OCTOBER 25 HEART TO HEART GROWN UP CONVERSATIONS

Today’s Topic: Relationships

To be happy and contented you must maintain healthy relationships with your parents, siblings, aunts, uncles, cousins, spouse, baby’s daddy, baby’s mommy, and children.

Relationships are not easy but if there are shared DNAs try everything possible to make things cordial.

Relationships are harder now because Social Media has become a platform to vent and air out dirty laundry. Conversations are done through texting, and counselling is accepting advice from people who don’t have to live with the consequences.

If you don’t heal what hurt you, you will bleed on people who didn’t cut you is such a powerful quote. Hurting people are sitting on a time bomb waiting to explode at a drop of a pin.

Relationships are not easy, but it’s ridiculous to
spend a lifetime being bitter and rehearsing the history until you take your last breath on earth.

I have had my fair share of deep hurt doing
cartwheels, throwing tantrums, and having emotional roller coasters till all my strength was gone. Getting out of self-pity was huge until I decided to take back control of my life. I decided no more poor me and I can’t believe this happened to me stories.

Nope. Bad stuff happens to everyone like a bad flu.

Anyone can catch it once you’re exposed to the outside world. During those experiences I learned the true meaning of unconditional love.

We learn how to live. We live what we learn. If we live with resentment, we will become fighters. If we live with love, the love will cover a multitude of wrong doings.

If we do not mend broken relationships with family members there will always be a white elephant sitting in the room staring at you all hours of the day and night making you vulnerable to the haunting images.

Let’s stop ignoring the white elephant in the room so we could heal. Cycles must be broken. Anger, divorce, sibling rivalry, parent-child conflicts, baby’s daddy, and mommy, did not start with you it started generations before you.

And if you keep refusing to do what’s right the toxic and negative cycles will be passed down to your gorgeous Princess and handsome Prince. Look for lessons learned. What could have been prevented and how to reset your choices in life.

The good news is, Jesus heals the broken hearted. Every person needs forgiveness. Allow God to examine each piece of the puzzled relationship and whatever hurts allow Him to heal.

1Peter 5:7 says, “Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you.” Nothing works until God steps in and miracles happen.

Prayer Time: Father, thank you that you are the Wonderful Counsellor and the Prince of Peace. Teach us to forgive so it doesn’t destroy our hearts. In Jesus Name, Amen.

REMINDER: Don’t allow today’s social media culture to drag you down to a level of immaturity.

OCTOBER 18 HEART TO HEART GROWN UP CONVERSATIONS

Today’s Topic: Believe in Yourself!

If something is important to you, you will do it even if all the odds are against you. You must be determined, passionate, and disciplined.

Quote: “You will never reach your destination if you stop and throw stones at every dog that barks.” This quote doesn’t literally means dogs. It means you will never reach your destination if you stop and respond to everyone who has something to say.

As grownups, our runway is shorter than it was before. No one has time to stop and respond to everything that others have to think or say. If you are determined and disciplined nothing is impossible.

Stop getting bent out of shape with things that have nothing to do with your goals. You have places to go, people to meet, and things to achieve.

There will always be people in your inner circle who are territorial and will from time to time throw obstacles in your way. They are the critical part to keeping you humble and focused.

If you lose heart you will never reach your destination. Do not feed the negativity. Don’t engage in the circus.

Jesus handpicked 12 people to be in his inner circle and one of them refuse to put their faith in Him and betrayed Him for money.

At the end of the day …it’s your dream/goal not anyone else’s that you are working on.

1 Peter 5:10 says, “Yes, you will suffer for a short time. But after that, God will make everything right. He will make you strong. He will support you and keep you from falling. He is the God who gives all grace.”

God will make you strong keep you from falling and His grace will keep you going. If there’s one piece of advice I can leave with you is, if there’s something you really want to achieve – be determined and disciplined.

Don’t give up no matter how long it takes. Keep a cool head. Stay focus. There will always be people who don’t believe in you and would like nothing better than to watch you fall.

