Don’t take the Bait

There are fights you will win and fights you will lose, but every fight doesn’t need an active participant. One great benefit to having a personal relationship with God — He coaches you in a fight. Sometimes the LORD says, “Do NOT GO to war for I am NOT among you, lest you be defeated before your enemies.” And there are times when He says, “Go in and take possession.”

Many times, in the heat of the moment we’re eager to put up a fight for justice. We climb the Mountain of Resentment before even talking it over with God. It’s okay to discuss our fights with God. He coaches us and we know nothing hinders the plans of God — and we sleep better at nights.

Only a person who has limited knowledge of who God is thinks they can hide things from God including their thoughts. The Bible says that God knows our thoughts even before they wander into our mind. It should be less intimidating to talk to God — He knows it all anyway. The LORD searches our hearts and understands all the imaginations of our minds even when we are in a fight mode.

If we bring all our secret thoughts to God, He will coach us revealing the deep hidden secrets of the issues at hand. But if we choose NOT to seek counsel and go to war without God’s input… the enemies who come out against us will chase us as bees do and drive us back. Then we will return and weep before the LORD, but the LORD would not listen to our voice. Deuteronomy 1:42-45

Many times, in the pain we rush ahead and take matters in our own hands. Every fight does not need an active participant. The enemies we see today we will see them no more IF we allow God to coach us. He will show us new strategies and in stillness and in confidence will be our strength.

We can pray the WORD of the LORD in the hour of need. The world says, ‘Count to ten’ … I say, ‘We will always be at our best when we pray the WORD.’

Psalms 139:1-12, 17-18, 23-24 (NCV)

“Lord, you have examined me and know all about me. You know when I sit down and when I get up. You know my thoughts before I think them. You know where I go and where I lie down. You know everything I do.

Lord, even before I say a word, you already know it. You are all around me—in front and in back—and have put your hand on me. Your knowledge is amazing to me; it is more than I can understand.

Where can I go to get away from your Spirit? Where can I run from you? If I go up to the heavens, you are there. If I lie down in the grave, you are there. If I rise with the sun in the east and settle in the west beyond the sea, even there you would guide me.
With your right hand you would hold me. I could say, “The darkness will hide me. Let the light around me turn into night.” But even the darkness is not dark to you. The night is as light as the day; darkness and light are the same to you.

God, your thoughts are precious to me. They are so many! If I could count them, they would be more than all the grains of sand. When I wake up, I am still with you.

God, examine me and know my heart; test me and know my anxious thoughts. See if there is any bad thing in me. Lead me on the road to everlasting life.”

Do the right thing even when no one is listening or looking.


Running from Misery

The dictionary meaning of Misery is — a state or feeling of great physical or mental distress or discomfort. While doing an internet search on one of the common causes of Misery I came across this – ‘There are many causes of human misery that are mostly beyond our control, but there’s one common cause that is almost always totally SELF-IMPOSED — That is, TRYING TO BE LIKED BY EVERYONE.’

No matter what we say or do everyone likes to feel loved. Honestly, we can try hard to do what’s honorable to stay in people’s good books but as most of us would have experienced —- it’s no easy task to accomplish. There will always be people who just don’t like you. And if you find a few who like you — don’t hold your breath for long that can turn quickly by just accidentally dropping your hat on their chair.

In days when I experience the atmosphere changing in my personal space — God sometimes sounds like someone sitting in the backseat of my car. He may say to me while I am driving, “Hey, you missed the exit again (Peace)! Why are you breaking the speed limit in your thinking (Overthinking)? Have I not told you before that I know the plans I have for you? How did you miss the exit AGAIN (PEACE and SERENITY)?”

Then as shy and embarrassed as I can be when I know that I have broken the speed limit in my thinking #Overthinking … I quickly pull off the road and have a self-searching moment. I thank God that He never gives up on us no matter how bad our sense of direction may be. He stays on the journey until we slow down our speeding thoughts and find our way back to our solitary place with Him.

How did we get into misery? By our thought pattern. How would we get out of misery? By letting our thinking line up with God’s thinking. When God says to us that we have missed an exit #PEACE #SERENITY … it’s wise to stop and make a U-turn.

