TUESDAY 2nd Week in NOVEMBER GROWN UP CONVERSATIONS

The Circle of Life

Someone said, “If you look at the people in your circle and you don’t get inspired – you don’t have a circle. You have a cage.”

We inherit traits from our parents like our height, nose, lips, eyes – we can also inherit curses or blessings. There are some behavioural patterns that are disturbing when we see them being repeated in our generation.

When we look at our family circle certain behaviors can often trigger stories we heard growing up. For instance, separation or divorce, parenting skills or lack thereof, unemployment and financial problems, illnesses, drugs, alcohol abuse, gambling addiction, and the list can go on and on. If what you’re seeing aren’t  inspiring you and you’re not being moved to take action – you have become a prisoner to the disorder.

Be the person who dares to break the cycle assuring that unhealthy patterns in your family ends with you. We can’t change decisions and choices made by previous generations, but we can choose what we don’t want to be affiliated with and the example we want to live for those after us.

Deuteronomy 11: 26 -28 says, “Listen to me. I’m setting a blessing and a curse in front of you today. I’m giving you the commands of the Lord your God today. You will be blessed if you obey them. But you will be cursed if you don’t obey them. So, don’t turn away from the path I’m now commanding you to take. Don’t turn away by worshiping other gods you didn’t know before.”

God clearly gives us all a freewill to choose either a blessing or a curse. As parents we have the primary responsibility and God-given authority to teach us children laying a firm foundation.

Deuteronomy 11: 19-21 says, “Teach them to your children. Talk about them when you are at home. Talk about them when you walk along the road. Speak about them when you go to bed. And speak about them when you get up. Write them on the doorframes of your houses. Also write them on your gates. Then you and your children will live for a long time in the land. The Lord promised to give the land to Abraham, Isaac and Jacob. Your family line will continue as long as the heavens remain above the earth.”

There are no perfect families but there’s always a perfect God. If you didn’t come from a healthy family, make sure a healthy family comes from you. The most important work we can ever do in life is what’s behind the walls of our homes.

Family laughs and learns. Prays and protects. Apologizes and appreciates. Fights and forgives. Teases and trust. Gives and grows. Believes and belongs. Family is FOREVER.

PRAYER TIME: Thank You LORD for my family. Break generational curses in my life and in my children’s life. Thank You for loving us for who we are and for we are becoming. Help us to set up healthy boundaries to keep Your blessings within. In Jesus Name, Amen

MONDAY 2nd Week in November GROWN UP CONVERSATIONS

Understand the Journey

We are all on a journey from the moment we took our first breath until we take our last breath. It’s a journey filled with hugs and kisses at birth, teenage lessons, adulting classes, grandparent’s days, 50’s, 60’s and beyond celebrations, and you can safely throw in all kinds of ‘I really don’t know when things changed’ days.

Life has taught us a lot about our strengths, weaknesses, values, principles, and morals. We are the sum total of all the experiences we have undergone in life. A good friend told me this week and I had to laugh out loud – “June, the devil is patient.” What a powerful thought. I repeat – The Devil is patient. He will fire out attacks after attacks regardless of who you are – until he gets you to surrender.

He attacks your mind. He gets you to be at war with family members, friends, co-workers, your exes – ferociously arguing over big and small matters. And if that’s not enough he blindsides you with a heavy doze of bad news sending you down a rabbit hole.

Psalms 25:4-5 says, “Show me how you work, God; School me in your ways. Take me by the hand; Lead me down the path of truth. You are my Savior, aren’t you?”

When we want to learn something, we ask for help.  David the Psalmist asked God to show him how He works and to lead him down the path of truth. When family relationships or your finances are in shambles – TRUTH oftentimes get lost in the commotion. As rookies we need to ask God to show us how He works and lead us down the path of truth.  

Complaining about a problem, without pursuing God’s truth is called whining. God is fair and He corrects us when we are going down the wrong pathway sending us in the right direction as He did with the Psalmist David. The only way to win the wars where Satan is the mastermind is to stop playing in his playground.

