Silence the Voice of Regret

Maya Angelo said, “Do the best you can until you know better. Then when you know better, do better.” No one person has it all together. We are all a huge work in progress.

However, in order to do better we must first forgive ourselves for things that went wrong. Close that chapter. Step up to the next assignment. It’s unfair to start a new day with broken pieces of our yesterday.

Woulda, Coulda, Shoulda are three of our greatest enemies. Maybe we always taught that people were our enemies but Woulda, Coulda, and Shoulda are the ones that taunt us and make a mockery of us. Their voices sound like groans and not one day goes by and the regrets don’t play back in the mind.

Having ongoing dialogues with these three mental enemies prove to be the most unproductive times in our lives. But escaping them takes on a battle of its own. No one escapes Woulda, Coulda and Shoulda’s  presence without being punched over and over making victims of innocent lives.

Questions, Questions, and Questions all remain unanswered – ‘Why did I go?’ ‘Why didn’t I stand up for myself?’ ‘What if I didn’t leave?’ comes foremost to one’s mind.

Indeed, we are a work in progress, and we pray that God will just hurry up and finish the work so we all can get along and live happily ever after.

To survive the full-blown battle with Woulda, Coulda, and Shoulda, you must forgive yourself for every failure while you were only trying to do the right thing.

Next time you want to kick yourself for those blunders while your three enemies come pounding on your door, give yourself a huge hug and remind yourself that you did the best you could have but now you know better.

Whatever happened – it’s already in the past and no amount of regrets will erase it. Your thoughts affect your mood and limit your potential and really no one has time for that.

Living with regrets makes you feel helpless and limits the mount of time you to recover from yesterday’s mistakes. When we know better, we inspire others to do better and the world becomes a healthier place for you and for me and the following generations.

God will never let you down nor will He allow you to be pushed past your limit. He will always catch you if you fall. Fall seven times. Stand up eight.

So regardless of what happened yesterday, the day before, or what may happen tomorrow, get back into the ring. God has countless ways to get you where you should have been and always on time.

We will watch the beautiful sunsets at the close of each day and with great expectations the sun will rise the next day opening a whole new world of greater opportunities.

Strength comes from overcoming everything that knocked you down. Forget what’s behind and move forward with God’s grace.

“May the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be pleasing to you, O Lord.” Psalms 19:14

“The peace of God will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.” Philippians 4:7

Faith Over Fear

On a recent vacation to Kenya we visited animal orphanages and safaris. Among the many animals I saw – the gazelles held my interest for a moment in time. The gazelles are graceful and swift and when they leap into the air with all four feet, it makes it very difficult for their hunters to capture them.

We were told that the gazelles know that they must outrun the fastest lion, or they will be eaten. There’s a proverb ‘Every morning in Africa, a GAZELLE wakes up it knows it must outrun the fastest lion or it will be killed. Every morning in Africa, a LION wakes up it knows it must outrun the slowest gazelle, or it will starve.’

Just as the gazelle and the lion we must wake up every morning knowing that we must run and not give up because we will either be eaten, or we will starve. No matter how much life hurts we must be ready to run against the odds. Hold your head up and keep running.

It was fascinating to watch all the animals (big and small) living on acres and acres of open land with each animal knowing fully well that at any time of the day they can be anyone’s meal if they don’t run fast. Life has no place or space for excuses.

We must be ready to give each day our very best and finish the day with limited regrets. As we grow older, we learn to follow our heart knowing fully well that life is too short to be unhappy.  

Some days will be good while other days you may suffer defeat but overall learn from your mistakes and never underestimate the power of rising again. No matter what happens in your life do not change your position of who you are in Christ. You will be able to face anything now and in the future.

The moment your position as a Child of God changes, that is the moment you are in serious trouble. The Bible says, God is your safe-haven and your strength and a very present help in times of trouble. The LORD promises to keep you safe from all kinds of evil.

We are His personal concern. It doesn’t matter who is on your side or who isn’t, your heart should not fear if you have not changed your position in Christ.

Your current situation is not your final destination. Every morning wake up knowing that you that you have a new opportunity to win. Your story is not over even if you are exhausted from the fights. I found the best way to fight is learning to count your blessings, it keeps your mind free from evil.

Someone said, ‘Confidence isn’t walking into a room thinking you’re better than everyone, it’s walking in and not having to compare yourself to anyone at all.’ It’s unbelievable how quickly you regain composure when you realize that everyone is fighting their own battle, and no one knows how it will end.

The Lord will fight for you, you need only to be still. Exodus 14:14

God is within her she will not fail. Psalms 46:5

We made it !

Look like we’ve made it. Look how far we’ve come from – Sunday, Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday and finally we made it to Friday.