Here’s a story I found on Humans of New York. There are some great stories posted on humansofny everyday … they share beautiful stories of people on the streets of New York.

humansofny: “He’d taken charge of so much during our relationship. He was twelve years older than me, so he made all the decisions: where to go, what to eat, what we were going to buy. He didn’t even like me working. So when he died my life was a mess — literally. I wasn’t quite a hoarder, but close. There was laundry everywhere. The couch was covered with worn shirts. You couldn’t even find a spoon on the table. I couldn’t stand it, so I left it all behind. I traveled for two years, living off the life insurance, running from misery.

But I kept losing my passport. Over and over again. It infuriated me. And that’s how I finally became orderly. By getting so angry that I couldn’t take it anymore. I began with my luggage. I organized everything. I made a place for my papers and keys. Oh, it felt good. I loved it. I could finally relax, To be organized is to be at rest. You should see my home now! It’s immaculate.

Everything has a place. All the clothes are put away. I actually use a catalog to fold them so they’re all the same size. I love every detail. Organizing has become my art. It’s how I express myself.

In February I’m going to the butler academy, It’s a lottery ticket. It’s my dream job. I want to live in a beautiful house, together with a family, and take care of them. I want to take away all the chaos in their life. To order things. To arrange things. To be the one who always has the passports.” (Amsterdam, The Netherlands)

Here are my thoughts:

You must know your purpose for being alive … your purpose will keep you ALIVE. You cannot live without PURPOSE.

Most people don’t like who they are … so not everybody is going to like you. Admit when you are wrong and don’t set yourself on fire to keep others warm.

Keep God as your closest companion and He will always let you know when you break the speed limit on your thinking. He keeps you in perfect peace when your thinking is right.

Don’t put all your eggs in someone else’s basket — if they trip/stumble/fall — your eggs will get broken.

Since Jesus went through everything we are going through and more, let’s learn to think like Him. He spent His alone time drawing strength from His Father.

Of course other people may not understand but you don’t have to give an account to them.

1 Peter 4:7-11 says, “Everything in the world is about to be wrapped up, so take nothing for granted. Stay wide-awake in prayer. Most of all, love each other as if your life depended on it. Love makes up for practically anything.”

The Whys to MY Writing Styles

As a daughter, sister, wife, mother, mother-in-law, grandmother, friend … I value all my experiences in life. Every joy, mistake, season, lesson, pain, heartbreak were heavy doors leading me into rooms where the person I am today was sitting waiting for my arrival. My experiences have taught me that when I walk through a storm it’s important to hold my head up high even though I may be afraid of the dark.

I must keep HOPE ALIVE because like everything else — there’s a story to be told. If I pass or fail a lesson in the School of Hard Knocks … you will read about it the next day because I know someone will be helped by my experience.

If you have been reading my chapters from Day 1 you will know by now that my writing subjects have been on family life, inspirational messages and resetting our thought patterns. When you have discovered your gift, you will feel a sense of freedom to share it. It’s the kind of gift that keeps on giving because our misfortune, pain, fear, near death experience, or our weaknesses were not intended to be written in SECRET pocket diaries.

Jesus told Simon – “Simon, stay on your toes. Satan has tried his best to separate all of you from me, like chaff from wheat. Simon, I’ve prayed for you in particular that you not give in or give out. When you have come through the time of testing, turn to your companions and give them a fresh start.” Luke 22: 31-32 MSG

Our encounters in life were designed to strengthen us and to give others HOPE … NEVER to give in or give up. EVERY thing we experience in life has PURPOSE, and that purpose is seen in how well we use it for the good of others. There’s no room for jealousy of anyone else’s gifts or for pride to enter anyone’s heart by how well they wear their gifts. IT IS A GIFT! No one earned it or bought it with a price.

The first time I discovered my gift was just four years ago and since then it remains the greatest moment in my life. I appreciated the benefits of growing up with a Mother whose faith in God kept her children safe and protected us from the negative impact of an absent yet present father (too complicated to write about if I’m trying to keep it short). My Mom was my first teacher in the School of Hard Knocks as I studied at her feet watching her maneuver her way through life with total dependence on God. I write about her and her faith both of which are responsible for my faith in God.

I write about my candid moments as a Mom. Life’s lessons on marriage. Leaving a Godly legacy for the next generations. Friendships/relationships (quality vs quantity) – all of which are great opportunities for learning. Putting my world together they have provided me with a lot of writing material. I’m never stuck for writing or reading materials.

If you understand your REASONS for your seasons in life you will never get lost in one season. Don’t plan to follow the crowd … its way overcrowded. We are NOT heading to the Food Market. Life is single lane with strict laws to protect others from crashing into you and you running people over.

