Don’t Add To The Noise

Dear friends, if you choose to live among the wise, you’ve got to be wise. A wise person knows there’s something to learn from everyone and in every situation.

Step One – Refuse to get involved in frivolous discussions; they always end up in fights.

Step Two – Hatred backfires.

Step 3 – A desire to hurt someone boomerangs.

Jealousy, revenge, hatred, anger, pride – are emotional warning bells that we need to listen to before they destroy everything in the pathway. Someone said, “Speak when you are angry, and you will make the best speech you will ever regret.” I think we can apply the same theory to any of the other emotions listed. A jealous person: a person bent on taking revenge; an angry person; a proud person, or a person full of hate… can make the best speech he/she will ever regret.

Nothing that we have experienced is beyond what others before us have had to face. There’s nothing new under the sun…our parents faced it and it is common to all human beings.

I thank God for my praying Mother who taught us children that all we need to remember is that God will never let us down nor will He allow us to push past our limit. He will always be there to help us come through whatever may come against us.

I believe what my Mom taught me, and now I’m repeating the same words to you, “God will never let you down, and He will not allow you to be pushed past your limit.”

So regardless of what happened yesterday, the day before, or what may happen tomorrow, “blowing out someone else’s candles doesn’t make yours shine any brighter.” Our options may be very few, but sometimes we have to count our losses and move on.

Negative emotions will hold us emotionally hostage to things we have no control over…”could have’; ‘should have’; are all unproductive thoughts.
Forget the stuff that you have no control over; do not live there; promote yourself to another level with folks who think like you. God is doing a new thing EVERYDAY!

Don’t miss the new thing while holding on to the pain. Together we will watch the beautiful sunsets … and with great expectations the sun will rise the next day opening up a whole new world of greater opportunities.

I don’t know about you, but I’m moving forward to get to the finish line. I’m giving it everything I’ve got. I’m staying alert and in top condition. I’m not going to get caught running off track.

One thing never wavered, one thing never changed…I never lost my hope, my joy, my faith, and my gratitude to God.

Mama, You Are The Heart Of the Home – 3

Today I’m reblogging one of my blogs… with a little editing. It may be the first time some of you may be reading it, so it should be an interesting read.

The following nursery rhyme is quite popular all over the world…”Five little monkeys jumping on the bed,
One fell down and bumped his head,
Mama called the doctor and the doctor said,
No more monkeys jumping on the bed!”  

There are five verses and each verse the monkeys become less and less as they fall off the bed.

Allow me to stretch my imagination a little as I swap the five little monkeys into kids.

Parenting is a job that can make the wisest person feel like a high school dropout, or make a saint feel like a sinner, or a non-drinker feel intoxicated. As much as we hate to admit it for fear of being ostracized…. Parenting is hard work, and it’s definitely for the strong at heart.

I’ve had my share of questioning my own parenting skills where sometimes it felt like I was on a winning streak…until a kid fell off and bumped her head and the doctor had to be called out…not once, but many times. When that happens … you seriously begin to second guess yourself and your competency.

Maybe the mother of the five little monkeys (kids) was frustrated, angry and feeling like her life was out of control as one monkey after the other was falling off the bed and bumping their head. It’s no mother’s dream to be calling the doctor on five different occasions…but life happens.

Did you notice that there was no mention of a father? So, mothers, if you have ever cried yourself to sleep because you felt incompetent…then CONGRATULATIONS, you are a great Mom! It’s all part of juggling the demands of the family.

What keeps us going as mothers when all we want to do is to escape the chaos? We are the heart of the home regardless of the dynamics of the family. Our role in the home is way too important to call in sick, to apply for time off, or to seek a replacement. Parenting is not the kind of job that you can ask for a sabbatical when you have five little monkeys.

