MAY 11 GROWN UP CONVERSATIONS with JUNE DOYLE

Retirement is “The Second Half of Life”

Someone said: “The second half of a man’s life is made up of nothing but the habits he has acquired during the first half.”

The first half of our years are spent finding our purpose to life and the ways we can grow and evolve into the best person who we could possibly be.

When the second half of our lives comes along and things aren’t quite like they used to be, it will reveal our true and authentic self whatever that looks like.

We were once young and innocent. We were once strong and did reckless things. We were once fast and curious.

In the second half of life we simply want to enjoy all the things we never had time to do in the first half of our years. No alarms are necessary. No competitions. Just to reap the benefits of our investments.

“Goodbye Tension. Hello Pension.” 😂

In 1964 Muhammad Ali formerly Cassius Clay in a fight with Sonny Liston was asked how he would approach the bout with the “unbeatable” world heavyweight champion.

He responded: “Float like a butterfly, sting like a bee.

Muhammad Ali was a very boastful and confident boxer that walked the talk. He was quick on his feet dancing around but yet managing to give a powerful punches that knocked his opponent out like a dead bee.

He was definitely unbeatable. But one day he said, “I hated every minute of training, but I said, ‘Don’t quit. Suffer now and live the rest of your life as a champion.”

As retirees, we must purpose to live our best life without apologies because our training days are over.

Retirement is not the end but the beginning of living life doing what we want, when we want, and how we want.

God has already decided whether we will live for a long time or for a short time. He knows the number of months that we will live. And we cannot change that.

So let’s make the rest of our life, the best days of our lives.

In the SECOND HALF OF LIFE we are pretty much doing stuff without putting much thought into it because we have done it so many times before. We turn the stove on and off. We throw laundry into the machine and knows just how much time we have left to go back and take them out.

Another one of Muhammad Ali’s quotes I find interesting is, “Service to others is the rent you pay for your room here on earth.”

Let’s be intentional about serving others. There will always be someone in our circle who need some kind of help. We can’t be everything to everyone but we can at least help someone.

It’s the rent we are paying for our space here on earth.

Everyone has something to give – a smile, a kind word, a gesture, or send an encouraging message.

If we keep doing things for ourselves without giving back – we will lose our joy.

Abraham Lincoln said, “And in the end, it’s not the years in your life that count. It’s the life in your years.”

Here’s a story:

“A woman looked in the mirror and saw that she had only two strands of hair on her head. “Hm…mm..,” she said, “I think I’ll part my hair down the middle today.” So she did and she had a grand day.

The next day she woke up, looked in the mirror and noticed that she had only one strand of hair on her head. “Well,” she said, “Today I’m going to wear my hair in a pony tail.” So she did, and she had a fun, fun day.

The next day she woke up, looked in the mirror and noticed that there wasn’t a single hair on her head. “YAY!” she exclaimed. “I don’t have to fix my hair today!”

Moral of the story is: The way you speak to yourself matters. Life is better when you are laughing.

Every day may not be good, but there’s something good in every day.

Watch your thoughts, they become words. Watch your words, they become your actions. Watch your actions, they become habits. Watch your habits, they become your character. Watch your character, it becomes your destiny.

The dash is the representation of life. Something that comes between our birth and our death. Let’s make that little dash count. It is more important to consider how we lived that dash … instead of how long we lived.

The 2nd half comes to an end quicker than we think. God made us all with a void. That emptiness is a wake-up call to go to God, who is the only One who can turn emptiness into fullness.

Romans 15:13 “May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit.”

As we continue to place our trust in God, He will continue to fill our heart with joy, peace, and a hope that overflows into our tomorrows.

YOUR ONE MINUTE with DR. KRISSY DOYLE-THOMAS Neuroscientist and Professor 🧠

How to HACK your HAPPY BRAIN CHEMICALS👇🏽👇🏽

DOPAMINE is our reward brain chemical. We activate dopamine when we complete a task, engage in self-care, reward our progress, or eat our favourite foods.

OXYTOCIN is our love brain chemical. We can activate oxytocin when we socialize, play with a pet, hold hands/ touch someone we love, give a compliment, or show love in some way.

SEROTONIN is our mood stabilizing brain chemical. We can activate serotonin when we meditate or pray, go out into nature or expose ourselves to the sun.

ENDORPHINS are our pain relieving brain chemicals. We activate endorphins when we exercise, move our bodies and laugh.

I hope you find some way to engage your happy brain chemicals today.🤗

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Message to Karina Lam

Dear Karina,

This message is to let you know how much I appreciate our long years of friendship. You’ve have been in my corner of the world like forever. There isn’t a post that you have not liked. Not one….and I THANK YOU.

We have never met in person. We live miles apart. We have different ethnicities but we share the same Heavenly Father who sees our hearts.

I decided to celebrate you today. You are my silent listener to my every conversation. Your love and encouragement have made me a better person. I thank you.

Distance means so little, when someone means so much to you. You deserve a million thanks and all the hugs I can give.

