Outclassed them All

The beauty of a woman is not in her facial appearance, but the true beauty of a woman is reflected in her spirit. It is the happiness she brings to everyone after they leave her company. Do not let anyone or anything dull your sparkle regardless of who or where it comes from.

Steve Harvey once had a comedy show –  “Don’t trip … He ain’t through with me yet.’

For many of us we see beauty with our naked human eyes completely missing the fact that God is still working on all of us. In the meantime, let us not trip and mess up someone else’s beauty while we are all still becoming. Be patient with me and others – God is still working on us.

Everyone and everything have some form of beauty, but the sad reality is, not everyone sees it.

Being genuine and respecting others expose the true beauty of a person. When you leave people better than you met them that is a class act. I have deep respect for someone’s personal values and morals than their physical features.

Let me get a little biblical here for a moment – Proverbs 31:29 says, “Charm can mislead, and beauty soon fades. The woman to be admired and praised is the woman who lives in the Fear-of-God.”

The true beauty of a woman is in the way she speaks. She speaks with wisdom and honest coaching. She is never found idle. Her strength and self-respect are her clothing line/brand. Her confidence is found in God. Her honesty is based on practice rather than theory. She takes pride in making others feel comfortable around her.

 A beautiful woman has the courage to stand up for others and is happy being herself. She cannot afford to make a fool of herself by gulping wine and behaving inappropriately for fear that she does not know right from wrong, and the people who depend on her gets hurt.

A beautiful woman speaks up for the people who have no voice and stands up for the poor. She always has something worthwhile to say, and she always says it kindly. Don’t go tripping, we all are a work in progress. Be patient with me and with others because God is still on the job. As beautiful women we will laugh at the days to come.

Do not take membership with the group of women who enjoys an argument or strife. As much as in you live at peace with all. Strife, quarrels, arguments, controversy, contentious issues, anything leading to petty issues avoid. Run! Flee! It is not worth your character or status quo. Ego will destroy you and you will fail at every performance.  

Charm can mislead and beauty soon fades. The woman to be admired and praised is the woman who lives in the Fear-of-God. It cost $0.00 to be a kind human being. Live with two attributes everyday – be full of thanks and give. Be kind! Be amazing! Be grateful! The end result of how you lived will always be your best eulogy.

“Elegance is when the inside is as beautiful as the outside.” Coco Chanel

What is your Assignment?

If you are a grown up and still feel like your life has a missing link, there is good possibility that you have lost your enthusiasm because you have pretty much outgrown your environment or your network of friends and acquaintances.

Life becomes monotonous when you stay in the same environment for too long. You are not a tree so surround yourself with humans who will inspire and motivate you. You lose enthusiasm staying around the same folks who have done the same thing everyday for the last decades of their lives.

Remember if you hang out with small minded people you will become stagnated causing premature death to the dreams hidden within you. Never doubt your value by selling yourself at a discounted price. Everything you do today will either make your future brighter or kill your potential.

It is better to be alone working on yourself than to find yourself consistently in the wrong company. When you become part of a team that is winning the conversations are different. One thing I have proven as an adult – when you begin to work on becoming a better version of yourself people will openly start to judge you. And that is fine – your environment was destroying your roots of possibilities until you were forced out of your confinement.

There is just too much to do before your time expires to get caught up with approval ratings or meaningless drama. Someone said, “Great minds discuss ideas; average minds discuss events; small minds discus people. Ladies, it is your turn do something that younger self will be eternally grateful for. There is a little girl on the inside of you screaming to grow up.

Forgive yourself when you did not know better but now that you do – it is the right time to change the conversations. Every human being has a God-ordained right to shift their focus for the betterment of themselves and those after them.

It is time to set your goals so big that it will make your previous acquaintances and friends become uncomfortable hanging around you. Let others argue over small things once you do not lose sleep over  the minor things in life. Refuse to stay in an environment that is not helping you to grow mentally, emotionally, or spiritually.

Sometimes we fall before we can stand and that is okay. The next time you try to stand you would have conquered the fear of falling. There are successful women out there who will help you to succeed when they see you trying. Do not stop until your dreams scare you. After a few knocks you become tougher and more resilient and the doors come swinging open before you.

When you look back let it bring you joy to see how far you have come from where you were before. Refuse to lose zeal no matter how many times you stumble. The school of hard knocks is the best learning ground despite the sore muscles. Accept your grown-up status by blocking out the negativity and changing the conversations around the table.

