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It’s the final day on QUOTES.
Today’s quote is, “Be Brave enough to heal yourself even when it hurts.” Bianca Sparacino
If I told you that the strength you see in me came from the school of hard knocks you may find it hard to believe. Why? Because all you see now is the work in progress and not the ashes.
Still there are zillion flashes of fear and anxiety when I feel unsure about myself. I second guess myself all the time when I have to perform in public. But despite the unnecessary chatter in my head I manage to push past my negative thoughts.
William Shakespeare says it best – “All the world’s a stage, and all the men and women merely players: they have their exits and their entrances; and one man in his time plays many parts, his acts being seven ages.”
As humans, we are given ONE opportunity (birth) to make an appearance with no knowledge of when we will be pulled off the stage (death).So, be brave enough to be your own cheerleader. A happy life is better than a successful life.
Don’t be afraid of new beginnings. If you dream it – you can achieve it. Go ahead – check your last accomplishment off your bucket list and be proud that you showed up even though you were running scared.
The only way things get betteris when you get better. Walk your talk even if you feel wobbly. One day all the people who never believe in you will tell others how they met you.
You either choose to face the crowd with a little reservation or live with regret for the rest of your life. Do it for you!
It’s been years of repeat stories and cycles of pain – exchange them for your superpower. Be resilient to accept the fact that you are braver than you believe.
Guard your thoughts when you are alone. Become less concerned with looking for approval. You are a fighter. Don’t give up. Grown ups do what needs to be done and then they take a break.
Philippians 4:8 teaches us how to be brave to heal ourselves – “Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.
If I can help one person to believe in themselves at any age then my living will not be in vain.
Today’s quote – “Your life is your story – Edit well. Edit often.” Susan Statham
This quote has always been my go-to when I need to reset my life after life throws me a curve ball. A curve ball is when something unexpected happens to you leaving you disappointed. No one can avoid curve balls but whether we walk, run, or crawl through the rest of the day/week/month/ year we must keep going.
The best time to edit your story is after being hit by a curve ball. Take your time to edit well. We are the writers of our own life stories and as such, we must decide what happens next to the main character.
Who is the main character? You! Me! You are either writing your own story or someone is writing your story. If you are wise make sure that you are the author.
Do not agree to allow anyone to either write or tell your story. When you are a grown up you get fed up hearing people’s version of your story.
Inaccuracies are bound to happen. People can only write and tell your old stories so you must edit without makingapologies. You don’t live there any longer.
Be wise! Write about your new beginnings seeing yourself where you want to be five years from today. Get creative get creative with the editing of personal bits and pieces of your life that doesn’t fit any longer.
You get to decide what stays and what goes. Be yourself you are the main character. Make today’s chapter so awesome that your readers would be intrigued.
Once you accept your flaws, no one can use them against you. We edit pictures to crop and touch up our photos. Our life’s story should be edited because we’re worth it.
The pen is only powerful as the person holding it. Since we are not perfect, our goal is to make the current chapter better than the last one.
We will edit as often as we need to until the writing on the wall is clear. It’s your story so feel free to create a plot twist at any moment. Let your younger self thank you for who you have become.
Jeremiah 29:11 says, “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.”
Proverbs 27:1 says, “Do not boast about tomorrow, for you do not know what a day may bring.” Keep God in the story and you will live a long and happy life.
HELLO!!! You own the exclusive rights to your story. THE END.
Day 2 – Today’s quote is, “A strong woman looks a challenge in the eye and gives it a wink.” Gina Carey
We have two choices when faced with something terrifying – we either run away and hide or we face it and fight. By fight I mean – DO NOT ENGAGE IN CONFLICT. “It’s dog-eat-dog out there! The world doesn’t fight fair. But we don’t live or fight our battles that way—never have and never will.”
We commit all our battles to God from our knees and listen closely as He reveals strategies.
A wink is not how we would usually face challenges instead we go kicking and screaming until it dawns on us that no one is coming to our aid, so we go from survival mode to realizing that God must be up to something. God is always in control even when you think your world is out of control.