A WORD TO THE WISE – Never find yourself at war with anyone to see who can hate the most.

Everything you do in life will echo back to you so let go of what is hurting your heart and allow God to show you His secrets. What you sow, you will reap so sow good seeds because they will show up on your table. What you give, you get so be careful with your words they make up your bed at nights.

Never blame anyone for the choices you make because only you will live with the consequences. Living in the past and rehashing the unhappy experiences are the quickest way to throw away your ticket to life.

Appreciate your journey of life – there are many dead people who would do ANYTHING to start all over again.

PRAYER TIME: Father, thank You for this life that you have set aside for me. I choose to daily walk in Your truth. I’m honored that You have chosen me above many others to be alive today. Let me do the best I can with Your help. In Jesus Name, Amen

Happy Friday

Happy Friday everyone. May your cup overflow with PEACE, LOVE, JOY and pure AWESOMENESS. No doubt we’ll all had our share of disappointment and hiccups but there’s always a lot more to be grateful for.

At last … it’s time to enjoy the weekend. Time to LAUGH OUT LOUD.

Take time to do the things you love. Thank God it’s Friday. Have a wonderful weekend!

Thursday Morning Grown Up Conversations

Not EVERY Friend is a True Friend.

Not every friend is a true friend. There are friendships of convenience when you are useful to someone, they stay with you. Then there are friendships of fun – you enjoy doing fun things together. But a true friend is hard to find because they are extraordinary – honest, low-maintenance, loyal, respectful, trustworthy, and has your best interest at heart.

People who are true friends look up to each other and they share similar interests. They will never knowingly lead you into making decisions that aren’t good for you. If you walk with wise friends, you will be wise but a person who has bad friends they will be put to shame.

A bad friend has no self-control and doesn’t care about the consequences of telling your secrets to others when the friendship ends. They watch you climbing to the peak of bad choices and tell you that you are doing well. While good friends are a blessing, bad friends are a curse.

Quotes:

“Associate yourself with people of good quality, for it is better to be alone than in bad company.” Booker T. Washington

“In life, we never lose friends, we only learn who the true ones are.”

“Respect yourself enough to walk away from anything that no longer serves you, grows you, or makes you happy.”

  • Proverbs 22:3 “The wise sees danger and take cover, but the simple keep going and suffer the consequences.”
  • Proverbs 3:3-4: “Let love and faithfulness never leave you; bind them around your neck, write them on the tablet of your heart. Then you will win favor and a good name in the sight of God and man.”
  • Proverbs 12:26 “A righteous man is cautious in friendship, but the way of the wicked leads them astray.”
  • Proverbs 17:17 “A friend loveth at all times, and a brother is born for adversity.”
  • Proverbs 27:6 “Wounds from a friend can be trusted, but an enemy multiplies kisses.”
  • 1 Corinthians 15:33  “Do not be deceived: “Bad company ruins good morals.”

Friends who love through all the seasons of life are to be respected. Families who stick together in all kinds of trouble are to be admired. Growing up means realizing a lot of your friends aren’t really your friend but who you were, who you are, and who you will become are three completely different people so be prepared for change.

Sometimes, God makes you uncomfortable to get you to move to the next level. Build relationships with people who believe in your dreams and encourage you to be the best you can be.

Final quote – “The world is full of people who, no matter what you do, no matter what you try, will simply NOT like you. But the world is full of those who WILL love you fiercely. The ones who love you – they are YOUR people. BE WHO YOU ARE. YOU ARE NOT EVERYONE’S CUP OF TEA AND THAT’S OKAY.”