Now that we’ve gotten to this day, we came out not looking like half of what we went through. It’s called, GRACE! Thank you Lord for giving us extra grace to handle this week.

Laughter is an amazing gift God gave to us all. Laughter helps cope with sadness and life. It’s time to laugh after all that we have carried this past week.

Stay safe! Stay positive! Stay strong! Stay happy! There’s no rule for that. More is better than less.

Enjoy your weekend and see you on Monday when I get to share my thoughts with you. Thanks for sharing your time with me.

Learn from our Past

What would it take to get people’s attention today? Earthquake? The sun becoming black or the moon becoming like blood? Every mountain and island moving out of its place?

When Christians talk about the return of Jesus Christ the world says, ‘We are playing on people’s emotions.’

Watching fear based news holding the world hostage while the stations increase their ratings – no one grumbles and complain that they are a money making industry breeding fear into the lives of the most vulnerable people. 

Revelation 6:12-17 says, “And the kings, the great men, the rich men, the commanders, the mighty men, every slave and every free man, hid themselves in the caves and in the rocks of the mountains, and said to the mountains and rocks, ‘Fall on us and hide us from the face of Him who sits on the throne and from the wrath of the lamb! For the great day of His wrath has come, and who is able to stand?”

My friends, when you lose your peace, you lose your strength. When you lose your strength, it’s hard for your heart to go on. Most robbers of peace come from news, social media and the overload of text messages. How much more breaking news can one person tolerate to know that the world is facing a pandemic war?

Fear opens the floodgates to anxiety and anxiety leads to hopelessness. Humans feel that they can predict and find solutions to every crisis that the world faces, but the truth is, Jesus warned us that in the last days before He returns men’s hearts will be failing them for fear of bad news.

And the lofty looks of man shall be humbling, and the haughty will be bought down low. We tend to let our guards down when things are normal until we are blindsided by a curve ball that send us running for protection.

Peace robbers come a dime a dozen and if we don’t press the stop/delete button it can lead to great depression. From the moment our feet hit the floor in the morning there are emails of fear waiting to be opened, text messages of doom and gloom waiting to be read, and phone calls loaded with ammunition of uncertainty and panic.

So, what is God doing? Shaking things up a bit so we can find our way back to Him. Everything we worked hard for and the entertainment we enjoyed will all be pointless as we witness every country closing its borders. The things that displeased God and caused God’s face to be turned hopefully will get our attention to seek God’s forgiveness.

Hell is real and it’s worse than living in a city where everyone is afflicted with COVID-19 and there’s no medical help in sight. The purpose of all the disasters we have lived through in our lifetime were to prepare us for Jesus Christ return. But, it looks like many missed their turning point.

Our loving and forgiving God must wake this world up and expose the evil that leaders and others have been turning a blind eye to. The Lord is watching the wickedness on the earth and the evil that’s getting worse with every generation.

Could God be so grieved to see His creation destroying themselves and their images being changed with each passing day? Why does God hate sin? It goes against everything that He stands for.

Let’s pray for each other. Keep your eyes open. Keep each other encouraged so no one is left behind. Be prepared to finish strong. We are up against far more than we can handle on our own so call on Jesus. We must learn to be disciplined.

Do everything that’s humanly possible not to feed the fear but to feed our faith in God. Stay Focus on God!

It’s prayer time:

Jesus, you said that you will leave your peace with us, not the peace the world has to offer us but YOUR peace to sleep in the season of COVID-19. Help us not to get hold of anxiety and fear but to hold on to You. Thank you Jesus, for your peace. Amen


The Masterpiece

No lesson in life is ever wasted.

Life comes with seasons of challenges and long delays that can diminish one’s own self-worth. Many times, you are so hard and unforgiving of letting go of your mistakes in a way that is unfair or unnecessary. When you fail- trying again always remains an option.

The ugly bits and pieces, the delays, and finding solutions will one day become a masterpiece as you start from where you are today working towards a better tomorrow. Life becomes more meaningful when you are forced to change because of challenges and delays.

When you strive for getting a perfect score on every test that life throws at you, you will always end up missing the true meaning of total dependence on God. As kids our parents demanded perfect report cards and now in our adult lives this need to obtaining perfect scores puts us all at risk.

We try so hard to get perfect scores in our lives that is next to impossible to keep up the pressure. The next challenge or delay that comes leave a little room for forgiveness, error and dependence on God allowing Him to make it into a masterpiece,

God has a way of refueling you and making you believe in yourself that there’s something inside of you that is greater than whatever you maybe facing today. It’s during those times that you learn to empathize with others who may be struggling to rise above their own challenges and long delays.

Perfection is not attainable.

When you are always striving for perfection, you will increasingly become more unhappy with life and eventually the bottom will fall out. We are all vulnerable and prone to messing up while under pressure and handling unpleasant situations.