HAPPY MOTHER’S DAY 💐💐💐💐💐💐

MAY 9 GROWN UP CONVERSATIONS with JUNE DOYLE

“WOMEN HEAL WELL WHEN THEY ARE LOVED RIGHT”

If we avoid people because of their lifestyle, our churches will be empty. Our homes will be void of love. Heaven will be empty, and we will not fulfill God’s commandments to love people where they are at.

No one is perfect. “I have sinned and done wrong since the day I was born.”
‭‭Psalms‬ ‭51:5‬ ‭CEV‬‬

Thank God that our adoption’s papers were signed, sealed, and delivered before we enter the ‘rat race’ of life.

Without Jesus, we will never be loved right for healing to take place in our lives. We will never get rid of shame. We will never overcome regrets. And we will never be adopted into God’s family. Since the day as were born, we were imperfect human beings.

It is only God that makes us good through Jesus Christ’s righteousness. He made provision for our imperfections and mistakes by adopting us into His family.

God saw you and me at our worse and He still believed in us. Let’s start looking at each other through the eyes of our adoption papers. Let’s be committed to helping each other to succeed.

Women heal well when they are loved right. If we want to make a difference in this world, let’s love on people as they are. Let’s believe in each other even before we see the evidence.

Let’s defend each other. Let’s cheer for each other. Let’s think the world about each other even if it’s hard to see the good. No one is perfect. We heal well when we are loved right.

Jesus said to a woman caught in bed with a man that was not her husband and said to her, “I am not going to accuse you either. You may go now, but don’t sin anymore.”
‭‭John‬ ‭8:11‬ ‭CEV‬‬

Jesus loved the woman in the right way. He loved her in the ‘Jesus’ way. His love made her have a change of heart.

Let’s lift each other up. Let’s protect each other. If there’s no enemy inside, the enemy outside cannot enter. I need you to love and accept me. You need me to love and accept you.

Our goal is not to outshine each other. We are called to be an encourager. We have enough critics that try to silence our voices.

Let’s root for each other and put away the differences. We all have insecurities and highlighting mines will not hide yours.

We need to accept that we will not always make the right decisions. Sometime we will mess up. Our failures are the lessons we take with us when we’re writing our success story.

WOMEN HEAL WELL WHEN THEY ARE LOVED RIGHT.

MAY 5 GROWN UP CONVERSATIONS with JUNE DOYLE

Mothers: Fear is Not an Option

Fear is activated when we sense danger, or where a situation reminds us of a past trauma, or when we are alone in an unfamiliar place. Our heart rate becomes abnormal, our breathing increase, and our imagination magnifies everything.

Our immediate response is, do I run away or fight through the discomfort?
Fear is:

  • False Evidence APPEARING Real.
  • Forget Everything And Run
  • FACE EVERYTHING AND RISE.

Fear is a feeling that magnifies everything making our life feel out of control. Let’s get real. Our imagination is our biggest enemy not fear. Fear is the side effect of our imagination. False evidence appearing real.

Funny joke: The first thing you think of when you see a spider in your bed: Aaaaaaahhhhh. The second thing you think, there may be more. The third thing you think, I’m sleeping on the couch tonight. The last thing you think, sleep. Yeah right.

I don’t think the fear of the spider is the real issue but it’s the fact that it’s dark and we are afraid of the what ifs.

Let’s step out of the what ifs and focus on making bold decisions to change our narratives. Fear is paralyzing and nothing is as regrettable as staying stuck in places you are not happy.

Faith is being sure of things we cannot see.

Fear is the evidence of things APPEARING to be real.

Faith energizes. Fear paralyzes. I don’t think it’s a difficult decision to make.

Fear is not an option if we want 2022 to be our year of breakthroughs. Let’s stop making false evidence appear to be real. Fear is just a feeling/emotion.

Faith makes us sure of what we hope for and gives us proof of what we cannot see.

“But without faith no one can please God. We must believe that God is real and rewards everyone who searches for him.”
‭‭Hebrews‬ ‭11:6‬ ‭CEV‬‬

Let’s please God with our crazy FAITH.

Prayer Time: Father, we believe everything will work out for our good. You always have something better in store for us. We are not looking back. We’re moving forward in Jesus Name. Amen

Faith and Fear makes you believe in something you cannot see. Choose Faith – it works.

MAY 4 GROWN UP CONVERSATIONS with JUNE DOYLE

MAMA: It’s Okay to Rest

Regardless of what life throws our way, there must be a Bible verse that can speak to how we’re feeling, what we’re experiencing, and can guide us towards having a more positive mindset.

We can’t stop the birds from flying over our heads, but we can absolutely stop them from building a nest. Anxious thoughts help no one. Isaiah 40:31 “But those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength; they will fly with wings like eagles; they will run and not be tired; they will walk and not faint.”

A trouble free mind doesn’t mean that everything is good, it simply means that you choose to trust God whenever you become overwhelmed. Peace of mind comes when you become selective with the things that takes up space in your memory bank.

Dr. Krissy Doyle-Thomas talks a lot on Serotonin. Serotonin is our happy hormone. Matthew 6:27 “Who among you by worrying can add a single moment to your life?” So what are our options?

