My Heart will Go On

There’s a quote that says, “Every child deserves a parent, but not every parent deserves a child.” A real parent is someone who puts their child/ren’s needs before theirs. Making a child is a big decision and it requires commitment to the position from conception until you leave this world.

We live in an extremely fast paced world where parents sacrifice everything to bring home the bacon, tomatoes, lettuce, and the cheese…only to realize when it’s too late ….that the children were the real sacrifices of absent parents. Working hard doesn’t mean sacrificing spending quality time with your children.

You can work your fingers to the bones to provide for your child…but if your child feels neglected…the reward outweighs the intention. Another crazy concept of the society we live in is…you don’t have a job and you are pregnant again. I repeat…not every parent deserves a child.

It’s a fact …Every child deserves having a parent….someone who is always available and is mature to make level-headed decisions in a crisis. A parent that puts their children’s needs and wants before their own is a one to be admired.

Yes, that job opportunity is amazing…but how will it affect your child. Yep, you want another child …but can you adequately provide for the ones in your care.

There’s no perfect parent including me. There are no perfect children including mine. But a family that’s determined to make every moment count…will build a happy home with the little they possess. Every child deserves a chance to a life filled with love, laughter, friends, family and healthy meals.

Being a mom means more than bringing a child into the world…it’s caring for a life that’s completely dependent on you for their survival without excuses or jeopardizing their future.

I came across this while browsing through an article online : “How do I know if I’m a good mom?”

“Seven signs you’re a good mom – Your child gets angry at you. You can’t sleep at night. You’ve suffered a mini breakdown. You make food your kids hate. You’re selfish. You’ve been called crazy or you think others think you are. You think you are a bad mom.” The millennium parents may not agree because they believe they’ve got the recipe right from the start.

Parenting styles have changed over the years and it makes me anxious to see the future of the next generations. The best things about my generation are … we invested in our children and their futures. We listened to the advice given by the teachers and the generations before us. We respected the views of our parents and instilled the same values in our children.

The millennial however are bent on doing things different from their parents. If their parents did things one way, it’s frowned upon and they go for the untested waters to paddle their boats.

Someone said, “Google is the new grandparent, the new neighbor, and the new nanny.” Funny… but it’s true…sad but… real. They are raising their families minus the core values of past generations.

I will close this off by saying, you can never go wrong when you decide to do family life God’s way.

Love God with all your heart. Teach your children to love God, talk to them wherever you are, sitting at home or walking in the street. Teach them about the goodness of the LORD when they wake up and when they go into bed at night.

When they ask you to tell them stories of your past…tell them how God kept His promises to you in the days when your back was against a wall.

Let them know you deeply respect God and how God has kept you alive for a long time eating off the goodness of the land. Pass it on to the next generations.

I would have fainted unless I chose to see the goodness of the LORD in the land of the living. Wait on the LORD, be of good courage, and He will strengthen your heart…wait I say on the LORD.

Take a Stand

Our children are like arrows in our hands and arrows don’t always fly straight towards the target as we wish. It’s every parent’s wish that our children grow up and become responsible men and women. But every child is a learning experience in itself … and not every time we hit the bull’s-eye.

As parents we do everything possible to shape and form our children’s character and values…but sadly there are other archers in the shooting lanes. There are many things that are competing for our children’s attention that has the potential to destroy our foundational work.

We do not get a second chance with our little humans once they’ve crossed the threshold into adulthood. Three things that never come back – the spent arrow, the spoken word, and the missed opportunity. Once our kids become adults …their character is already formed. One of the assignments God gave us as parents is, character formation. After that ….only Salvation offered through Jesus Christ gives a second chance.

I recently read on the news about a son celebrating his birthday pushing his brand new car into a river because he was upset his parents got him a BMW instead of a Jaguar.

There was yet another horrific story of a son approximately in his early thirties who went to prison for a crime he committed in his late teens. His only request was to see his Mother. His Mother arrives … they both greeted each other… and as the son moved closer towards her … what happened next was chilling …. he bit her ear and whispered to her, “You never corrected me.”

