Leave People Better than You Found Them

Have you ever had someone who walked into your life and left you feeling much better after the first encounter? If you are one who can recall that special moment … make sure you pass that feeling on to someone else. 

Being a friend means being there when someone is going through a rough time. Life is stressful and people are dealing with anxiety or depression many times without saying a word to you. 

People’s behavior changes when they are struggling with issues. Being someone’s eyes and ears can ease the pain of embarrassment and shame. The truth is, we all have the ability to help others in some way or the other.

A word of caution before I continue: Setting healthy boundaries is important before you set out on a mission to help others. We cannot be EVERYTHING  to EVERYONE. We must PROTECT ourselves  from manipulation, being used or being disrespected by others. 

Back to my topic: No matter how unimportant some people may seem… those are the real ones who will give you an opportunity to change their world. Take a chance and be kind to them. 

Sometimes, a simple hello, a smile, a hug can make such a big difference in someone’s life. Other times, it may cost you something more to leave a sparkle in someone’s eyes. Whatever is the process – be prepare to follow through on what GOD has placed on your heart. 

John 15:9 “As the Father has loved me, so have I loved you. Now remain in my love.” 

So many people have been forgotten, abused, rejected and left alone to face difficult situations. It is a great feeling to live knowing you can help make a difference at someone else’s crossroad. 

Nothing you do to make someone feel better than how you met them goes unnoticed or unappreciated. God who sees in secret – rewards you openly. Kindness is a choice. Giving is a choice. Respect is a choice. So choose wisely. 

If you are thinking of someone, maybe it’s a great time to call them. It doesn’t take too much time to say hi. Jesus met a woman at a well, she had five husbands and her future was changed forever because she had an encounter with Him. Purpose in your heart to leave others better than you met them. Everybody needs somebody. 

When my turn comes to enter into my rest, I want to know that I did not waste my time on earth …. but I made a difference in people’s lives. 


RESENTMENT is to feel angry because you have been forced to accept someone or something that you do not like. 

There’s no way to avoid a person you RESENT. 

You can throw yourself a divorce party … but guess who will be the guest of honor? Your ex…. the jokes, conversations, heated debates, the drinks, the music etc…

If you want to be miserable and unhappy, hold on tight to resentment. 

Many times we miss pleasant opportunities and new beginnings simply because we are trying to get even with someone who has hurt our feelings. 

Over the years, I’ve come to appreciate the power of having short term memory for the wrongs others may have done INDIRECTLY or DIRECTLY. 

To move on – we must make a conscious effort to forgive. Forgive – so you can walk free. 


As an adult, I find it very helpful to write hurtful stuff with a pencil. I can erase stuff written in pencil. Then, I can rewrite my NEW STORYLINE in ink the way I choose to, using words that motivate me to rise above the dust. 

We all have a choice whether we will FORGIVE the wrongs done to us and choose only to REMEMBER the good. 

I love the quote below:


How to live with a CHAMPION mindset:

Genesis 50: 19-21 CEB

“But Joseph said to them, “Don’t be afraid, Am I God?
You planned something bad for me, but God produced something good from it, in order to save the lives of many, just as he is doing today.
Now don’t be afraid. I will take care of you and your children.”
So he put them at ease and spoke reassuringly to them.” 

Full Plate! Empty Plate! 

Work your garden – you will end up with plenty of food; play and party – you will end up with an empty plate.” Proverbs 28:19 MSG 

There are days when the struggle to write is real. 

It’s not about having the time …. the real struggle is MAKING the time to write. 

My day is filled with constant movements that usually comes to a halt approximately two hours before the day is over (24 hour day). 

The truth is, I enjoy writing… but I’m not sure if I am one of many or few writers who write their blogs ‘LIVE’ ( current) every night. Writing at the end of the day can be a struggle as your BRAIN is just too tired to think anymore. Yet, I must write despite how exhausted I may be. Writing in the stillness of the late night is actually the MOST productive personal time of my day. 

So what’s my motivation? YOU MY READERS and I THANK YOU! 

As another year is coming to a close, I very often reflect on my life’s journey. I wonder how close I am to my God ordained destiny.  

As a child, my dream was to be a Missionary … like really? Yep! I was made in the 1950s…smile. 

A Missionary is one who goes out into the world and teach what God has commanded us to do. They tell others about the love of Christ. 

Today, technology has made it a lot easier as I can now use my computer at home to reach the world as I may never be able to physically go into ALL the world. 

It’s been suggested to me on many occasions that I convert my writings into books… but my writings are designed for a different purpose and audience. 

My life experiences have taught me that I CAN TRUST GOD. When I see things work out in amazing ways, I learn to fully trust and depend on God. 

It’s now a little over two years since I began blogging. I give God all the glory for allowing me to reach people in NINETY ONE ( 91 ) countries. Some countries I have never heard about and some countries the Word of God is prohibited.

One thing is certain – I go to sleep satisfied (many times in the wee hours of the following day just before daybreak)

Work your garden – you will end up with plenty of food.

Play and party – you will end up with an empty plate.

Nothing worthwhile comes easy. Sacrifice is a fool’s playground. They that toil and labor while others sleep, will reach their destiny before day breaks. 


“Tell EVERYONE who is discouraged, BE STRONG and DO NOT be AFRAID. God is coming to YOUR RESCUE.”  Isaiah 35:4

Disappointment comes when we think something should happen and it does not happen. Disappointment leads to Discouragement. Many times we pray earnestly and consistently … and things still do not turn out the way we hoped they would. 