Listen to music, walk by a lake, write or journal, get some sunshine, laugh, and smile with everyone that crosses paths with you. These activities will produce serotonin your happy hormone.

Hebrews 13:6 “This is why we can confidently say, ‘The Lord is my helper, and I won’t be afraid. What can people do to me?”

Being a Mom is a full time job with low wages, but give yourself some credit. You weren’t a doctor but you healed many wounds. You weren’t a singer but you soothe many tears away. You weren’t in the army but you fought many battles.

Stop sitting on the floor without planning how you will get back up. Your wings are ready to take into a whole new world where your experiences will meet opportunities.

Proverbs 12:25 “Anxiety leads to depression, but a good word encourages.” When you’re experiencing a tough time, it can be hard to see beyond that. But try to focus on the positive things and learn to rest.

Prayer Time: Father, you have given us 365 “Fear not” in the Bible. They are our one a day reminder. Thank you that you are always in control of our daily happenings. We will not be fearful. Our heart will trust in you. In Jesus Name, Amen

If anyone tries to break into your quiet place, I pray they trip over your children’s shoes and toys and flee.

MAY 3 GROWN UP CONVERSATIONS with JUNE DOYLE

“Strive to Do What’s Right”

Mothers, our children hear everything we say, but they choose to imitate our voice, mannerisms, and even the way we dress. No longer can we say to them, ‘Do as I say but not as I do.’

It’s so important that we try our best to be good role models even if we didn’t have any. Our children are paying close attention even when they appear to be distracted doing their own stuff.

This is so funny but true….Have you ever yelled your child’s name out and got no response then you whispered something to your spouse and immediately they heard everything.

The question is, do we want our children to be another generation carrying the weight of our mistakes and regrets on their shoulders? It’s the images in their minds that creates toxic behaviour.

It’s up to us to break the stereotype of ‘Don’t tell me what to do. I will learn from my mistakes.’

When we heal ourselves, we heal the next generation that follows. Toxic behaviour is passed on until someone says, ‘I am ready to heal and break the cycle.’ Let’s strive to do better and inspire our children to refuse to inherit the dysfunctions that we grew up with.

Let them see us pray. Help them to understand the importance of having a healthy relationship with the Heavenly Father who will never leave them or forsake them when the crossroads gets confusing.

So many children are feeling lost, hurt, terrified, and confused. The sad reality is, many times their own parents don’t know. Time spent with our children is never wasted. Let’s strive to do what’s right.

The home is not the same when Mommy is not there. Our presence is powerful and effective making the home a safe haven. I never heard a mother regretting how much time she spent with her children. And I’ve never heard a child complaining that their Mother spend too much with them.

Culture may change but God’s Word does not. “Teach children how they should live. They will remember it all their lives.”
‭‭Proverbs‬ ‭22:6‬ ‭EASY‬‬

Every word and action will either add up to or take away from the watchful eyes that keeps track of our every movement. Let’s strive to do what’s right, not what’s easy

Prayer Time: Father, even when we are mentally and emotionally exhausted may we find the strength to be present for our children. Give us the grace and strength to do all that needs to be done for our children. In Jesus Name, Amen

Quote: “To be in our children’s memories tomorrow, you have to be in their lives today.”

MAY 2 GROWN UP CONVERSATIONS with June DOYLE

MAY 2 GROWN UP CONVERSATIONS with June DOYLE

In 6 days we will be celebrating Mother’s Day. There’s no doubt becoming a mother is one of the happiest days of your life. Being a mother has its bittersweet moments where you love and protect your babies from cuts, bruises, and falls to allowing them to grow up and learn from their mistakes.

Watching a child struggle without stepping in to fix things for them I think is one of the hardest chapter of being a mother. 👉🏾 A child is someone you gave birth to even when they are grown up and have children of their own.

Parenting is a long, long journey with many happy AND heart wrenching moments. There are many challenges we never dreamed or imagined we would have to face like when a child is defiant, disrespectful, or untrustworthy. But life happens.

As much as we love our children… we can’t reduce the consequences for them making bad choices. But hopefully like getting a speeding ticket more than once we learn to stop speeding … so we pray and hope that our children will sooner than later learn the lessons of poor choices.

Take courage. Let faith arise. Remember every promise in God’s Word is a promise to us His children, and to our children’s children.

Isaiah 58:12 “You will build again the cities which became heaps of stones a long time ago. You will build your houses on the old foundations. People will call you, “Builders who mend the walls and the streets with their houses.”
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Mothers, we cannot do life without God. A tree with strong roots laughs at the storms. Stay anchored to Christ. We are getting older with each passing day and we will not be here forever. Take care of yourself and let others take responsibility for their actions.

If we do the will of God, He will repair and restore the damage sin has done. We will pray that God will heal and build the walls that were broken down.

Prayer Time: Father, our children belong to you and no one can pluck them from your hands. We stand firm in faith that you will repair and restore the broken walls in our families. In Jesus Name, Amen

Discipline your children and teach them the right way when they are young, because trying to do it when they are older might be too late for them and yourself.