PRAYER TIME: Jesus, you are the One who shows us how to love and to be a trustworthy friend. Bless our friendships and may we never let fear and insecurity keep us from relating to each other. In Jesus Name, Amen

WEDNESDAY MORNING NOVEMBER GROWN UP CONVERSATIONS

Never Act out of Desperation

I have been asked many times why I chose the title ‘Grown Up Conversations.’ My response is usually quite simply – When I became an adult, I put away childish behaviors. Grown Up Conversations was written to highlight and share my approach to life issues namely – When life gives you lemons make something resembling lemonade. A strong woman looks a challenge in the eye and gives it a wink. Edit! Edit! Edit! Be brave enough to heal yourself even when it hurts.

Waiting was one of the toughest and the most dreaded moments of my life before I agreed to do my adulting life. I do not like waiting on planes, people, things, or food. Waiting for me was like taking all the unknown things in my life and putting them all into a teapot on a high flame.

Then God …

We all face moments where our patience wears thin – either with others, with ourselves, or to be honest, with God’s plan. A lack of patience can cause us to react out of desperation thereby missing unforeseen new opportunities. Being patient is a vital part of dependency on God as life sometimes hands us lemons after lemons better known as unpleasant situations.

It’s easy to become anxious about any and everything that disturbs our mind. We unintentionally slip into fear and hopelessness as the situation looks grimmer by the second triggering us to want to react out of despair. Waiting on God to intervene isn’t always easy when from our perspective the stakes look high.

Despite our personal views on God’s timing He never agrees to us responding out of fear. When we look to God for guidance, He coaches us during the waiting period. Our faith develops as we are forced to wait and trust God. We are no longer children throwing tantrums when we can’t get the candy in the candy shop.

Wait on God’s timing. The children of Israel took 40 years to get to the Promised Land walking around and around complaining about everything and everyone on a road trip that some says should have only taken two weeks. God maybe silent, but He is never absent.  

Psalm 37:7 “Rest in the Lord and wait patiently for Him; Do not fret because of him who prospers in his way, because of the man who carries out wicked schemes.”

Fight back fear believing with every fibre in your body that your current situation is not your final destination. This too will pass. It may pass like a kidney stone, but it will pass. With Christ we are never without hope. A strong woman looks a challenge in the eye and gives it a wink. Be brave enough to heal yourself even when it hurts.

PRAYER TIME: Father, thank you that our current situation is not our final destination. We will not act of despair, but we will trust YOUR method. Thank you for hearing our prayer as we wait on You. In Jesus Name, Amen

TUESDAY MORNING GROWN UP CONVERSATIONS

The END of Broken Dreams

When we get to the end of a broken dream what do we do? We may want to fix whatever gotten broken, or hide it, or forget it, or simply not care what happens to it anymore. Regardless of what action we take broken dreams mercilessly pull at every muscle of our achy heart crushing our bones.

The end of a relationship, job or dream can seriously disrupt our life unless we have trust that every experience in life can teach us something about God that we did not know before.

Gentle reminder: It’s a broken dream, not the end of your life. God never panics when we fall victims to broken dreams. He sees it as an opportunity for us to find Him at the end of the journey. God decided way before you were born where every planet and star would be placed. Where the land would be and where the sea could not come. He also decided when night should end and when morning begins.

So, rest in FULL confidence knowing that God will take all the shattered pieces and produce a great masterpiece. It may look like a misfortune but not from God’s viewpoint. God’s ways are always pass our understanding. God’s peace helps us to recover from the horrible pain of shattered plans and goals knowing that He still holds our original blueprint.

We may not be sure what to do, but we know that God knows what to do. We may feel intimidated at times, but God hasn’t left our side. We maybe tripping but God becomes that friend and companion that keeps us from hurting ourselves. We can exercise our faith to believe that at the end of broken dreams God has something better in mind for us.  

The year 2020 has proven to us that we cannot put our trust in our career, in humans, or even our own capabilities. Jeremiah 17:5 says, Thus says the Lord “Cursed is the man who trusts in man and makes flesh his strength, whose heart turns away from the Lord.”

The only thing that has remained constant during this pandemic is that the LORD wakes us up to His mercies which are new every morning. It’s a new day to dream again if you will only trust God.