Monkeys falling out of the bed is certainly a living nightmare. We all dream about having happy and well-adjusted kids… but life with kids teaches us difficult lessons at different stages, and sometimes many unplanned calls to the doctor. Every decision we make has a lasting effect on the entire family for the rest of their lives. There’s no part-time employment in parenting … it’s a full-time job from the moment the first little adorable angel graced us with their presence until mother takes her last breath. When we are in doubt about a decision it may be helpful to ask, “How will this decision affect my child or children in the next 5 or 10 years”?  

 

Good parents do everything with their children’s best interest at heart. Don’t worry that your children are not listening to you…be more aware that they are watching you, so stay consistent in faith. If they see bad…they become ten times worse …. if they see good…hopefully they stand a greater chance to do ten times better.

Psalms 127:1-2 says,

If God doesn’t build the house,
the builders only build shacks.
If God doesn’t guard the city,
the night watchman might as well nap.
It’s useless to rise early and go to bed late,
and work your worried fingers to the bone.
Don’t you know he enjoys
giving rest to those he loves?”

  1. Allow God to build the family
  2. If God doesn’t guard the family, we might as well take a nap
  3. God enjoys giving us rest. Don’t lose sleep and stop worrying over your children

When God is in control, He makes even your enemies to be at peace with you.

God Will Favor YOU In Spite of ….

Anyone who has experienced success knows it was hard work that made them successful. We were created to work and work involves mental or physical effort to bring about a favorable end. Some people make things happen, some people watch things happen and some people wonder what happened.

Anyone can come up with an excuse why they have not achieved their dreams … “I have no one to help me get there”; “Every time I step out, others come in front of me”; “No one called me back”; “I’m going to do it, watch me” …excuses, excuses, excuses. Excuses somehow takes away the guilt and defends the ‘whys’ the work was not done.

Maybe we weren’t all created with an equal amount of gifts and talents …but comparison leads to excuses, fail attempts, and limits our potentials. It takes the same amount of hard work to have one win as it takes another person to have two wins or more. It’s unproductive to sit by and watch others experience success while we make laps giving excuses. Some people make things happen, some people watch things happen and some people wonder what happened.

Everyone has the same 24 hours a day … your celebrity crush… your role model…your enemies. The secret is, those who made it to the top kept going until they got it right. When they got it right …. they charge us exorbitant rates either to see them perform or to hire them to do the work on our behalf. Sadly, we empty our bank accounts for those who worked hard to succeed. While men slept, they toil and labor through the night.

Learning curves are difficult and it takes much effort like climbing a steep hill. It’s difficult but with much effort we will eventually get there. Tough times don’t last, tough people do.

God promises to favor us in spite of the naysayers, the accusers, the onlookers, and the obstacles. God knows our mistakes, he knows our faults, He knows us inside out, and He’s remains faithful to holding us together to the end. When God favors us… we can be calm like a sleeping baby, even if all hell breaks loose. We can continue to stand firm in faith trusting God. I personally would have fainted repeatedly if I didn’t prove this to be true.

If we make ourselves at home with God and His promises are at home in us, we can be sure that whatever we ask for… God will listen and act on it. God will fight for us and we will keep our mouths shut.

I had to find my own place in the jungle and create my own dream world. I pushed past what were my perceived limitations… and like a self-made boomerang …my life began evolving and I found my piece of the pie. I learned how to clap for myself and was proud of my ability to bounce back time after time in spite of road blocks and barriers. It felt good once my outer shell cracked and I saw the diamond that was hidden in me.

It was worth every hurt, heartache, and pain. No price is too great when you challenge yourself to elevate, and to push pass the distractions. I had to know that no one was coming to open the door for me.

God will match our effort and put us in places where others don’t think we are qualified to be. Allow God permission to interrupt your life. Many of our delays in life are due to having a ‘tunnel vision’ where we only see our own point of view. To move up to the next level, we must get past who is against us, who is for us, who is in the middle because they don’t want to pick a side.

Life is way too short to sit down and wait for someone to open the door for you. Get up! Fight the feeling! Forgive yourself for the missed opportunities and never stop believing that God still holds your prized promise.

