OCTOBER 4 HEART TO HEART GROWN UP CONVERSATIONS

Today’s Topic: Everyone Is Not On The Same Journey

Quote: “Don’t judge someone by the chapter you walked in on.”

“You are late today!” was a remark someone in my neighborhood said to me on one of my early morning walks. I couldn’t help but smile and with great confidence nodded my head in acknowledgement, as I kept on walking.

What this very lovely person did not know was that I was already into 30 minutes of my walk, but I took a different route before I came back on to my familiar route.

This person assumed that I was off my schedule. Don’t judge someone by the chapter you walked in on. Never let someone’s lack of full disclosure make you respond out of character.

Sometimes, all it takes is a smile and a simple acknowledgment that you heard them, and move right along.

Of course, I felt so good to know that I had already completed 30 minutes while they assumed I only just got started.

We simply don’t take into consideration that sometimes God isolates us because our paths are different.

You can’t do the same thing like everyone while expecting God to order your steps. Great things happen in seasons of isolation. I discovered a new route that challenged my endurance.

The little pride in me wanted to let them know that I changed my route up a bit while my introvert self did not allow me to explain myself away.

I walked on smiling to myself as I thought about what a beautiful blog this will be. I adjusted my tunnel vision mask without seeking to give an explanation.

You are the author, the editor, the lead character, and you are the story. When you stand before God at the end of your journey, I hope you will be proud of your very difficult choices.

Another one of my favourites quotes: “I am in no competition with no one. I have no desire to play the game of being better than anyone. I am simply trying to be better than the person I was yesterday.”

Be your own person. Life is too short to let anyone determine your destiny. What you see in others is usually only one chapter of their story. So become more curious to learn a little more about each other.

I am a firm believer in God having a plan for everyone. The path you are on today is all part of your destiny. With all the twists and turns and what looks like a delay.

Things happen, things happen, things happen, and things will always happen. Many times, it looks like completely opposite to what you were praying or hoping for but don’t lose heart. Two to three years down the road you will look back and be glad that you didn’t give up.

I am closing with James 1:2-8 “My brethren, count it all joy when you fall into various trials, knowing that the testing of your faith produces patience. But let patience have its perfect work, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking nothing. If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives to all liberally and without reproach, and it will be given to him. But let him ask in faith, with no doubting, for he who doubts is like a wave of the sea driven and tossed by the wind. For let not that man suppose that he will receive anything from the Lord; he is a double-minded man, unstable in all his ways.”

Prayer Time: Father, we ask in faith that we will not be quitters. Help our thoughts not be like the waves of the seas driven and toss by the opinions of others. Teach us to be stable in whatever we purpose to do. In Jesus Name, Amen

Remember:
God cannot be your source of strength if your limits are set by others.

SEPTEMBER 30 HEART TO HEART GROWN UP CONVERSATIONS

Today’s Topic: It’s a Done Deal

Generational curses are real as real as it can be.

Dealing with generational curses is a daily struggle. There are drug and sex addictions, mental illnesses, physical illnesses, abuse, and even poverty just to name a few.

I can certainly identify to most if not all the mentioned curses in my family’s history. Family curses are reoccurring problems that steal, kill, and destroy.

I thank God for my Praying Mother who broke the cycles of generational curses on her knees and tears of repentance so her children can walk in freedom. God showed His love to her as she raised us to walk in obedience to His commandments.

You cannot choose your relatives any more than you can choose skin color, eye, nose, or height.

What worked against your family will not work against you and your children if you dare to take a Godly stand.

Allow God to be in control of your life and be the one who will dare to say, “This stops at me.” You are the reason why God will not let you settle for anything less.

Identify the curses. Call them out before God and watch God break the cycles over you and your family.

Curses don’t just visit and disappear. Curses take up residence when there are no watchmen in the gates.

Addictions, dysfunctional behavior, etc. were present even before you made your appearance on earth.

Breaking family curses forces you to think about what things are noticeable in the family tree and take responsible action.

When you dance with the devil, the devil doesn’t change but he will change you. Break the cycle for yourself and your children.