Showing up to performances without wearing a mask or pretending to be someone who you are not makes it incredibly freeing.

Get to the place where your heart is calm, and your thoughts are positive. Your dependence on God becomes greater and you will find your place of peace in the upheaval. Change is always an option when there are challenges to face.

If God saw who you are long before you messed up and still think the world of you – it’s about time that you cut yourself some slack and see the masterpiece in progress. God doesn’t make junks. Your worth is assessed after the job is done and not while in progress.

You wouldn’t always win but when the season is over the future looks brighter. You will always be better than you were yesterday if you don’t become stagnant. It’s only through mistakes, missteps, and experiences that we learn and grow.

No one is perfect in any area of life whether it’s your body, relationships, personal growth, habits, career or whatever may be your specialty.

Don’t let a bad day make you feel like you have a bad life. A day only has twenty-four hours. A good life has a minimum of three scores and ten (70 years) and if by reason of strength they can go on making you the oldest person in the world.

Let the need for perfection GO! Trust the process! The masterpiece is becoming the best you can bejust don’t become stagnant.

There’s a Ladder

One of the greatest sorrows in life is watching someone trying to be confident in the eyes of the public only to collapse like a broken puzzle with a zillion piece behind closed doors. It’s heartbreaking to fully imagine the weight that some people carry from day to day while still trying to be strong.

Friends, life is fragile and we all must handle it with great care.

There are stages in the adult life when life gets tricky and many become trapped in depression and anxiety bought on by varied untold stories of their past. When we feel like we have failed at life, discouragement follows, and self-esteem drops low.

There are times when life forces you to camp out because the day has come to an end. You are now alone under the open heaven watching your thoughts multiply as you secretly wish it was all a bad dream spinning around in your head.

There was a man named Jacob who after being on the run for many years from swindling his brother of his inheritance fell asleep under the open heavens on his way back home to reconcile with his brother.

Jacob then has a dream where he saw angels ascending and descending a ladder that extended from earth to heaven. The Bible says, Jacob wrestled with God. As a result, he developed a hip injury from struggling with God.

How many times have we too wrestle alone in bed as God tugs at our hearts longing for us to give up the fight as He sees our lives falling apart? There’s help available and it connects Heaven and Earth through Jesus Christ. Why do some people struggle until they are injured?

Could it be our own resistance to accept God’s help that delays our walk to freedom? Satan gets more credit than he deserves. I’ve heard folks say, ‘the devil made me do it or the devil is attacking me, but I know that God will bring me through.’

Are you aware of the ladder between Heaven and Earth (God’s Son Jesus Christ) that stands ready to help you put back together the pieces of your broken puzzle/dream? God is never asleep, nor does he just sit there relaxing not wanting to be disturbed.

God wants to give you back your wings so you can fly again. The therapy for nightmares is called Jesus. It isn’t the devil! It’s God you have been wrestling with all these years and He loves you so much that your injury was God trying to get your attention.

The story ended with Jacob demanding a blessing and your story can end with you demanding your blessing. There is a ladder from Earth to Heaven.

An Unusual Friday

Today is Friday and Fridays are usually my funny days. Well, today is by no means a funny day as the entire world is slowing being immobilized and panic stricken because of Coronavirus or COVID19.

So out of respect for those who may have been directly impacted I pause for and with you and your loved ones to say a prayer.

Media creates panic. Panic creates fear. Fear leaves you faithless doubting that God can effectively take care of his own. So many things we worry about in our life and the truth is, most of them never happen.

Be wise and do what’s right by following the healthcare providers precautions and all the advice given.

God is a God of communication and he enjoys hearing our concerns and anxieties:

Lord, we ask you to cover all our loved ones with your feathers and under your wings we will hide. We know from the beginning of times that we can’t count the amount of hair on our heads or the way the wind blows but we remember that you can, so we make our thoughts submit to your thoughts.

We are human and our heart many times are filled with fear, but we know that you are a promise keeper so when our hearts are overwhelmed we will run to you. We need your strength, peace, comfort and miraculous power in this very stressful and nerve-wracking pandemic. In Jesus Name, Amen

This is how God speaks to us:

‘My dear children, I will not leave you helpless. Be strong and of good courage. Have I not instructed you not to become anxious, nor be saddened, for I am with you?

My love for you is based on trust and faith in my promises to you. I can keep you safe. No evil will befall you, and no epidemic will come near to where you live.

This too will pass. I have set everything right. Keep your thoughts on Me. You will stand untouched and will not succumb to all that’s happening around you.’

Finally. I am praying that each one of us will stay under the shadow of the Almighty. Blessings multiplied to you and yours. In Jesus Name