Time Is Unforgiving

The older we get is the more aware we should become of the value of TIME. Life teaches us to make good use of time, but for some people they wake up late in life only to find out that they missed the windows of opportunities to do the things they always wanted to do.

I want to believe that we all hold things in our hearts that we wished we had time to do all over again. It’s perfectly okay to be sad about missed opportunities … it reminds us that we are human. But time is unforgiving, it waits on no one. We are what we repeatedly do. Winning can become a habit. Failure can become a habit. Just keep repeating whatever you are doing and the results will speak for itself.

There’s a perfect time for all of us to do anything in life … and if we miss the timing, the opportunity is gone forever. There’s no getting around it. Have you ever rushed over to the grocery store only to find out you missed the opening hours by one minute? The guard looks at you and says, “Come back tomorrow.”

Time doesn’t stand still … and life is uncertain … nothing is guaranteed. I’ve seen folks who waited until their final hours to make it right with their loved ones. Time is unforgiving…we cannot get time back. When we adopt the mindset that we are adults…then we become entitled to doing whatever pleases us. And as CS Lewis says, “Evil comes from the abuse of free will.” I can only hope …we all will live a life that we can be proud of since time is unforgiving.

Have you ever took a glance in the mirror, walk away, and two minutes later have no idea what you look like? It’s unfortunate that we can look at our choices…see that they are not the smartest ones…stop and even think about it …. but choose to walk away believing we have time.

How unfortunate it is to be aware of how awful some of our choices are, and do nothing about it. Will tonight be too late?

I’ve attended funerals of people who thought they had years ahead to change their lifestyle and to do the right thing. Regrettably, they either had an untimely death or had a brain injury that prevented them from making the lifestyle changes that they needed to. Time is unforgiving.

Should we start thinking NOW about our ending? Should we keep on living carelessly because God keep on showing us more and more kindness and forgiveness? The Bible says, “Of course NOT!”

Time is unforgiving. A relationship with God keeps our hearts and minds in perfect peace…and that peace cannot be hidden…it is seen by all human.

Don’t wait until you are at the point of death or facing uncertainties to pursue God and the people who matters the most in your lives. It may just be too late by one minute.

Time is unforgiving.

Such LOVE!

Fridays are the days I post funny quotes…but today being Good Friday…it’s a great time to pause and reflect on the love of our Savior Jesus Christ.

There’s just so much to be grateful when we look at the Cross. As you scroll through the quotes let them remind us of the confidence we have in God’s promises. There’s no greater love than Jesus Christ giving it all up so we can be free from everything that weighs us down.

Wishing each and everyone a happy, holy GOOD FRIDAY!

See you on Monday when I get to share my thoughts with you again.

Have a safe and beautiful weekend.

EASTER is All About The Resurrected Christ

As Christians and believers in Jesus Christ, our faith and belief are rooted in Jesus’s resurrection. Easter is huge for us as followers of Jesus Christ, it’s a celebration that even death and the tomb couldn’t hold Him. The Bible says that Mary Magdalene came to the tomb where Jesus was buried and found it empty. An angel told her that Jesus has risen just as He had boldly announced before His death.

For if, while WE WERE GOD’S ENEMIES, we were reconciled to him through THE DEATH of his Son, how much more, having been RECONCILED, shall we be saved through his life!” Romans 5:10 — meaning — God chose to bless us despite the fact that we do not deserve it.

It is through Faith (which is the basic ingredient to begin a relationship with God) that we are forgiven of our sins (willful disobedience).

Satan looks for every reason why we should not be forgiven. He accuses us and reminds us constantly of our wrongs. But, God who is rich in showing compassion and forgiveness towards us even though He has the power to punish us…makes a public disgrace of Satan’s accusations. Someone said, “When Satan comes knocking, allow God to open the door.”