Someone said, “Even the darkest night will end, and the sun will rise.” People with that mentality are ready for grownup conversations
It’s a wonderful feeling to know that you almost fell apart, but you survived the uncertainty. We are the product of our choices be them good or bad. Anyone can give up because it is the easiest thing to do but faith always unlocks new doors.
“Faith in God includes faith in His timing.”
God uses our disappointments to teach us to trust Him. God always had a ram caught in the bush when He asked Abraham to offer up his promised child. It was Abraham’s obedience to God that made an angel stop him from slaying his son and replacing Isaac with a ram. “Long before Zacchaeus couldn’t see Jesus the tree was already planted to meet his needs.”
When you are faithful to God no matter what life throws at you – God gives you the grace to embrace the new normal. Your obedience to God launches you into new beginnings and you will never have to defend your decision of living for God.
Being a Christian doesn’t mean you will never fall apart – it just means that your confidence in God will catch you if and when you do. Setbacks become opportunities.
Go ahead and watch that challenge dead in the eye and give it a wink. God is with you. He is for you. You will not fail.
Joshua 1:9 – “Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be frightened, and do not be dismayed, for the Lord your God is with you wherever you go.”
2 Corinthians 4:8-11 “We are pressed on every side by troubles, but we are not crushed. We are perplexed, but not driven to despair. We are hunted down, but never abandoned by God. We get knocked down, but we are not destroyed.”
This week I will be exploring FOUR quotes I use in my book Grown Up Conversations, in my blogs, or generally when I am speaking.
Today’s Quote is, “There’s no lemon so sour that you cannot make something resembling lemonade.”
This quote has been the basis of my book Grown Up Conversations. When we were children we chatted as children, trained to handle differences as a child, and communicated as children.
However, as grown-ups life oftentimes brings us face to face with very complicated and uncomfortable situations which we are never fully prepared to handle.
These events in life leave an aftertaste as sour as lemons long after the experience is gone. Since we are no longer children, we must become creative in managing adversity or misfortune (lemons) remembering that lemons only come in seasons, but they have purpose.
Misfortunes, regrets, and unpleasant encounters can qualify us to become heroes of faith (the confidence of what we hope for without the evidence of seeing it).
There are no limitations to what we can do with a handful of lemons.
We were born resilient so if there are no difficulties, we will not be tough. The beautiful things is, once you walk through the pain make certain that you’re not going back to the pain.
Unfortunately, many adults get stuck holding their lemons as a showpiece.
Terrible things will happen – it’s simply a fact of life that we all must accept with grace. You don’t have to hide and pretend that the experience wasn’t terrible but think about the lessons that you can learn from it.
Don’t try to distract yourself by running into a romantic relationship or gulping glasses of wine to escape the painful setback.
Sure, something badhas happened to you, but if you really look, you will find something positive that you can focus on. We are now grown-ups and before long we will be fading into the sunset so allow God to exchange pain for respect.
Even if you don’t see or feel the difference – if God is involved – you will be compensated. Find your passions, explore your hobbies, connect with others, and get involved helping the weaker ones.
Grown-ups believe without seeing the light at the end of the tunnel by shifting the focus from holding the lemons as a trophy of pain to birthing something phenomenal.
Remember if you play victim – you will stay wounded.
When life gives you lemons sweeten it with gratitude. Become a sweeter, kinder human. Faith in God is taking the first step long before you see the glass jug filled with lemonade. One day you will tell the story of how you overcame.
Ecclesiastes 3:3 “To every thing there is a SEASON, and a TIME to every PURPOSE under the heaven.” Lemons have their SEASON. TIME waits on no one to get their act together. PURPOSE is making your past jealous of how well you are doing today.
Today is my final day on our prayer conversations with God. I trust it helped someone as much as it encouraged me when I was putting all my thoughts together.
God invites us to come away from the busyness of our lives and connect with Him through prayer. The first few times it may feel uncomfortable like when you meet someone for the first time but the more you chat is the closer you get – and before long you are now best friends.
The first prayer maybe just a few words but reading the scriptures back to God make the conversation enjoyable. The goal is, to use your own words to communicate with God.
When you pray, go into your room, close the door, and pray to your Heavenly Father. Then your Father, who sees what is done in secret, will reward you OPENLY.