Overindulgent parenting is when we tend to provide for our children whatever he or she wants or wishes and the discipline is absent or not enforced.

Here’s another true story – Parents purchase a two bedroom condo for their adult child. Child moves in and lives there for months…then unknowingly to the parents the child vacates the place in pursuit of their own happiness. After months on the run … the child shows up homeless.

If we are the archers… then it’s extremely important that we shoot to hit our targets with accuracy and precision. We need to determine our target point. Are we aiming at competing with our circle of friends and their ideologies or will it be the old fashion family’s altar where Christ is The Head of the HOME?

Parents, the real battle for our children is what they experience outside the home among their peers. Therefore, it’s our responsibility while they are in our care to say like Joshua “As for me and my house, we will serve the LORD.” Gone were the days when parents were proud that their children were attending Sunday School.

Let’s not move the old boundary lines for fear of losing the love of our children. It’s an unfortunate day when we choose to provide for all the needs of our children except giving them a Godly home.

Proverbs 22:28

“Do not remove an ancient boundary stone set up by your ancestors.”

Our homes, the schools and the world at large are feeling the crunch of those who have removed the boundary lines set up by our ancestors.

Children have turned against their parents. Parents are living in fear of speaking out. Our communities are filled with violence and the world has become extremely hostile towards GOD.

Parents, there have been boundary lines established by our ancestors that God warned us not to remove.

To have a God-fearing home, you cannot let the fear of your children stop you nor can you leave it up to the world to teach your children.

The Conversation got Started

It’s so easy to become anxious when things aren’t moving along as quickly as we would like them to. We have had our seasons of disappointment and setbacks that make us fear that maybe things are never going to happen.

Since we will never be able to completely get rid of biting our nails and sitting at the edge of our seats …we will have to learn healthy ways to live during those seasons.

“How can a person deal with anxiety? You might try what one fellow did. He worried so much that he decided to hire someone to do his worrying for him. He found a man who agreed to be his hired worrier for a salary of $200,000 per year. After the man accepted the job, his first question to his boss was, ‘Where are you going to get $200,000 per year?’ To which the man responded, ‘That’s your worry’”
– Max Lucado

I’ve come to the conclusion that whatever is going to happen will happen, whether I become anxious or not. Knowing that I do not HAVE to do life without God quickly snaps me out of the what ifs.

God never promised anyone an easy life…but He did promise that He WILL be with us every step of the way. I am a living testimony that God gives strength for life’s journey. Seriously, if it wasn’t for God on my side, I don’t know where I would have been.

Lessons I’ve learned in my walk with God:

Tune out the negative voices that interrupt your peace. Satan’s thoughts bring accusation, doubt, fear, misery, destructive thoughts and anything evil. So, block them out. They lead to greater anxiety and hopelessness.

God’s voice speaks peace, comfort, wisdom, healing to a hurting heart. It’s always gentle and reasonable. Always uplifting and empathetic. God’s voice gives you guidance and stability. Fear decreases in God’s presence.

In the Bible, Satan is constantly bringing doubt by saying, “Did God really tell you … ?” It’s a great time to get him off your back with a quick response, “Yes, God did and there’s nothing you can do about it.”

Learn to know God’s voice like you know your family members voices. Learn to relax knowing with confidence that God will not leave in the middle of the conversation. We always know when a conversation is coming to an end…it leaves no question unanswered, and you get all the information needed to go on. Stay with God until the conversation is over.

If the conversation lasts from sunset to daybreak, or night to day … it makes no difference. The conversation stills goes on in the car, on a plane, in the grocery store, in the shower, and in the bed at nights.

Time spent with God is never wasted. Some conversations take a longer time based on the topic…so be patient. If God keeps us in conversation for two days or a month or years…it means He still have more to say…so we will sit still.

Whatever your present anxiety may be … God’s timing is perfect. Keep the conversation going and don’t interrupt with your deadlines. If God is speaking, wait on Him to finish. Do not panic…with the Lord a day is like a thousand years, and a thousand years are like a day. The Lord is not slow in keeping his promise, as some understand slowness.