Let’s do some AFFIRMATIONS:
I am blessed when I come in and when I go out.
I am the head and not beneath. I am first and not last. Whatever I put my hands to do will prosper as a child of the true and living God.
The Lord is my light and my salvation. I will not be afraid.
The Lord will command His blessings on me and all that I set my hand to do.
I will be the lender and not the borrower.
The Lord will defeat my enemies when they attack me. They will attack in one direction, but they will run from me in all directions.
I am stronger. I am smarter. I am more resilient than I think. I am facing my fears and doing everything to break generational cycles in my life in Jesus Name.
I am not afraid of greatness because greatness is within me.
I give myself permission to become who God has destined me to become.
All these blessings will overtake me as I listen and walk in obedience to the Lord.

Prayer Time: Father, thank you for setting me free from curses that were passed down from former generations. I am who you say I am. I am not a survivor. I am WINNER. In Jesus Name. Amen

Reminder:
You cannot choose your relatives any more than you can choose skin color, eye, nose, or height. What worked against your family will not work against you and your children if you dare to take a Godly stand. Allow God to be in control of your life and be the one who will dare to say, “This stops at me.” You are the reason why God will not let you settle for anything less.
You are not a survivor. You are a WINNER in Jesus Name.

SEPTEMBER 29 HEART TO HEART GROWN UP CONVERSATIONS

Today’s Topic: An Adult Conversation

Try thinking about the relationships in your life like a bank account. A bank account is a place to keep your money, and you manage that account by making deposits and withdrawals. If you attempt to withdraw more money from your account than you have in the bank, that’s a problem.

A healthy relationship shows up in words of affirmation, encouragement, acts of service, giving someone a gift, and spending time with someone more commonly known as the ‘Five Love Languages.’

Take a step back and see whether you are making more deposits or withdrawals. If you allow people to make more withdrawals than deposits in your life, you will be out of balance and very angry.

Know when to deposit and if to close the account.

You don’t need to fight or be insulting. Just be honest. Be firm. Be respectful. People will begin to respect you when they observe the change in your behavior.

It can be emotionally draining to deal with people who are insincere and deceitful but don’t let your happiness depend on anything outside of your comfort zone.

Psalm 90:12 says, “So teach us to number our days that we may get a heart of wisdom.”

When you have a negative thought make peace with your past. Our days are numbered. See all experiences as lessons towards your growth.

Stop engaging in things that are not working. No need to change people. Love them from where they are. You cannot control your thoughts, but you can control your choices.

God warns us in the Bible about the shortness of life. We should set our priorities based on what is truly important. This season of your life can truly be the best.

It would have been a complete waste of your life on earth letting everyone use you but God. In life people come and people go but only God remains the same.

If you put more effort into loving God than you put into maintaining a human relationship, you will find happiness while living an abundant life.

No one can count the number of days they have to live. The number of our days, months, and years, is with the Lord but is hid from us. Our lives belong to God. Our families belong to God. Our possessions belong to God. Everything is His.

Quote: “God loves you more in a moment than anyone could love you in a lifetime.”

God can do a lot with the little of our life remaining on earth. If you don’t believe me, just ask the boy with the five loaves and two fish who gave everything he had to Jesus.

It didn’t seem like a lot, but Jesus used them to feed a hungry multitude. Jesus can take the rest of your days, bless it and multiply it. He can use it beyond our wildest dreams.

PRAYER TIME: Father, we may not have as much time as we think. Help us to focus on what is important and to be used by you to bring others out of their daunting past. In Jesus Name, Amen.

Thought for Today: God warns us in the Bible about the shortness of life. Set your priorities based on what is truly important. This season of your life can truly be the best.

It would have been a complete waste of your life on earth letting everyone use you but God. In life people come and people go but only God remains the same.

SEPTEMBER 28 HEART TO HEART GROWN UP CONVERSATIONS

Today’s Topic: Who is holding you up?

Quote: “What if I fall? Oh, but darling, what if you fly?” This quote sounds like a conversation between God and me. I have asked God questions like this so many times in my life, and when I look back at those times, I have seen how only God could have carried me on His wings from there to here.

I have learned a lot about God when I felt like I was falling.

Wings remind me of freedom. Insects, birds, bats, and airplanes have wings. They fly to and fro all over the world. Caterpillar has no wings, but it flies when it grows into an Adult Butterfly.

Humans can’t grow wings; we only grow arms and legs. So, who is holding you up when your arms and legs go weary?

When you don’t feel strong you become vulnerable, and anyone can tell you anything and you will fall for it.

As God’s children, we need a safe shelter when our fear for flying above the chaos becomes a reality.

