FEBRUARY 2, 2023

ADULTING is not for the faint of heart. It’s the stage in life where you have to make it without breaking it. You have to figure out everything on your own knowing that change is painful. You take care of others while ignoring your own needs. You avoid difficult conversations because you feel like your needs don’t really matter. You have to make ends meet even if East cannot meet West. ADULTING isn’t for the faint of heart.

PARENTING on the other hand sometimes feels like a booby trap. From birth to the grave, one thing never changes is watching your children go through something painful and you cannot fix it. Even when your children are fully capable, you still try to make things easier for them. A child can openly express their love or hatred for a parent and it’s easily overlooked. On the other hand, parents have to love unconditionally the stubborn and rebellious child, the other child who’s very needy and the other one who is highly motivated and goal oriented. PARENTING sometimes feels like a booby trap.

MARRIAGE is never a lack of love. It’s two grown adults coming together with unhealed parts that will sometimes unintentionally hurt each other. Marriage is not a movie. It’s real life’s experiences that sometimes takes the wind out of you. Marriage is fragile and must be handled with care. Someone said, “Effort never dies” and I want to think they were talking about marriage. Effort is a good way to show that your relationship is worth fighting for. MARRIAGE is two unhealed persons who cares for each other and go to work on the best way to make it work.

REALITY: It took God six days to create everything we see in the world including humans. God can turn around any moment in your life just by a spoken word. The more you get to know God, the greater chance you have living your best life.

He is a Father to the fatherless, defender of widows, and places the lonely in families. He provides for the needy people. Prayer is the bridge between panicking and perfect peace in this life.

January 31, 2023

God created us in HIS likeness. We are His look-a-like but stuff happened and the image got lost in the crossfire.

We have survival stories that changed our lives and thinking. We discovered through the School of Hard Knocks that everybody isn’t your friend. The marriage vows ‘for better or worse, in good times and in bad times until death do us part’ were just for a dress rehearsal and not for real life.

Children will come along and that will be a game-changer that will make the strongest person feels like a whimp. Sharing good news can be a bit nerve racking because everybody isn’t genuinely happy or interested about your life.

“All the world’s a stage, and all the men and women merely players.” William Shakespeare

But thank God we were built differently. God, the All Powerful One can re-align us back to His image. He can’t do the re-alignment if we want to run our own life, but if we become still long enough, He will take the ashes and make a beautiful image of Himself.

God’s love reaches everyone in the world even those who don’t know Him yet. Today’s scars are tomorrow’s stars. Today’s mess is tomorrow’s message.

“Listen! The Lord’s hand is not too weak to save you. His ear is not too deaf to hear you. But the wrong things that you have done have made you separate from your God. Your sins have caused him to turn away from you, so that he does not listen to your prayers.”
‭‭Isaiah‬ ‭59‬:‭1‬-‭2‬ ‭EASY‬‬

It may take a village to raise a child, but it takes God alone to bring back His likeness and image in you. Your next season will cause some people to wish they had treated you better.

January 30, 2023

Those who WIN turns disappointments into opportunities. Never stop getting better at whatever inspires you. Some days will be lonely, very lonely, excruciatingly lonely, difficult lonely… but you are going to be alright. Just hang in there and trust God.

To have a winner’s mentality – blame, guilt, hangups, bad memories, shame, regrets, resentment, and pretence got to go. If you stop to mentally converse with every unhealthy feeling and emotion that comes along – the goalpost of opportunities will keep moving.

Hebrews 12:1 encourages us to “lay aside every weight” and run the race set before us.

Despite all the setbacks in life you experience, sometimes you just have to sit on the floor and figure out what to take with you to the finish line and what to leave behind.

God didn’t bring you into your 20’s, 40’s, 60’s and upwards to leave you stranded and alone. This is what God says to you – “Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be frightened, and do not be confused, for the Lord your God is with you wherever you go.”

God encourages us to lay aside the weighty issues and be strong and courageous, for He’s going to be with us wherever we go. What you focus on becomes your reality. Focus on the thought that you are never alone.

Let your dependence on God remain immovable. God’s got you! If you look for positive things in life, guarantee you will find them. Like the sun even if it’s peeking through the thick dark clouds, or having real conversations with people, or watching a plant grow, or even having a job you are not very fun of.

Those who WIN turns disappointment into opportunities. Never let fear decide how you run your race. This is going to be a “GOD DID IT” kind of week. I am in it for the WIN! Hope you are too!!!

January 18, 2023

If it doesn’t add positivity to your life then it doesn’t belong in your life. No more what ifs, no internal or external wars, and no more hating the message and the messenger. Stop breaking promises to yourself.

Comparison quietly steals your identity. What if the keynote speaker spoke with notes and the next speaker spoke without notes? What if Tara having been through some storms, heartaches, and pain, but through it all God kept her sane making her a force to be reckoned with – What is that to you?

Peter asked Jesus, “What about him, Lord?” Jesus replied, “If I want him to remain alive until I return, WHAT IS THAT TO YOU? As for you, FOLLOW ME.”
‭‭John‬ ‭21‬:‭21‬-‭22‬ ‭NLT‬‬

In my words, Jesus was saying, “Mind your business and just follow HIM.”

Sometimes, people measure other people’s successes by their own accomplishments and they get a high if they find themselves more successful.

Whatever side of the story you find yourself, remember what Jesus told Peter – “What is that to you?”

It’s never about ‘if they can, you can’ mentality. Jesus has work for every human being to do that doesn’t look the same. If it doesn’t add positivity in your life then it doesn’t belong in your life. Comparison steals your identity.

If anyone misses God’s grace in what they are doing, then they are missing their goalpost. God’s grace adds favor to your sauce.

Remember Jesus’ words when the ugly head of comparison shows up – “What is that to you? You follow ME.”

This is 2023 – The year we are putting aside anything that’s weighing us down and taking God’s grace with us to the finish line.

January 12 2023

Stop letting fear hold you back. God will finish everything He has started and that includes your life.

This year 2023 smells like healing, blessings, and success. Stop making excuses. Stop waiting for someone to walk into your life and save you. Stop being lazy to do the things you are fully capable of doing for yourself.

You only have one life to be great. No excuses will get you there. Don’t be afraid to fail. There are great lessons in failing at something that you will not have learned if you didn’t try.

You are going to outgrow a lot of people once you start taking care of yourself and minding your own business. Doubting yourself is very normal. Respecting the power within you is growth.

The same light you see shining in others, is shining within you. Be bold. Be brave. The God in you is greater than the fear that surrounds you.

Prayer Time: Father, help us to stop stressing over things you have already spoken about us. We are the head and not the tail. We are above and not beneath. We are first and not last. In Jesus Name, Amen

You can do this. End of story