Believe in yourself because God believes in you. You will never reach your destination if you stop to respond to everyone and everything that stands in your way.

Prayer Time: Father, help us to be determined, disciplined and to finish strong. Let us not lose heart by what’s happening around us. Make us a good examples of someone who believes in themselves even when no one else does. In Jesus Name, Amen.


Thought for today: If what you are working on puts a fight in you then be prepared to work hard.

OCTOBER 14 HEART TO HEART GROWN UP CONVERSATIONS

Today’s Topic: Reclaim Your Ground

A cluttered mind has too many tabs/thoughts all open at the same time. Your mind is not a storage unit. A cluttered mind makes the most noise at nights.

Your mind is one place where less is more. Unlike having a cluttered home you can’t keep empty boxes, trash, and items of no value in your mind.
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Hoarding unhealthy thoughts affect your personality, you eat more junk and watch more TV. It also affects your family’s lives, and other close relationships. ‬‬

A cluttered mind leads to impulsive decisions, drugs, alcohol, and waking up the next morning feeling overwhelmed. Like cleaning a cluttered home you must get rid of everything that’s toxic and harmful to your mental health and reclaim your space.

You don’t have a choice if you’re exhausted from the clutter and chaos of the mind. With the help of medical professionals and God …your chaos can turn into cheers of celebration.

Proverbs 15:22 says, “If you don’t ask for advice, your plans will fail. With many advisors, they will succeed.”
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Clutter is not only what goes on in the home and in the mind. It’s anything that keeps you back from living your best life. A calm mind is a calm heart and a calm life.

God will help you rebuild the wasted areas of your life. Your foundation will be stronger for the next generation. God will repair the gap and restore the beaten down paths of your life.

A mind is a terrible thing to waste. Your life is worth living in the sunshine of your soul. Be careful how you think. Your life is shaped by your thoughts.

Get rid of anything that steals your joy. God is with you. You will not fail. This time next year you will be proud of the choices you made. ‬‬

Prayer Time: Father, help us to cherish and hold those things that makes us feel strong. Help us to get rid of old habits, toxic thoughts, and hold fast to your Word. In Jesus Name, Amen.

OCTOBER 12 HEART TO HEART GROWN UP CONVERSATIONS

Today’s Topic: Stop Monitoring Things You Already Surrendered to God

Every mistake, heartbreak, cuts, bruises, betrayal, rejection, divorce, separation, and broken promises are important life’s lessons taught in the School of Hard Knocks.

It’s time to graduate. Walk through those doors like it’s your graduation day. It’s time to exhale, clear your mind, adjust your crown, and walk out like a boss.

Stop monitoring things you have already surrendered to God. This was the moment you were waiting for all your life. You have reached a higher level of redeeming your past. Your past was the dress rehearsal.

You don’t have to be famous just make yourself proud that you left everything in God’s hands. Stop monitoring things you have already surrendered to God. It’s a new day where the future looks bright.

Reloading the promises of God: Proverbs 16:7 “When a man’s ways please the Lord, He makes even his enemies to be at peace with him.”

Psalms 18:33 “You make my feet run as fast as those of a deer, and you help me stand on the mountains.”


Proverbs 4:23 “Carefully guard your thoughts because they are the source of true life.”

Exodus 23:20
“Look! I send an angel in front of you, to keep you safe on the journey. He will bring you to the place that I have prepared for you.”

Jude 1:24 “Now unto him that is able to keep you from falling, and to present you faultless before the presence of his glory with exceeding joy.”

Exodus 33:14 “And He said, “My Presence will go with you, and I will give you rest.”

Ecclesiastes 4:12
“Though one may be overpowered by another, two can withstand him. And a threefold cord is not quickly broken.”

You’ve got a bright future and it doesn’t look like your past. God’s promises will sustain you when your past comes knocking. Promise yourself to be brave enough to set up your boundary lines.