Satan many times put us in harm’s way. We often get burnt out and our weary minds lead us into the ‘what-ifs.’ Our anxious thoughts becomes our breaking point.

Can I reassure you about our safe hiding place?
Psalm 32:7 “You are a hiding place for me; you preserve me from trouble; you surround me with shouts of deliverance.”

I have watched how a hen protects her chicks. There they are in the yard digging in the ground without a care in the world. She sometimes makes a clucking noise and the little chicks huddle closer to her. Then, a dog gets close, and the hen makes a loud noise and open her wings and the little chicks run towards her.

Like the hen gathers her chicks to protect them from harm, the Lord’s wings provide protection and security during stormy seasons and Satan’s harmful intentions.

What a beautiful sight to always keep in mind when fear grips your heart. You may ask God, “What if I fall? And God will always respond, “Oh, but darling, what if you fly.”

God wants to gather us under His wings—if we are willing. We live in a cold-hearted world where the trust level is below zero.

We go through life and when things get really bad, we want our Mommy. Maybe Mommy is no longer with you, and you miss her greatly. Or maybe Mom is never around or just doesn’t seem to care.

I want to remind you that Jesus is always present and close to your side. He cares more than you can imagine. He wants you to get close to Him where He can shelter you when you are scared or hurting.

God is your refuge. Trust Him to keep you safe and to rescue you from unforeseen situations. You are perfectly safe under His wings.

He orders His angels to guard you wherever you go. If you stumble, they’ll catch you. Their job is to keep you from falling. Isaiah 40:31 – “But they that wait upon the LORD shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings as eagles; they shall run, and not be weary; and they shall walk, and not faint.”

PRAYER TIME: Father, thank you that you are a good, good Father. You keep us safe under your wings at all times. Our confidence is in knowing that your watchful eyes are on us. In Jesus Name, Amen.

I want to remind you that Jesus is always present and close to your side. He cares more than you can imagine. He wants you to get close to Him where He can shelter you when you’re scared or hurting. God is your refuge. Trust Him to keep you safe and to rescue you from sudden disasters. You are perfectly safe under His wings.


SEPTEMBER 27 HEART TO HEART GROWN UP CONVERSATIONS

Today’s Topic: Delete!

The strongest people are those who know when to click the “DELETE” button because there are just too many tabs open.

The hard drive on your laptop stores data. This includes your photos, videos, music, documents, etc. The hard drive can crash if there was an accidental spill, plain old wear and tear, or from overheating.

Life is very much like your computer hard drive. The only difference is, YOU are HUMAN.

A computer can always be replaced, but you cannot purchase another you anywhere in the world.

Storing too many videos of painful memories from your past, history of abuse and hurts, photos of exes, and dairies of events and encounters will make it extremely difficult for you to recover quickly and healthy.

Loading up too much junk in your memory will sap your energy and joy that is required to living an abundant life. You will eventually crash from wear and tear, accidental spillage, and fatigue.

You will emotionally die before you physically die.You will be a shell of who you were originally.

It’s time to clear your history of browsing through the negative messages that were picked up throughout your life. Go ahead and delete without fear that you may need it for evidence.

Permanently delete your history of remorse and regret. Clear your browsing history. Control. Shift. Delete. Close windows of your mind. Declutter your mind and heart. Stop looking in the trash bin.

Delete! Delete! Delete! You’ve got enough problems. Finding your happy space should not be one of them.

Don’t waste your energy talking about things and people you hate. When things go wrong there are lessons to learn. It’s not failure on your part. Each day has enough trouble of its own. Therefore do not worry about tomorrow. Tomorrow will worry about itself (Matthew 6:34).

PRAYER TIME: Father, help us to get rid of everything that’s weighing us down. You are always in control even when our circumstances may seem out of control. We will never be disappointed when we trust you with our lives. In Jesus Name, Amen.

Reminder:
Each day has enough troubles of its own. Therefore do not worry about tomorrow. Tomorrow will worry about itself.

SEPTEMBER 23

YOUR MINUTE WITH DR. KRISSY DOYLE-THOMAS MEDICAL NEUROSCIENTIST and PROFESSOR

TODAY’S TOPIC: ISOLATION IS NOT GOOD FOR YOUR HEALTH

Here is the reality – you need to do life WITH someone you trust. This could be a neighbor, a friend, a mentor, or a spiritual adviser. In stressful situations our brain responds to social support.

