Caution: Make sure everybody in your boat is rowing and not drilling holes when you are not looking. Your friends, family and loved ones should be championing your achievements but the truth is everyone will not. When you win, your circle should feel as if they are winning but not everyone will. Switch your thoughts from being offended and hurt to growing and healing and watch how everything changes.
Do not grant anyone the enjoyment of making you a bitter person because of their behaviors. If no one throws you a life jacket if you fall overboard – God will help you back onboard. People need your forgiveness and love despite how you feel about their actions. They may never ask for forgiveness, but forgiveness gives you freedom from resentment.
God is a God of rebuilding and repairing relationships. The Lord’s prayer says, “Forgive us our sins as we forgive those who sin against us.” We need forgiveness and we need to forgive others.
Someone said, “Kindness is a language the blind can see and the deaf can hear.”
Being kind is a personal choice and it is never dependent on what others do or do not do. Never play the victim role. Do not make excuses why you stopped rowing. Be the one who is always motivated to try again.
It takes discipline to keep going when you discover strains in your relationships. Anyone who is on the top of their game kept going despite the pain.
Find your piece of the pie and applaud loudly when others win.
Some people make things happen. Some people watch things happen. Some people wonder what happened.
Fix the flaws and keep rowing – it builds character. Will it be easy? Maybe not! Will it be worth it? Absolutely!
There is this funny quote I saw once – “You throw up before you pass out, you pass out before you die, and if you die – we’ll name a boat after you.”
Just keep rowing despite the pain – your legacy will live on.
God is your refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble. The reality is that there will be difficult times, but God promises to be your safe haven.
When trusted people fail you and water gets into the boat – God has not failed you.
Is there anything too hard for God? Nothing is Impossible with God. Do not doubt His abilities. Instead, trust God to do the impossible in your life, in your family’s life , in your community, and while fixing your boat. Nothing is too hard for God!
On good days – row. On bad days – row harder. Crying is acceptable. Quitting is never an option. Pray! Love! Row!
Some of the kindest people have lived in a world that was not kind to them. Life is too short to wake up everyday with regrets.
Life’s story never goes as planned but Jesus always have a plan. 2 Timothy 4:17 “But the LORD stood with me and gave me strength.” Sometimes I had to work harder than I was expecting because of holes in my boat – but when anxiety was great within me, God’s consolation brought me joy.
Have you ever found yourself negotiating with God? It may surprise you that God prefers that you be direct when speaking with Him. When we look behind or up ahead – God is there. God knows our thoughts way before we are conscious of our own thoughts.
Honest relationship is more than saying the nice words when everything is peaceful and calm. God wants to hear when the storms of life are creating unsettling thoughts in your mind causing you to pace the floor in the wee hours of the morning. God knows when you are struggling to say through tears – ‘Having done all I choose to stand in my faith.’
Although many times you maybe flat-out discouraged lying on the floor – pause for a moment and remember the other times you survived what you thought was the worst period of your life. Wouldn’t God do it again? Despite what the facts may look like – the facts cannot stop God’s unique design for your life. This is the difference between fake faith and real faith.
Many times, it looks like someone keeps moving the goal post every time you get close to it. Followed by the mocking jeers of Satan saying to you, ‘Let me see God bring you out of this very twisted mess.’ Sure, enough the more you think of the evidence in front of you is the greater the resistance it is to fight back.
Spiritual fatigue is real when you are in the waiting room. But thank God your loyalty to God keeps you fighting round after round. When your heart is broken – you will find God right there reminding you of His promises. If you get kicked in the gut, He helps you catch your breath. Psalms 34:18
Having all the resources in the world available to you is of no help when life falls apart. But a life built on principles of the Bible and faith in God can withstand the worst. When your hope is crushed – your heart is crushed – but God gives a song in the midnight hour. God holds your world is in His hand. You will not fall apart.
Your faith grows when you are being challenged by a stubborn enemy. Big faith means big battles. Little faith means no battles. You may bend and become broken but like a good strong oak tree you will survive the storm because your faith roots are deep.
God is fighting battles for you that you are completely unaware of because you are overly nervous about the moving goal post. Your faith must be real so your responses can be different.
Faith is like an echo – when you speak – it comes right back at you.
Put your fears back to sleep. You are not on night watch duties – God is.
Real faith in God supports positive thoughts. Do everything you can to pull through the night by rehearsing the promises from God in the Bible.
If you think you are ready to do life with God – God is ready to build an honest relationship with you.
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Most of us become impatient waiting on people, things, traffic lights, trains, buses, planes etc. It is even much harder to wait around hoping that something good will happen to change the outcome of a disappointment. When you expected a yes, but you got a no – know that your only comeback is your ability to choose one positive thought over a negative one.
Your ability to let go of what you wanted is your way out of an unplanned crisis. Never allow your mind to bully you into believing that you cannot go on because of disappointment. When the long-awaited phone call does not happen trust that God is on the other end of the phone line. More times than not it is our distractions that are loud.