We need a Savior because the guilt that comes after we have sinned is just too much for any human being to carry. Jesus took on the form of man and went to the cross and paid the price in full once and for all. Job 19:25 NIV says, “As for me, I know that my Vindicator is alive; And He, the Last One, will take his stand on the soil.”

Easter marks the Resurrection of Jesus Christ … and the next big Promised Event is His Return.

Revelation 22:12 says, “Behold, I am coming quickly, and My reward is with Me, to render to every man according to what he has done.”

Steps to knowing God
  1. Trust Jesus Christ today! …
  2. Admit that you are a sinner and that you need God’s help. …
  3. Be willing to change your mind and turn from your sin (repent). …
  4. Believe that Jesus Christ died for you, was buried, and rose from the dead. …
  5. Through prayer, invite Jesus into your heart to become your personal Lord and Savior. …
  6. Pray – daily talk with God about everything that concerns you. Satan cannot accuse me or you of our past

Here my friends is the true meaning of Easter…it’s not about the Easter bunny or eggs…it’s about the Lamb of God who takes away our wrongs and makes them right.

It Was A Good Friday

Good Friday is a Christian holiday, the day we stop to reflect on the crucifixion of Jesus Christ and his death at Calvary. Good Friday comes before Easter. The Darkest Hour is before The Dawn. 

 WHY DID HE HAVE TO DIE?

The Bible says in Isaiah 53,

“There was nothing attractive about Jesus, nothing to cause us to take a second look. He was looked down on and passed over, a man who suffered, who knew pain firsthand. One look at him and people turned away. We looked down on him, thought he was scum. But the fact is, it was our pains he carriedour disfigurements, all the things wrong with us. We thought he brought it on himself, that God was punishing him for his own failures.
But it was our sins that did that to him that ripped and tore and crushed him—our sins! 

He took the punishment, and that made us whole. Through his bruises we get healed. We’re all like sheep who’ve wandered off and gotten lost. We’ve all done our own thing, gone our own way. And God has piled all our sins, everything we’ve done wrong, on him, on him. He was beaten, he was tortured, but he didn’t say a word. Like a lamb taken to be slaughtered and like a sheep being sheared, he took it all in silence.

HE DIED WITHOUT A THOUGHT FOR HIS OWN WELFARE, BEATEN BLOODY FOR THE SINS OF MY PEOPLE. Still, it’s what God had in mind all along, to crush him with pain. THE PLAN WAS THAT HE GIVE HIMSELF AS AN OFFERING FOR SIN SO THAT HE’D SEE LIFE COME FROM IT -LIFE, LIFE, AND MORE LIFE. HE LOOKED DEATH IN THE FACE AND DIDN’T FLINCH, because he embraced the company of the lowest. He took on his own shoulders the sin of the many, he took up the cause of all the black sheep.”

What was finished when Jesus hung on the Cross?

Later, knowing that everything had now been finished, and so that Scripture would be fulfilled, Jesus said, “I am thirsty.” A jar of wine vinegar was there, so they soaked a sponge in it, put the sponge on a stalk of the hyssop plant, and lifted it to Jesus’ lips. When he had received the drink, JESUS SAID, “IT IS FINISHED.” WITH THAT, HE BOWED HIS HEAD AND GAVE UP HIS SPIRIT.” John 19:28-30

After doing some research on the internet, I found on Christianity.com this great explanation on the meaning of Jesus’ last words “IT IS FINISHED”

“When Jesus cried out “It is finished,” he meant “It was finished in the past, it is still finished in the present, and it will remain finished in the future.” Note one other fact. He did not say, “I am finished,” for that would imply that he died defeated and exhausted. Rather, he cried out “It is finished,” meaning “I successfully completed the work I came to do.” When he died, he left no unfinished business behind.”

Here my friends are the Why He had to die? and What was the meaning of Jesus’ last words “It is finished”. 

Now, it’s up to us what we will do about the Why and “It is Finished!”