Prayer Time: Father, thank you that I don’t have to carry my past into my future. Your presence will go with me and give me rest. In Jesus Name, Amen.

You will be amazed at who and what you attract once you start believing in yourself. God loves you.

OCTOBER 11 HEART TO HEART GROWN UP CONVERSATIONS

Today’s Topic: Don’t be Muzzled

Today is Canada’s Thanksgiving 🇨🇦 Thanksgiving isn’t limited to what is going in and around you. Thanksgiving is the WAKEUP call that God is good all the time, and all the time God is good.

In a healthy relationship people experience good times, bad times, and in between times. Times never change the dynamics of the relationship. The team remains loyal to each other regardless of what’s happening in and around them. Their loyalty is untarnished.

So, when you hear someone say that God is good all the time, and all the time God is good … I trust you understand it’s the trust relationship between God and the person.

Seasons never change a person’s heart, and the heart doesn’t change because of the seasons. So the next time the devil tries to cloud your vision that God isn’t good all the time … put a silencer on his voice.

To be thankful isn’t a feeling, it’s that you choose not to be beat down, defeated, or allow wounds to muzzle your praise. You choose to remain in hope while your feet remain rooted in the goodness of God.

Your life is a story of many giants but your gratitude isn’t tied to the activities of the giants. Heaven is cheering you on because seasons are not dead ends.

Have you ever wondered why Thanksgiving Day in Canada and the USA falls during the season where everything is dark and gloomy, trees have lost their beauty and just before the coldest season of the year.

What’s happening in and around you should not limit your gratitude. The devil knows that if he can distract your vision by keeping you focus on the gloom… he will steal your praise.

Thanksgiving Day is not the time to be muzzled. It’s the best opportune time for Heaven to record your spirit of gratitude.

Over the last two years it feels like sorrow and sadness have taken up permanent residence in the secret room of our homes. Our gratitude has been muzzled by Satan’s scary antics.

Thanksgiving Day allows us to take back ownership of our homes and what activities need to be discouraged.

Whatever country you reside in send out a notice that it’s Thanksgiving Day in your home. No frills required. Just find a place at your table to give God thanks for bringing you through the varied seasons of life.

We may have 99 reasons to be gloomy and disheartened today but there’s always one reason to give God thanks. Do not be muzzled.

Regardless of where you live, every home should have a day to officially pause and give God thanks. Thank God for the bread and cheese and the water. It’s a great teaching moment for the family.

It’s not about the spread on the table but the spread of a grateful heart. Then watch God double your blessings. Don’t be muzzled. Seasons come and goes but your loyalty to God never changes.

Prayer Time: Father, in everything we give you thanks. In the good or bad times we will do the same. In Jesus Name, Amen.


Untangle your thoughts and move into an atmosphere of thanksgiving. God loves a grateful family. Thanksgiving is NOT a country. It’s NOT the spread. It is GRATITUDE towards God.

Happy Thanksgiving Day 🙏🏾

TGIF 😁😁😁

TGIF 💃🏾💃🏾

Laughter is the fastest way to create a positive state of mind.

A merry heart does good like medicine. A broken spirit dries up the bones.

Laughter reduces pain.

Smiling is a warm up to laughing.

Please tell yourself to laugh more 😂😂😂

Wishing you a wonderful weekend. Live! Laugh! Love!

OCTOBER 7 HEART TO HEART GROWN UP CONVERSATIONS

Today’s Topic: Be Uncommon!

Quote: “Don’t be afraid of being different, be afraid of being the same as everyone else.” Why would God The Master Designer of all human beings ever make us all the same?

We are all uniquely designed. No two finger prints are the same in the entire universe. You cannot make a difference if you are afraid to be different.

To be uncommon means that you will be criticized for your stand. Your light is going to irritate a whole bunch of unhealed people. Keep shining your light. You are uncommon. Being uncommon makes people uncomfortable.

When onlookers do not understand your uniqueness they may call you degrading names. A person who has God on their side fights their battles differently. At the sniff of a confrontation, they will not attack but move on to higher ground.