Psalm 46 says, “God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble.” The truth is, those who follow God and those who do not – all have challenges in this life. But those who have their daily conversations with Him gain the strength to cope with the issues of life.
Those 2am thoughts – God knew about them long before they began to disturb your peace and He is waiting to have a conversation with you about them.
Ephesians 6:9 says, “for each one should carry their own load.” Yes, my dear friends, we all have our own cross to carry. Yours is not heavier than mines, and mines is not lighter than yours. God has authorized the weight limitations. Some through great sorrow, but God gives us a song in the night season and all day long.
Pray Time today is Psalms 46:
God is our refuge and strength, a help always near in times of great trouble. That’s why we won’t be afraid when the world falls apart, when the mountains crumble into the center of the sea, when its waters roar and rage, when the mountains shake because of its surging waves.
There is a river whose streams gladden God’s city, the holiest dwelling of the Most High. God is in that city. It will never crumble. God will help it when morning dawns.
Nations roar; kingdoms crumble. God utters his voice, the earth melts. The Lord of heavenly forces is with us! The God of Jacob is our place of safety.
Come, see the Lord’s deeds, what devastation he has imposed on the earth—bringing wars to an end in every corner of the world, breaking the bow and shattering the spear, burning chariots with fire.
“That’s enough! Now know that I am God! I am exalted among all nations; I am exalted throughout the world!” The Lord of heavenly forces is with us!
The God of Jacob is our place of safety.
REMINDER: Go ahead and use your own words to talk to God. He enjoys hearing your voice.
Our lives are so busy, and our days are constantly filled with a list of things to do. It never seems to end. The demands are greater than the allocated hours. Let’s admit it – everyday feels like we are trying to steady ourselves while riding a roller coaster many times dodging curve balls from the opposing sides.
Be honest – the struggle is real for everyone including the Pope, the powerful leaders of the countries, and we the everyday citizens. When your life has sudden changes and people come into your life with their hidden personal agendas it becomes a showstopper with the scent of fear consuming your every thought.
Psalms 90:12 says, “So teach us to number our days, that we may apply our hearts unto wisdom.” This application is done on your kneesseeking God’s face in prayer.
Prayer is important. It keeps you in touch with the unexpected interruptions of life without crumbling beneath the weight of disappointment. When you kneel before God you can stand up nice and tall before anyone. Prayer interrupts the worried mind.
In the midst of the hectic schedules and demands of your days apply your heart to wisdom. Here’s a quote to reflect on – “Today is the oldest you’ve ever been, and the youngest you’ll ever be again.” Think about that for a while and see if the frivolities of life don’t bring about a reality check.
The day we die we will be naked, and empty handed as the day we enter the world. House, land, friends, status, and people’s opinions will no longer matter. So, apply your heart to obtaining wisdom. Don’t lose sleep over the things that would not make a difference when we die.
Time spent before God is never wasted. You don’t need to be right, better than someone, loved, rich, or famous – we all just need JESUS. Take fifteen minutes to read your Bible and pray before you head out into the jungle of life. Time does not heal all wounds – God does.
Someone said, “If you don’t have time to pray and read the scriptures, you are busier than GOD ever intended you to be.
If your prayers are for selfish reasons God will not answer them. Selfish prayers focus on what you want and not what is God’s will. If you are excusing sin in your life, or someone else’s, and you are not correcting them – God will not answer your prayers. Open rebellion disregards God’s Word.
Psalms 90:12: “So teach us to number our days, that we may apply our hearts unto wisdom.”
Example of a personalized Prayer using the scripture above: Lord, teach us how to become more conscious that our life on earth has an expiry date attached to it. Let us become wiser in the choices and decisions we make. May we never excuse sin in our life or in those we care so much about. Thank you for every birthday past and those to come. Let us honor You in all our daily activities and keep You at the center of our life. In Jesus Name, Amen.
When we pray using God’s own words, we make a statement that we approve the scripture. Our prayers should always be in full agreement to WHATEVER God finally allows to happen. Jesus Himself prayed in the Garden of Gethsemane – “Father, if thou be willing, remove this cup from me: nevertheless, not my will, but thine, be done.”