Jeremiah 17:7-8 “But those who trust in the Lord will be blessed. They know that the Lord will do what he says. They will be strong like trees planted near a stream that send out roots to the water. They have nothing to fear when the days get hot. Their leaves are always green. They never worry, even in a year that has no rain. They always produce fruit.”

PRAYER TIME: Father, we want to thank you for keeping us during this year of COVID 19. We will have nothing to fear even when things do not go as we planned. We will not worry about our tomorrows because we are like trees planted in Your presence where we belong. Thank you for the increase on every side. In Jesus Name, Amen

Monday in NOVEMBER Grown Up Conversations

The Unnamed Chapters of LIFE

Life at times feels like reading one gigantic book of your own life’s story hoping you can get to the last chapter where it says, “And the hand of the LORD was on her life giving her singleness of heart to obey His commandments.” In reality our life is like a never-ending book of many mesmerizing chapters carefully orchestrated by God Himself.

Sadly, many chapters would not have a title until much later as God’s plan unfolds. Don’t stop writing because you come across a few mockers. The LORD is gracious and merciful and will not turn His face away from you. We are all writing our own story everyday and we must finish leaving an intriguing documentary for others to read and to be inspired.

 “Not all storms come to disrupt your life, some come to clear your path.” Many of our chapters in life will get written while facing the eye of the storm but the most intriguing part of a story is when there’s a plot twist. I’ve discovered that storms and plot twist can work in your favor. They give you singleness of heart redirecting your attention to the real meaning of life where God listens to your heart and you get time to connect with Him.

God does speak to us in the storms. As you write He makes it plain giving you hope for a brighter tomorrow. The unnamed chapters in your life reminds you when you were too scared to do something brave, but you trusted God to give you new beginnings. And just like that without God asking anyone permission your life took on a whole new meaning.

God has a unique design for each one of our lives. Copying someone else’s vision is dangerous to your destiny.

David says in Psalms 139:16 “Your eyes saw my unformed substance; in your book were written, every one of them, the days that were formed for me, when as yet there was none of them.”

Don’t become frazzled and disenchanted with chapters that don’t have titles. Keep on writing until it ends with the words – I have fought the good fight, I have finished the race, and I have remained faithful. Get ready to move from a place of uncertainty to a place of complete dependency on God.

The Bible tells us that God has a plan … just ONE plan for your life. You are not here to impress anyone. Be single minded when it comes to honoring God. Regardless of our current situation, He can work through it to prosper us and give us a hope .

Every chapter tells a part of who you were and how you survived. It takes courage to grow up and be who you are so be grateful that you didn’t quit.

PRAYER TIME: Thank you Jesus for giving us the courage to keep going despite what our heart wants us to believe. Thank You for seeing our full potential and giving us a bright future. In Jesus Name, Amen

Yabba Dabba Do!

Yabba Dabba Do! Happy Friday to you! We want to thank God for taking us through another week and bringing us to another weekend.

Life doesn’t come with guarantees but we always have Jesus to walk through those dark valleys.

It’s time to have our medication – LAUGHTER.

Have a fabulous weekend and take time to laugh again!

Thursday Morning in October – Grown up Conversations

You will Laugh Again

“She is clothed with strength and dignity; she can laugh at the days to come. She speaks with wisdom, and faithful instruction is on her tongue. She watches over the affairs of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness. Many women do noble things, but you surpass them all.”

The last time you felt like you just could not go on, but you lived to recover from the nightmare of the episode – that was God undergirding you with His strength. Strength grows when it seems like you are falling apart but the presence of God stands with you and keeps you going.

Faith in God means you are willing to wait it out and trust God’s timing. We usually grow through those things we go through in life which means we are more powerful than we think. Be brave. Be courageous. Do not be afraid and do not be discouraged. The LORD is close to all those who are brokenhearted and protects those who feel defeated in spirit.