Stay in your unpopular lane. Your journey is personalized to be who you are becoming.
This life is more than running a popularity contest for titles and status. You have a God-given assignment.

The pandemic has removed the platforms, the concerts, the titles, and status. Don’t get caught up on positions.

There is an odd set of people scattered through the world who don’t fit in. Their ways are different from those of everybody else. If it pleases the true King of Kings that’s all that matters.

They may call you odd and avoid you because you do not fit in to the culture. Be proud that you are different from everybody else. That’s okay. You are uncommon anyways.

The things people say about others, speak loudly about themselves. Someone said that to avoid criticism do nothing, say nothing, and be nothing.

Let your personal integrity speak for itself. If you stand for nothing, you will fall for anything. The person in right standing before God is ready to move forward. You are uncommon/unique.

Prayer Time: Father, thank you for teaching us to keep our eyes on the prize of the high calling of God. We will not give in to external pressure by those who are not on the same journey as us. In Jesus Name, Amen

Be a God-principled person and don’t waste time to prove it.

OCTOBER 6 HEART TO HEART GROWN UP CONVERSATIONS

Topic: Don’t Go Down the Rabbit Hole

Quote: “Do the thing you fear to do and keep on doing it. That is the quickest and surest way ever yet discovered to conquer fear.”

Fear doesn’t need a formal invitation to participate in any of your mental or social discussions. All it takes to become unstable is to feel threatened by bad news, or hear a rumor, or to receive a disturbing call for fear to show up.

Fear is the worse robber of peace. If your mind is held a prisoner to your thoughts – game over.

You’re sleeping and you suddenly wake up from an unusual noise coming from inside your home. Your mind immediately jumps to the worst-case scenario, assuming that someone has entered your home or is trying to break in.

Whatever you see, hear, or even imagine suddenly becomes your new reality. When you stumble into the unknown, you believe that the worst is about to happen. It takes seconds for anyone to move and setup house in an unreal world of fear.

Sometimes, as parents watching the varied stages of our children, we tend to focus on the parts of life that are most painful. The mental and emotional toll is great.

For me, the worry is the hardest part to shake. We just want to do this thing right. We want our children to live the very best life they can. So, we scramble to avoid a catastrophe from happening believing we can control the outcome.

The devil knows when we are giving in to fear. He floods the mind with unimaginable thoughts just as you are trying to sleep. What you think of will either bring your mind back to reality or send you spiralling down a rabbit’s hole.

Stop and think about this verse: “Weeping many endure for a night, but joy comes in the morning.”
God’s Word always brings hope into every situation. The hope of getting up to a new day is as real as you choose to believe in new beginnings.

Even though our circumstance is still as it was the day before there’s joy in having a different mindset based on God’s Word. Recalling the Word of God stops Satan in his trap.

You are not alone when fear knocks at your door. Satan walks back and forth looking for someone to intimidate.

Stop the wheels of worry and turn up the volume of faith and hope that are rooted and established in God’s Word. It may be all dark now, but it will soon be morning. It may be frightful now, but it will soon be all peaceful.

James 5:16-28 says, “The prayer of a person living right with God is something powerful to be compared with. Elijah, for instance, human just like us, prayed hard that it wouldn’t rain, and it didn’t—not a drop for three and a half years. Then he prayed that it would rain, and it did. The showers came and everything started growing again.”

Prayer Time: Father, thank you for splitting the sea of fear so we could walk right through it till all our fears are drowned. Thank you for rescuing us so we can tell the world that we are children of the only true and living God. In Jesus Name, Amen.

REMEMBER: Fear is the worse robber of peace. If your mind is held a prisoner to your thoughts – game over. You are not alone when fear knocks at your door. Satan walks back and forth looking for someone to intimidate. Stop the wheels of worry and turn up the volume of faith and hope that are rooted and established in God’s Word. It may be all dark now, but it will soon be morning. It may be frightful now, but it will soon be calm.