You always have God’s full attention when He knows you will be simply fine with His method of handling the matter at hand. Isaiah 55:9 says, “For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways,” declares the Lord. As the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways and my thoughts than your thoughts.”
There are times when we need others to support us when the needs become too heavy to carry. Relationships matter – don’t just ask others to pray for you and that’s the only time they hear from you. Totally unacceptable. Agreement comes naturally with relationships. Just think of all the things life throws at us – death, loss, illness, worry, financial difficulties, grief, and marital problems – we all need someone to lean on. Relationship is important to God and to humans.
On the other hand – Praying alone is a bonus as we get to spend time alone with God. Tears flow as our hearts become tender in the Presence of God. In John 15:15, Jesus says He no longer calls us His servants, but calls us His friends. The best friendship is with God. He doesn’t disclose our secrets, or our feelings. Alone with God is a safe place to be locked into deep conversations.
Our prayers do not change God’s mind. God changes our minds to bring about the best for us. You go before God with one thing on your mind and you walk away with confidence knowing whatever it may be – it is well with me. Prayer changes our perspective on things and our hearts are quieted before God.
Our prayer times can feel boring if we’re praying the same things over and over again. So, open the Bible – there are always new scriptures to bring before God. Pray until something changes in you and about you.
1 Thessalonians 5:17 simply says, “Pray without ceasing.” This is the complete verse in the Bible.
To pray without ceasing does not mean you’ve got to pray 24/7 and feel guilty for every second you’re not praying. It is a lifestyle – in other words don’t just get up in the morning and pray for ten or twenty minutes and then don’t pray again until the next day. It is a lifestyle.
Example of a personalized Prayer using the scripture above: God, you said in your Word to pray without stopping. Give me the ability to make my prayer time a lifestyle where I can communicate with You all day long. Comfort me so I can comfort others. Make me better than yesterday so I can help others. Make me patient so I can be patient with others. Let me follow what is good so good could follow me. In Jesus Name I pray, Amen.
This week I want to look at how cool it is to PRAY.
First, God doesn’t need our prayers. He is God all by Himself, but He invites us to come confidently to have a heart to heart talk with Him. It’s the same way you may have a heart to heart talk with your spouse or a best friend or if you call a family meeting.
There is difference between reciting a prayer and talking with God. Can you imagine how awkward it will be to pick up someone else’s letter and read it to your spouse when you are having an intimate moment? Reading someone’s letter is not normal when having an intimate moment. Therefore, reciting a prayer is not praying – it is reading.
Prayer time is when you speak to God from your heart. God wants you to use your own words or you can read the scriptures back to God if you are lost for words. He is glad to hear you remind Him of His promises.
Frequent chat times with God make it easier to having honest dialogues. Honest dialogues build lasting friendships. Perfect love leaves no room for fear. We pray because we believe in the power of prayer.
No matter what others think or say – You PRAY. The Book of Psalms is a great book to pray from as the Psalmist David spoke often from a place of inadequacy and dependence on God. Just one Psalm a day catches God’s attention. He is a heart specialist skilled in finding and treating all problems that overwhelms your heart.
Prayer is powerful. Pray the scriptures back to God. Go ahead and insert your name, or a family member, or a friend’s name to make the prayer more personal. God is always listening – keep on praying.
Psalms 37:5-8 says, “Commit your way to the Lord, trust also in Him, and He shall bring it to pass. He shall bring forth your righteousness as the light, and your justice as the noonday. Rest in the Lord and wait patiently for Him; do not fret because of him who prospers in his way, because of the man who brings wicked schemes to pass. Cease from anger and forsake wrath; do not fret—it only causes harm.”
Example of a personalized prayer using the scripture above: Father, today I commit my way of life to You. I trust Your plans for my life. You will make Your goodness to shine bright on me. The evidence of Your amazing love will sparkle on my life like the noonday sun. I will be quiet before You. I will wait patiently for You. I will not fret when people succeed in their ways, or when evil people carry out their wicked plans. I will not become disheartened while I wait on You. You my God will bring everything to come to pass in the fullness of Your set time. In Jesus Name, Amen.