Discouragement comes to even the strongest Christians. It does no good to pretend you don’t feel what you feel. The truth is people will disappoint and hurt us. But, a strong Christian is one who KNOWS WHAT TO DO when discouragement comes knocking on their door. 

I sincerely wish for the day when women will STOP competing with other women. LIFE IS MORE THAN GETTING THAT PROMOTION, PURSUING THAT CAREER, LOOKS AND CLOTHES. 

Life will be great when younger women begin to look for older women to share their experiences. Or maybe, two women of the same age sharing their mistakes and accomplishments. Or siblings holding each other hands to walk over the shaky bridge. 

Or what about adult children and parents? 

If I can change the world for one quick second, I would make it mandatory that everyone be held accountable for someone other than themselves. So many innocent lives are being lost through suicide, murders, family squabbles, greed, hatred, unforgiveness …etc. 

Can we take responsibility to watch out for discouragement in someone in our inner circle or to mentor at least one person this week? We can beat discouragement by simply looking out for someone other than ourselves.


Live. Love. Laugh. 

I love when Friday shows up in my thoughts. 

My husband once said to me, “Your phone will work again if you power it off for a few minutes”, and the good news is, it actually did. 

Hint: We ALL need to

Psalms 127:2 “It vain for you to rise up early, to sit up late, to eat the bread of sorrows; for He gives His beloved sleep.”

 It’s really okay to do less on some days. Saying, ‘No’ is an option. 

Time to smile. It’s Freeday!

Gentle Reminder to

See you on Monday. Without YOU, there’s no me. 

Change Starts With A Choice

Heads Up! There are 45 days left in 2017 or 6 weeks and 3 days before 2018 arrives. Today is Day 320

2017 is quickly making its way into the chapters of HISstory and HERstory. 

A new year is on the horizon. 2018 is within reach and it’s certainly not waiting on anyone’s approval. There’s NO IFS OR BUTS. 

For 2017 PROCRASTINATORS  – a sincere apology on behalf of 2017…. one of the most difficult things any human being would ever have to do in 2017 is, to let go of what you hoped would have happened.

If you had to write a chapter on your life in 2017, would it be an exciting one? Will it be filled with regrets? Will it be one of a blame game? Will it be one of great achievements? 

I am here pondering on what my 2017 looked like. Regrets, I’ve had a few …too few to mention. On a scale from one to ten, how would I rate 2017? Overall, I will give 2017 an eight (8). IF it was NOT for the Lord on my side, that number would have definitely been a lot lower. GOD STOOD WITH ME EACH AND EVERY DAY AND HE GAVE ME STRENGTH. Most definitely!

I am really perplexed on how people REPEATEDLY ATTEMPT to live WITHOUT GOD. 

It’s a sad reality that as the year is coming to an end, more and more people are expressing FRUSTRATION; ANXIETY; HOPELESSNESS; a LACK OF ZEAL; REMORSE for either stuff they didn’t accomplish, or FAILURES they have had, or to some … they just didn’t have the COURAGE to step out and go after that thing that has been evading them.

As the year comes to a close, discontentment with one’s life is at an all time high. People are simply giving up on Life. It’s disheartening to hear stories of people who are openly confessing, “I can’t go on anymore.”  

Introducing some broken people to JESUS – you either get a blank stare or “I know” response. (I really don’t know how to interpret body language or those two words) …

In life, if one doesn’t have directions… he/she will never know when they have arrived at their target point. 

My motto in life is, “Where God leads, I will follow.” When you live in harmony with God, you will always know where you are heading. Friends know what each other approves of. You know God’s Will and you understand your calling. There’s NO ROOM FOR COMPROMISING. No Shame there at all. 

My life is far from being boring. I enjoy a good laugh; vacations; food; great entertainment, and all the other fun loving stuff. I live a very normal life like everyone else, but …. I do it all with Jesus as my co-pilot. I find no fault in Him.

We all get the same start in Life: a beating heart, a brain, eyes, mouth, ears, hands and feet (I consider these the most important gateways to our choices in Life). The outstanding difference in our perspectives in life comes from our CHOICES. CHANGE STARTS WITH A CHOICE. 

The Way You Speak to Yourself Matters 

There’s no one on earth who always does good and never sins. Even followers of God will do some good and some bad things.

Let’s get this point out of the way – “Perfect people do not exist” …. so the next time you hear someone saying bad things about you…. remember we too have said bad things about other people. 

Don’t give up just because of what Jane or John said about you. It’s important to believe in yourself when no one else does. 

You will learn very quickly that it’s impossible to control what others say about you. The master control is always in your hands … be conscious of what you are thinking about. 

I think it’s a great shame for us to grow old without climbing some really steep mountains. If we stop to pick up baggage along the way, we will never be able to reach the peak. When we feel like we cannot go to another level, those are the days we must push harder, giving it everything we’ve got. 

Some days we may not accomplish much, but do not give yourself any excuse not to get it done today. 

In my life, I’ve loved. I’ve been hurt. I’ve made some mistakes …. but one thing you can count on …. you will never see me broken and wounded waiting around for someone to pick me up. Get up! Dust your bum! Be kind to yourself! Go climb your mountain! 

Psalms 119:165 

“Those who love your teachings will find true peace. Nothing can make them fall.” 

Wisdom can make one person stronger than ten leaders in a city…..God made people good, but they have found many ways to be bad.” Ecclesiastes 7:18-22,29