Abraham trusted the Lord, and the Lord made it possible for him and Sarah to have their promised child. We will believe whatever God has promised us until we die. We must be like people who see things far away. We must trust God to bring all our future plans into alignment with His will for our lives.

Quote: “You can’t calm the storm, so stop trying. What you can do is to calm yourself. The storm will pass.”

One thing is unchangeable in the journey – God promises that He will clothe us with strength and dignity, and we will laugh at the days to come.

The lyrics to ‘He’s Been Faithful’ has been such a huge encouragement in my life. I trust you will be inspired.

In my own suffering through every pain every tear there’s a God who’s been faithful to me. When my strength was all gone, when my heart had no song – still in love He’s proved faithful to me. Every word He’s promised is true – what I thought was impossible I’ve seen my God do

He’s been faithful, faithful to me. Looking back, He’s love and mercy I see. Though in my heart I have questioned and failed to believe – He’s been faithful, faithful to me

When my heart looked away – the many times I could not pray, still my God was faithful to me. The days are spent so selfishly – reaching out for what pleased me even then God was faithful to me

Every time I come back to Him – He is waiting for open arms and I see once again

He’s been faithful, faithful to me. Looking back, He’s love and mercy I see though in my heart I have questioned even failed to believe – yet He’s been faithful, faithful to me.”

PRAYER TIME: Father, thank You for clothing your children in strength and dignity. We will laugh at the days to come. Looking back, we have proven Your love and mercy and Your faithfulness. Thank you that we are not quitting or looking to other strange gods. We will trust Your timing. In Jesus Name, Amen

Wednesday Morning in October – Grown Up Conversations

Words vs Actions

A person’s actions will tell you everything you need to know about them. When Jesus told his disciples after his Last Supper with them, “If you love me, keep my commandments” – He was asking them to demonstrate their loyalty to him by doing what he told them to do, which included keeping His commandments.

I think it was and still is extremely easy for Jesus to know who is loyal to Him by their actions.

There’s a clear message in the way someone treats you versus what they say to you. You just need to pay attention. I hope we can all see despite what our hearts want us to feel. A person can still love you and think about you all the time but if they are not doing anything about it or even going out of their way to show you – then it’s only words.

John 3:16 says, “For God loved the world in this way: He gave his one and only Son, so that everyone who believes in him will not perish but have eternal life.”

God proved His love by offering up His only Son so no one will go to Hell. God’s action reveals, beyond a doubt, that He loves us. He asked us to prove our love by our actions. The all-wise God in all His wisdom still give every man a free-will to make their own choices and to choose their own destiny.

Quote: “Don’t fall in love with someone who says the right things. Fall in love with someone who does the right things.”

Sadly, actions DO speak louder than words, BUT words sometimes get more attention. Don’t fall for words – fall for actions. A person’s actions will tell you everything you need to know about them.

Quote: “Words may lie. but actions always speak the truth.

Matthew 7:20 “So then, by their fruit you will recognize them.” Just as you can identify a tree by its fruit, so you can identify people by their actions.

  1. You may say, “I’m not able.” God says, “My Grace is sufficient.”
  2. You may say, “I’m always flustered and overthinking.” God says, “Cast your cares on me.”
  3. You may say, “I feel lonely.” God says. “I will never leave you or forsake you.”
  4. You may say, “I just can’t see how things will work out.” God says, “I will direct your path.”
  5. You may say, “It’s just isn’t worth it.” God says, “It will be worth it.”

Quotes from The Love bites:

  • “I love you to the point that words aren’t enough.”
  • “I didn’t choose you, my heart did.”

That’s LOVE in action.

Finally, never lose your integrity or lower your self-esteem to keep anyone happy. You become like the five people you spend the most time with. Choose carefully. PRAYER TIME: Heavenly Father, I don’t understand how everything is going to work out, but I trust Your will for my life. I don’t know the way, but I have full confidence that You will show me the right path to walk in.  Let me not love in words but with actions and in truth.  In Jesus