Life is limited to one visit on earth per person … don’t be a clone … everyone is writing a different story based on the gift that was placed within them . If your story is identical to your BFF then one person is missing their assignment.

I trust I have cleared up on why I focus my writing on material that relates to family life, inspirational words and resetting YOUR THOUGHT patterns. ALWAYS KEEPING IT POSITIVE IS MY GOAL. The right word at the right time is like a custom-made piece of jewelry. Nothing to add or nothing to take away.

When enough is ENOUGH (Edited)


Welcome to a day in my life — Did you ever wake up and go “No, this just didn’t happen” … and roll over and go back to sleep because the reality was too scary? Well to all my email subscribers — last Sunday morning was that day. Unfortunately, while still editing my blog for Monday … it erroneously was sent. Well, sometimes LIFE Happens! So here’s the edited version.

When Enough is ENOUGH (Edited)

There’s no greater blessing than for children to have godly parents, and there’s no greater joy than for parents to have godly children. We all want the best for our children, but we know that once they step into adulthood you cannot tell them how to live. We also know that we cannot make decisions for them.

Sometimes in my anxiety to see my children walking with God I become overzealous and I want to assist God. I’m still a HUGE work in this category but it’s a beautiful feeling to know that I’m not where I used to be. Now, when I can’t stand, I kneel. When I can’t sleep, I kneel. When I can’t eat, I kneel. When I can’t laugh, I kneel. When the fight gets fiercer, I kneel. It’s more peaceful than worrying and lecturing them night and day.

I am happy that I had a praying Mother who held me up in her prayers while I was navigating my way through life… but there came that time in my life when I had to decide for myself by myself that enough was enough. I would hear my Mom pray for all her children and I knew within my heart that my Mother’s happiness depended a lot on my choices.

We read in Numbers 23 that God’s anger was aroused and He swore an oath that none of the men who came up from Egypt twenty years and older will enter the land He promised to Abraham, Isaac, and Jacob, because they did not wholeheartedly follow His commands. You may ask — ‘EVERYONE over twenty years lost their rich inheritance EXCEPT for TWO men Caleb and Joshua?’ Caleb and Joshua were the only adults in that generation to make it to the Promised Land.

It must have been a tragedy to see people lost in the wasteland for 40 years just going around and around in circles. A journey that should have just taken days. So many people miss their best years by just making one foolish decision that keeps them living every year for 40 years doing the same thing and getting the same result. Now that’s what we call a tragedy.

Sometimes our choices create anxiety for our loving family and worse yet put us at risk where we lose our rich inheritance and we die in the wasteland. Even when we love someone and accept them for who they are, there must be boundaries. Could this be a reason why there’s a Heaven and a Hell in spite of a loving Heavenly Father?

To whom much is given, much is required meaning that we will be held responsible for what we have and what we know. To everyone who knows to do good and does not do it — it is a sin. Rebellion is as the sin of WITCHCRAFT and stubbornness is as INIQUITY and IDOLATRY. When we REJECT GOD, our prayers fall on deaf ears.

When we know better, we must do better. In our hearts we know God, but if we hide that knowledge and exchange the truth of God for lies and served the creature (the frivolous things of life) rather than the Creator, God will give us up to the desire of our hearts.


Well look who eventually came after waiting forever … FRIDAY!

Yesterday is gone and Friday is here. Let’s be thankful that we made it through every day this week in spite of the many high and low moments.

Friday is always a good day to smile. Let’s do this!

Wishing everyone the happiest weekend ever. Live! Laugh! Love!

Without YOU, there’s NO me. Thanks for sharing your time with me.

See you on Monday.

Fear is NOT an Option

Fear doesn’t need a formal invitation to participate in any of our mental or social discussions. All it takes to become unstable is to feel threatened by bad news, or hear a rumor, or to be faced with a major difficulty in your life for fear to show up.

Fear is merciless if we allow our minds to wander off into dark areas of the unknown only to be trapped and held hostage by our own thoughts. Whatever we saw, heard, or even imagine suddenly becomes our new reality.

When we stumble into the darkness … we believe that the Lord is powerless and the worst is about to happen. The truth is NOTHING, NADA, ZILCH is too big or too small for God to disrupt the plans of the enemy. The Lord is never intimidated with size of a matter bought before Him, or the length of time it’s been pending.