How can God display His miraculous ways if there is never a plot twist? There is one truth that I am totally convinced about – God can put total strangers in your path to get you where you are supposed to be. The only way God can show us that He is in control is to put us into situations where we cannot control the outcome.
Those kinds of situations let us know that we are not wise enough to map out our entire life without bringing us to moment of truth where we do not know what to do next. When God wants to show you and I that His love is safe to trust – He puts us into situations where it is only God and God alone that can rescue us.
Far too many times we find ourselves waiting for the applauses of our circle of friends then to move forward. Meanwhile, God is saying to us, ‘Trust Me. I will take you to the place where the behaviors of others will not destroy your inner peace.’ Sometimes, people who betray our trust is all part of God’s plan.
The plan God has for each of us is unique and unmatched by anything we may have seen before. It is ridiculous to limit God based on our short-sightedness. While you are waiting at the bus stop for Bus 99 God may have many times sent you a helicopter, but you were too focus on the bus schedule. It is funny how we think that God is not hearing our prayers while God thinks we are not hearing or seeing Him.
God is never late. His timing may be confusing or even frustrating for us because we simply did not take the time to consult with Him before heading out to our destination. We need to stop giving people so much power over our lives believing you need their affirmation. Run your race and allow God’s grace to bring you to an expected end.
Stop over-analyzing. Stop regretting. Do not allow anyone to keep you waiting at the wrong bus stop. It is time to move. We sometimes face things that appears to be out of control, but if we can rest assure that God has it all under His control – every little thing is going to be alright.
When everything within you tremble and shake – pull yourself together and hold fast to God’s promises that are unbreakable. So many things are being shaken around us and uncertainty blossoms with each passing day. 2020 is the year of changes.
Everywhere there is chaos and a whole lot of uncertainty in an extraordinary way. Our society appears to be shaken with the rattling noises of the outside world.
We are reasonably angry and hope for a better tomorrow looks grim. Let us root for each other and watch each otherget through this year.
Everything we face in this life is part of the journey that was mapped out by God for us. We will come out stronger and wiser than we were the day before.
Today’s chapter is tomorrow’s story. We cannot get past the noise and chaos on our own – we need each other. 2020 will awaken us to the truth that no one person is an island.
We were never meant to do life alone. We need each other. Loneliness will leave many victims of a cold heartless world. To have a friend you must first be a friend.
Proverbs 13:20 (MSG)says, “Become wise by walking with the wise; hang out with fools and watch your life fall to pieces.”
Choose your friends wisely so when difficult times come, and the dust is settled a wise friend always proves to be a good friend. We can all learn from each other.
Many things we learn to do in life we learned from watching others. Anyone who think he or she knows everything is doomed to fail. We all have something to offer and when arranged on the table it multiplies.
The things that matter most are our faith, family, and friends. Even if you cannot see the end of the journey, we must choose to keep walking by faith and not by sight.
Someone said, ‘I believe in the sun, even when it is not shining. I believe in love, even when I am alone. I believe in God, even when He is silent.’
What a year 2020 has been – the shaking has been going on for a very long time and in relation to all of this we ought to remember that Jesus said if we build our trust on solid rock when the rain pours down, and the river becomes flooded, and a tornado hit – nothing will move that house. It was fixed to the rock Jesus Christ.
When everything else is shaken the throne of God can never be shaken. Find your circle of friends and learn to lean heavy on the promises of God.
Not one of God’s promises ever failed to be fulfilled. There is a promise for everything we face in life. When we put our faith in Jesus Christ, He never disappoints us.
God is always with us – we will not fear. God is always in Control – do not doubt. God is always good – do not lose heart. God is always watching – we will not fear.
We build solid relationships with the hope of finding security, but we keep God as a third wheel moving around with us for emergency cases only. God cannot be your defense if you build houses for yourself but keep Him in temporary tents for your emergencies. God requires stability. He is not on house call duties – call today and gone tomorrow.
The lyrics of the song ‘His eye is on the sparrow’ have many times reassured me when there were more questions than answers. I knew I had a constant friend in Jesus. The Word tells me God’s eye is on the sparrow, so I know God watches over me. Discouragement cannot overstay its time.
There once was a little girl in a faraway country without a voice. As this little grew she only use her voice to cheer for everyone running in the race of life. One day life handed her a bag of lemons and she sat and pondered on the whys, the what ifs, who did it, and where it was done. Then her inner voice spoke up loud and clear and said, ‘You can write your words until you are brave enough to speak.’
Today, this little girl wrote her words and her voice is echoed throughout the world. I am that little girl who no one heard my voice while growing up.
I thank everyone who listened to my voice and applauded me in the public arenas. The loud applause made me brave and reassured me that my voice matters.
The plane has landed with Grown Up Conversations on-board. Amazon has released my first book and it is now available online. Thank You Jesus for being the PILOT of my plane.