Whatever God says…Do! If God gives you REST … then REST. God always finishes the conversation with four words – “It will be well.”

I’m BACK!

Announcing my return from an amazing and unforgettable Summer. Thank you for staying in touch with me. I read all your encouraging comments and I’m indeed a blessed woman to have amazing followers like yourselves.

Sharing a few pictures of my vacation with you. I visted Kenya which was the highlight of my Summer. The videos were amazing but I couldn’t upload them on my site.

Summer 2019 was unforgettable with my adult children, my sons-in-law and my favorite lil humans more fondly known as my grandchildren.

Last but not least, my wonderful and faithful husband who continues to be an amazing support to me in each and every way.

See you tomorrow as I share my thoughts with you.

Live! Laugh! Love!

See you tomorrow and please leave me your thoughts.

The Fight is Fixed

If you’re ever called to defend yourself and you know that the fight was fixed in your favor I want to assume that you will not back down or move reluctantly towards your hostile opponent.

But naturally if it’s a fight you must be prepared to take part in a violent struggle that tugs at every emotion within you.

It doesn’t matter how many times we get into a fight with the devil, know for sure, the devil isn’t giving up easily … he fights dirty. So we must fight to keep our peace because the fight is already fixed and it’s just a matter of time if we don’t quit … our victory is sure.

Jesus said that we would have trouble, but He also said that we must take heart because the fight is fixed.

The coach and the judge is father and son – God and Jesus. Keep your cool – the fight is fixed. The hostility and jeers from the opponent may be intimidating at times, and the insults and mockery may be disheartening but the fight is fixed.

You are fighting for your peace and you have already heard from the head quarters that the fight is fixed in your favor … so you are not going to back down now.

The LORD is fighting for you and all you are required to do is to stand still. There’s only one winner and it must be you. Keep singing, praying and reading the Word.

What you focus on, is where you will draw your strength or weakness. The distractions are part of real life because we live in a real world with real issues and real people.

The fight that is sapping your energy or the sleepless nights are meant to keep you discouraged…but God will continue to keep you through it all as He has been doing in every round, and every season of your life.

It doesn’t matter how long the fight is lasting … all that matters is, the fight is fixed and Coach Jesus Christ is on your side.

Isaiah 58:11 says, “I will always show you where to go. I’ll give you a full life in the emptiest of places – firm muscles, strong bones. You’ll be a well-watered garden, a gurgling spring that never runs dry.”

As a child of God, be confident, overly confident that your fight is fixed with you in mind … but you must commit to stay in the ring.

The angel that has been assigned to you who’s been going in front of you … will move behind you and stand behind you making it difficult for those pursuing you.

You will go to bed and your sleep will be sweet.

The fight is fixed. God don’t like lazy people….so you must show up and stay in the ring.

Summer Needs to Slow Down

I want to give a huge shoutout to all my followers who have made me love what I do. To each of you, I want to say, ‘THANK YOU”.

But life is short and Summer goes by so quickly….so before Summer and I both get a speeding ticket …I’m taking a break from writing for the next two months to travel.

I’m looking forward to the days when my biggest decision would be where are my sandals.

Whatever you do make sure you are happy.

Wishing you all a wonderful and safe Summer. See you in September.

Alexa, is it Friday?

Life doesn’t have to be perfect to enjoy it. There’s always the weekend for the strong in heart waiting to show you a good time.

Friday is very therapeutic as it brings a sense of relief from the busyness of life. It’s the day when we somehow mentally get ready to let down our guard. It’s called REST!

Now, sit back and let’s enjoy a few laughs.

Remember that you don’t have to have a perfect week to have fun on the weekend.

Go ahead, LAUGH, and LAUGH, and LAUGH some more.

Don’t let one day make you feel like you are having a bad life….it’s only one day … not your entire life.

See you on Monday … But not until you take some time to laugh.