What looks like a major calamity in our lives … is like a speck of dust on the carpet from God’s bird eye view. Now, only if we could believe this … fear will not torment us.

With a spoken word God told the Moon where to hide till evening. He told the Ocean it can only come this far to land. Even the hairs on our head are ALL numbered.

It takes seconds for us to feel overwhelmed by the sniff of bad news … and that certainly works in Satan’s favor. In haste we scramble to avoid a catastrophe from happening believing we can control the outcome. The devil knows when we are afraid and he is relentless and hostile towards us.

Let’s remember … Fear is NOT an option when you know in whom you have entrusted your whole life to … and you’re fully persuaded that God is able to keep everything He has promised.

Know this …. Morning breaks after the darkest night. EVERYTHING HAS AN EXPIRY DATE. No shuffling around, no more going back and forth in our FAITH. No more stumbling into dark places. Faith is believing what God says and believing that He has meticulously orchestrated our COMEBACK in every situation.

Jesus said, ‘In this world you will CONTINUE to experience difficulties. BUT TAKE HEART! I’ve CONQUERED THE WORLD.’

By God’s grace we will get through today, tomorrow and the years ahead with a GREATER COMEBACK. When God says YES, nobody can say NO. God arms us with strength for every battle.

Don’t become Numb

People need people, and if we are ever forced to choose between friends and family … family is more important. Marriage was God’s idea. God said that a man should leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and they will become one. The fifth commandment says that children should honor their parents by treating them with respect and obedience…and there’s a bonus…it comes with a promise – That it may go well with them ALL the days they live.

When God created humans, He intended us to live in families and He went further by saying, “He sets the lonely in families” Psalms 66:8

Family is important because it provides love, support, and values. Family has a great influence on our choices and decisions. We feel safe when we are together.

A month ago my husband picked me up from the airport and we left to have something to eat. As we were about to enter the restaurant, I observed a young woman approximately in her late twenties standing outside with bags of her personal belongings looking disheveled and pretending to be speaking to someone on the phone. As I did a quick glance, I realized that she was not on a phone even though she was speaking loudly. My heart broke into a zillion pieces as a mother of four daughters myself. So many thoughts went through my head and my heart ached with so many unanswered questions.

I whispered to my husband asking him for the largest dollar bill he had on him. I took a little relief walking towards her and handing her my token of love. She acknowledged my gesture without making eye contact and mumbled a ‘thank you’. As I am writing this…my heart still hurts. I may never know her story whether her challenges came out of her own rebellion or if she is a member of dysfunctional family, or if her pain and sadness came out of rejection and abuse…but one thing hits home to me…the importance of having a family where each one is held accountable for the other.

In my tired frame of mind just coming off a nineteen hours flight…I wish I had the tools to help her there and then. The struggles in life can be overwhelming for healthy people and more so for our highly vulnerable family members who don’t have the necessary coping skills. It takes a lot of hard work and zillions of prayers and tears to keep the family together…but anything less…will make us become numb … and becoming numb will create an epidemic in our society.

As a Mom, I fully understand that sometimes our children can make crazy choices as they move further and further away from our values and their upbringing … but our prayers will continue to follow them around the world and back again. God’s mercies and grace will faithfully cover them in ways pass their own understanding. NO cry goes unheard by our loving Father. I think we underestimate the power of prayers when we find ourselves at the intersection of what looks like the Red Sea. If God did it before…wouldn’t He do it AGAIN. The second time is always more dramatic than the first time.

Keep hope alive. We are NOT leaving anyone behind for the devil to laugh or mock us. Fight for your family. It’s a fight worth fighting. There’s a MIGHTY WAVE between us and those that are against us. The Red Sea is designed in such a way for our loved ones to pass through safely and to drown our adversaries.

Like any other relationship, family takes a lot of work to keep it up and running. LOVE COVERS an intractable amount of sins. Be kind to each other, forgiving each other as God has forgiven us. How many times? Seventy times seven = BOUNDLESS. It’s irresponsible parenting if we are NOT prayer warriors for our children.

Father God, I pray for hurting parents, children, and family members. I pray that you will heal, restore and rebuild our homes. Forgive us where we fell short and made mistakes along the way. You are our Kinsman Redeemer restoring the Godly RIGHTS of our family and going after the ONE LOST SHEEP. Lord, let none be lost and may we hold ourselves accountable for the members of our family. In Jesus Name, Amen