Thanks to my online readers who applauded and supported my dream. Thanks to my incredible husband for partnering with me for the last 47 years. To my four wonderful daughters thank you for the experiences of being your mother. To my amazing sister Joy for holding my hands from when I was that little girl without a voice to having a clear, loud voice.
God stood with me and give the strength to speak up on the very topics that once held me in bondage. He used me as a vessel to carry the light to others. When life gives you, lemons throw a reading club party.
When you make God your partner, He will serve you a six-course dinner right in front of the whole world. He straightens your drooping head, and your cup will overflow with blessings. God comes alongside you and gives you peace.
Prayer time: Master God, being the God You are, speaking affirming words as You do, and having just said that You will give all Your children rest from their enemies all around, please, just one more thing – Bless our families and keep your eye on them always. Let those who do not have a voice be heard across the world bringing hope to all. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.
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I appreciate all my relationships and experiences that life has allowed to come my way. Every season from the cradle to who I am today has launched me into the person I always dreamt of becoming. I chose to become better and not bitter whenever life handed me something unpleasant. I know I do not have to be perfect – I only need to be me.
When you realize that you can be a better version of yourself you will never want to go back to who you were yesterday. I did not change overnight like the stories you read in books. It took me years moving slowly to discover there is a better edition of myself in the making. I am strong because I had to face my weakness and I fought long and hard to get out of the self-imposed cage.
I switch from being helpless to growing and healing. I intentionally change from trying to make everyone happy, living in the past and doubting myself. Sometimes the people you wish would be part of your life you soon realise that they were only meant to be a chapter. Life will never be perfect just make it happen and shock everyone.
To open a new door, you must be ready to close the other one first. You cannot stand between two doors. It may be scary, but it is necessary. Saying goodbye to the old you will open new opportunities for you to become bolder and stronger. Accept the new you. Let go of the old and have faith in what lies ahead. No one writes a new chapter by re-reading the last one.
Many times, we wait and wait for the right time which makes it so much more stressful. We do not need to know all the answers. Just breathe and take small steps. There comes a time when all the things that took up so much space in your head will become stories of freedom bringing hope to others.
God is the One who made you in the first place and He says to you – “Do not be afraid, I have called your name and you are mine. When you are in over your head, I will be there for you. When you are between a rock and a hard place, it would not be a dead end – because I am God , your personal God.” Isaiah 43:1-2
In all things God works for the good of all those who love Him. On the darkest days when you feel inadequate and unworthy remember that God will do anything to get you back under His wings. So, straighten your crown you have survived what you thought would have destroyed you.
Yes, you can! You are strong and capable of greater things!
Someone said, if you ever feel like giving up, just remember there is a little girl or boy watching who wants to be just like you – you should not disappoint them. The nursery rhyme Mary had a little lamb comes back to me while I am writing. Everywhere Mary went the lamb was sure to go even when it was against the rules the lamb still lingered near. Why?
There is an unbreakable bond between a mother and her child. Everything we do as mothers there are little eyes that are looking. They will one day act out exactly whatever they have been witnessing. Kids are like a mirror, what they see that is what they will do. Through good times or bad times those little eager eyes and ears linger around mimicking our tones and behavior.
I have come to realize that regardless of what parenting style you adopt children enjoy and learn best by observing their parents. It is naïve to assume that children will not do what they see you doing. The phrase ‘Do as I say, not as I do’ is the most hypocritical order known in the world’s book of parenting. To tell a child who is looking up at you not to imitate your behavior but to obey your instructions is deceitful and desperately wicked.
The more a child knows the details of their parent’s life will either make that child an added value to society or a menace to society. Children learn by observing. They do not listen when we speak. There is a saying, ‘Give a child the right shoes and they will conquer the world.’ Your guess and my guess are true if this is reverse – ‘Give a child the wrong shoes and he or she will bring shame and disgrace to the mother.’
As parents it is important to model what we want to see in our children. A child that is unhappy never stop loving their mothers, they stop loving themselves. A child’s psychologist said, ‘Misbehavior is a child’s way of communicating there is an unmet need.’ Placing a child on timeout is giving you a break but it is not communicating anything to your child but fear of not wanting to be alone again.
All problems have solutions. We do not have to be perfect to be a good parent but we first respect ourselves so our kids can grow up to be healthy citizens.
Find your child’s love language:
Positive affirmation. Be positive when communicating
Touch. Hugs, holding hands, anything to do with touching
Time together. Quality time doing things you both enjoy
Acts of service. Cooking dinner together. Packing the dishwasher
Gifts. Remembering birthdays are important. A little surprise on any given day adds happiness
Mommy’s goal is when her children are grown, they should still be looking forward to coming home. When they have a crisis, home is where they run to. Keep the love languages on your door post and write them on your heart.
To my girlfriends, we are braver than we believe. We are stronger than we feel. We are smarter than we think. Find the tribe that will elevate and inspire you when you need a jump start.