrong.

Our only sure confidence is in Christ alone.
“ Being confident of this very thing, that He who has begun a good work in you will complete it until the day of Jesus Christ;”
‭‭Philippians‬ ‭1:6‬ ‭NKJV‬‬

Here are my AHA MOMENTS:

☕️ Sing, even if there’s nothing to sing about. Sing harder than the noisy chatter in your head. Eventually the noisy chatter will lose its voice. It takes approximately 21 days to form a habit. Your future looks bright.

☕️ Get bigger dreams. Put God to the test. Reject small mindedness. Think outside of your limited views. You will have whatever you pray and work hard for.

☕️ Make room for a new circle of friends. People will stretch you and you will become more and more fruitful. Personal growth is highly contagious. You will not be the same person you were yesterday.

☕️ You will never see a miracle if your faith isn’t stretched. Do not fear, for you will not be ashamed. Look for something in your life that will only take a miracle to change the outcome. Add a prayer to it and watch God change your song.

☕️ You will forget the shame of your youth. Move past your yesterdays. Think big. God is doing a great work in you, and the half hasn’t been told.

THERE ARE MANY SLIPS BETWEEN THE CUP AND THE LIPS … “So if you want to brag, do what the Scriptures say and brag about the Lord.”
‭‭1 Corinthians‬ ‭1:31‬ ‭


Today’s Topic: Dare to Believe God!

• When sorrow comes in like a flood and your prayers feel like it’s not reaching God’s ears … what’s next?
• When you’re sitting among the ashes of your past failures and mistakes and your world comes crashing down…what’s next?
• When you lie on your bed and your tears have soaked the pillow … what’s next?
• When you’ve lost your way and you are at an intersection with no familiar signs to guide you … what’s next?
• When you’ve given all, and there’s no one around to give back to you in your need…what’s next?
• When the one you love doesn’t love you back … what’s next?
• When a voice within you says, “There’s no way you can still believe that God is good. Why don’t you give up and curse God and die?” What’s next?

Some of us will learn through bitter tears how to get to the next level call ‘I dare to believe God.’

Most of us have heard the hymn ‘Take my hand Precious Lord’

Do you know that the author of this beautiful hymn had lost his wife in childbirth and his newborn son died the following day?
He buried his wife and son in the same casket as his life crumbled before him leaving him in a state of depression.

It is said that he avoided people while becoming very angry with God. Thomas Andrew Dorsey said, “I felt God had done me an injustice. I didn’t want to serve Him anymore or write gospel songs.”

The story went on to say that one evening Thomas sat down at a friend’s piano and began to play. He began to say. “Blessed LORD, blessed Lord, blessed Lord.’ His friend walked over to him and said, “Why don’t you make that Precious Lord?”

Thomas began to sing, “Precious Lord, take my hand, lead me on, help me stand, I am tired, I am weak, I am worn; through the storm, through the night, lead me on to the light; take my hand Precious Lord, lead me on.”

The question is, who or what do you turn to when life hits you a painful blow? What if you lose a spouse and a child all at once? What if you get diagnosed with cancer? What if your spouse betrays your trust?

What if? What if? What if?

Can we say like Job – “We take the good things that God gives us. So, we should not be surprised if He send trouble as well.”

In our moments of grief and sadness may we never have anything bad to say about God. Never allow your feelings to override what God will do if you dare to trust Him.

Can we say like the song writer, “Precious Lord, take my hand”?
Talk to God instead of a friend. Ask Him to take your hands and lead you to the next step. We take good things from God so hold on stronger to Him when trouble comes.

PRAYER TIME: Father, we will not lose heart during our most difficult challenges. Whatever may come our way let us with great confidence sing, “Precious Lord, take my hand, lead me on, help me stand, I am tired, I am weak, I am worn; through the storm, through the night, lead me on to the light; take my hand precious Lord, lead me on.” In Jesus Name, Amen.