The release of oxytocin, our brain chemical, promotes our defence against stress.

Oxytocin is activated during positive interactions with someone you trust who is your support system. This interaction is very important for resilience.

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So when you are having a hard time, DO NOT isolate yourself.

Find a trusted person to support you, and if you need more support do not hesitate to speak with a therapist. We were meant to do life together.

I hope this helps. Take care.

SEPTEMBER 22 HEART TO HEART GROWN UP CONVERSATIONS

Today’s Topic: It’s Only a Bad Day NOT a Bad Life.

I remembered in 2002 I faced my biggest fear when one of my daughters had a major scoliosis
spinal surgery. What was supposed to be a four hour surgery turned into a nine hour surgery making the waiting time unbearable and taunting to say the least.

As my daughter was hastily rushed into ICU, my Faith level fell to zero as I told God that certainly He missed out on an opportunity for me to brag about His healing powers.

For months before I prayed, fasted, and believed with every fibre in my body that God would heal her without her having to endure the before and after effects of a major spinal surgery at 15 years old.

April 15, 2002 will forever be in my memories. My faith was terribly shaken. I remembered telling my family that I don’t want anything to read about God, prayers, or anything about faith.

My faith level was at a critically low point. Late in the midnight hour we left ICU anticipating to get a quick nap to go back the next day.

What took place during my short sleep confirmed to me I was having a bad day but definitely not a bad life. In my sleep the words of Romans 8:35, 37-39 woke me up.

“Can anything separate us from the love of Christ? Can trouble, suffering, and hard times, or hunger and nakedness, or danger and death? In everything we have won more than a victory because of Christ who loves us. I am sure that nothing can separate us from God’s love—not life or death, not angels or spirits, not the present or the future, and not powers above or powers below. Nothing in all creation can separate us from God’s love for us in Christ Jesus our Lord!”

I woke my husband up and told him we are going back to the hospital. This time, I was armed and dangerous. No devil was going to intimidate me or turn me into an unbeliever.

To make a very, very long story short – my daughter’s Jewish physician named her “My shining star.”

Friends, be not dismayed whatever it may be, God will take care of you.

Can anything separate you from the love of Christ? Can trouble, suffering, and hard times, or hunger and nakedness, or danger and death?

Be encouraged: In everything you have won more than a victory because of Christ who loves you.

I am praying that nothing will separate you from God’s love—not life or death, not angels or spirits, not the present or the future, and not powers above or powers below.

Nothing in all creation can separate me from God’s love. Lean weary one upon His chest – God will take care of you.

It’s Prayer Time: Father, : we cannot escape from your Spirit! We can never get away from your presence. In Jesus Name, Amen.

SEPTEMBER 21 HEART TO HEART GROWN UP CONVERSATIONS

Discover Your Purpose

God has a purpose for our lives, and He will accomplish it. No one is a mistake. No one holds your destiny.

God has numbered your days. Every birthday is another year that was already pre-planned by God, and He will fulfill every purpose He has for you. Your life has purpose and it’s the reason you get up every morning.

Purpose guides your decisions…hence is the reason having a relationship with God is beneficial so you don’t waste your life running after things that has no purpose for you.

Purpose gives you a sense of direction and meaning to life. Be purpose driven and you will never miss your target.

If you decide to save $1 a day at the end of 365 days you would have accumulated $365. If you decide to be a motivational speaker… start thinking and speaking positive thoughts. If you don’t have a plan, you don’t stand a chance of achieving anything.

A life is a terrible thing to waste. Find what makes you feel strong and you would have found your purpose. Let your strength lead you to your God-given purpose. God will accomplish everything He has preplanned for you.

Take a close look at your friends and listen to your conversations and it will be a great indication if you are walking into your purpose.

We hear all the time that life is short but a short life without purpose is wasted.

The dash on your gravestone shows the date you were born and the date of your death. That little line is the most significant part of your life. As the poem “The Dash” says, “For that little dash represents all the time they spent on earth and now only those who loved them know what that little line is worth.”

It’s Prayer Time: Father, thank you for the purpose you have for my life. May I walk obediently to your promptings as I do life with you. In Jesus Name, Amen.

FINALLY:
Life, if well lived, is long enough. Don’t die earlier than you’re kept alive. Find your purpose and pursue it with God.