Today’s Topic: God will Help You

We will always have giants to kill so it’s either we kill them or they kill us. If there’s one thing I’ve learned about fear is that it silences your voice.

Giants are intimidating as you listen to the verbal threats screaming at you. Joyce Meyer says that the battlefield is in the mind. This is the time you need to affirm yourself of who you are in Christ. God has not given to you a spirit of fear but of love and a sound mind.

Satan on the other hand is doing his job by whispering lies and threats to you with the hope you will be severely intimidated and crippled with fear.

Matthew 6:34 says, “Give your entire attention to what God is doing right now, and don’t get worked up about what may or may not happen tomorrow. God will help you deal with whatever hard things come up when the time comes.”

The devil the evil one wants to knock you off with intimidating words and fear. Why? Because his job is to keep you so fearful that you will not align yourself with the Word of God.

It’s an all out war that very few survives. Stop thinking of the worst-case scenario and stand up nice and tall until the devil sees he can’t break you for nothing.

Don’t lose confidence in God. You don’t have to know all the answers because your confidence is in the One who has all the answers.

The Lord will stand with you and gave you strength so that you could tell everyone everywhere that God destroyed every giant in your life. God will deafened you from hearing the verbal threats.

Let’s say it out loud, very loud “God will help me and I will have nothing to fear.” Those who come against you will have to answer to God. ‬‬

Begin speaking words of faith back to the giants in your life. You are destined to win. You may not see the giants falling but you can’t put a period where God has put a comma.

PRAYER TIME: Father, we do not have all the answers as to how the giants we face are going to fall but we are confident that the battle is not ours but yours. In Jesus Name, Amen

Let’s say it out loud, very loud “God will help me and I will not be afraid.”


Facts Fight Fear.

There are days when you’re going to be strong. There are days when you will be weak. There are days when life gets complicated. There are days when all you can do is to give God thanks for another chance to be alive.

Allow me to let you in on a secret – God loves the simple days when we just give thanks. No request. No whining. He lives in our praises.

This is life and it’s no movie. With God’s help we have survived our worst days so far. We would not have made it without God.

Many times, adulting leaves us with little or no choice knowing that when we’re tired He gives strength. When we’re discouraged He gives us hope. What a friend we have in Jesus. We never walk alone.

We accept our weaknesses, and we appreciate our strengths. It’s what we choose to focus on keeps us hopeful.

Robert Browning Hamilton the poet wrote, “I walked a mile with pleasure, she chattered all the way, but left me none the wiser for all she had to say. I walked a mile with sorrow, and not a word said she … but oh, the things I learned from sorrow, when sorrow walked with me.”

To be human is to learn the most valuable lessons in our moments of sorrow. God never promised days without pain or sorrow, but He did promise that through it all He walks by our side.

God uses everything we have been through to make us mature lacking nothing. It’s mind blowing the things we learn about God during our darkest hours.

John 14:27 says, “Do not let your heart be troubled, and do not let it be afraid.”

Facts fight fear. When faced with the unknown Jesus becomes our anchor. He is the faithful God who keeps His promises for a thousand generations.

‘Fear not,’ is in the Bible 365 times. It’s a one-day booster jab to protect us from the virus of discouragement. God has graciously made His Word easily accessible for all seasons. He sits in the Heaven to perform every last word that is written.

The Word of God calls us names like ‘beloved son, dear friends, my children’…
Prayer is not getting God to do what we want Him to do but allowing God’s will to be done in our lives. Prayer doesn’t need proof that God is hearing. God hears our faintest cry.

God’s peace restores our mind.

Prayer Time: Father, thank you that we can trust you with everything that concerns us. Your Word is a light giving us wisdom and a lamp to keep our feet from stumbling along the obstacles in our way. In Jesus Name, Amen

‘Fear not,’ is in the Bible 365 times.” It’s a one-day booster jab to protect us from the virus of discouragement. His Word easily accessible to comfort us in all seasons.