With God on your side you will become fearless and stay calm like a baby. Ask God for one thing and that is to stay close to Him. It is the only quiet and secure place in a noisy and nosey world. It is the perfect place away from the buzz of human traffic. God holds your head and shoulders above all who try to pull you down.

Smile

Let your smile change the world. Don’t let the world change your smile.

It’s FRIDAY! Never regret anything that makes you smile.

Happy Weekend! Breathe! Relax! You will be as happy as you decide to be.

Built to Last

It’s Monday and maybe some of you woke up feeling overwhelmed with the weight of guilt, loneliness, and heart-wrenching issues that has held you captive day after day, week after week, and year after year. I pray every human being who woke up today quits overthinking. We can turn our pain into power if only we stop overthinking.

The devil has his best days when he can get you to overthink which usually makes everything worse than it actually is. Overthinking destroys your happiness and it escalates into uncontrolled mood swings. How unfortunate it is to begin any given day with yesterday’s issues. God promises not to give us more than we can carry.

What makes the load heavy is when we take yesterday’s troubles pile them on to the things to do today list while overthinking about tomorrow’s problems. Did I just confuse you? Yes? Well that is exactly how our brain feels when we place it under pressure thinking about yesterday, today, and tomorrow – then blaming God for not listening to our prayers.

Sometimes, something’s got to give – just do not let it be you but let it be your way of thinking. If you choose to avoid interacting with everyday life out of fear – you will miss the opportunity of seeing God working in your challenges. Your challenges uncover the secret places where you need to see God at work in your life.

When you decide to let God be God on your bad days be willing to hand over everything that is weighing you down. To get from where you are to where you want to be – many times you have to drag yourself across the field of unhappiness, up the hill where freedom reigns and over the wall of opportunity to see that God was with you all along.

To get pass those things that repeatedly trip you up and push you back into your overthinking cave you must know you have the power to choose what to accept and what to let go. Tune out the negativity that repeatedly stumps your growth and exercise your will power and stay on a healthy diet of good thoughts.

Sir Winston Churchill said, ‘When I look back on all these worries, I remember the story of the old man who said on his deathbed that he had had a lot of trouble in his life, most of which had never happened!’

Somethings that deprive us of happiness and sends us into overthinking mode never happens. The load will be too heavy for us if we carry yesterday’s burden over today, and then add the burden of tomorrow before it is even here. Every day, you can commit to God your fears, worries and anxieties. It makes all the difference.

Psalms 27: 13-14 MSG “I’m sure now I’ll see God’s goodness in the exuberant earth. Stay with God! Take heart. Don’t quit. I’ll say it again – Stay with God.”

Proverbs 31:25 MSG “She is clothed with strength and dignity; she can laugh at the days to come.”

You are strong and you are enough. You don’t need to overthink because everything is going to work out and it will be okay as long as God is included in your affairs. You were built to last.

Happy Friday

We DID IT! It’s FRIDAY! You are never fully ready for the weekend without your SMILE. Don’t allow anyone to change you or your smile.

Ready! Set! Let’s GO!

I hope I got it right and made you smile. Happy Weekend to all.

Jump Out of the Box

Growing up I remember singing a nursery rhyme that goes like this – “Jack in the Box jumps up like this and he makes me laugh as hard as I can as he wiggles his head.” Here I am now as an adult debating with myself why would a child laugh so hard when Jack jumps up out of the box wiggling his head?

My thought – Jack was originally intended to be a cheerful free-spirited character created to make children laugh but somehow, he was locked away in a box suffocating his personality. All it took was one child to curiously open Jack’s box then for Jack to do only what Jack was born to do. Just wiggling his head created quite a commotion bringing laughter to a curious mind.

How many ‘Jack or June’ are buried and forgotten in boxes in homes, society, and unthinkable places waiting for a curious mind to open those boxes? Can you imagine the many wiggling heads if only those boxes can be opened? Can you hear the raucous laughter of the curious onlookers as they witness something that was once motionless coming to life?

For many people – circumstances have trapped you in fear making it difficult to jump out of your boxes. Some have been shoved and overlooked never fully understanding their full potential. Others maybe curious but insecurity has kept them buried in very dark lonely places. Most times friends and family do not realize how painful their lack of support or their passive temperaments hinder you pushing outside the box.

To all the Jack or June who may be locked in a box it is time to forcefully push the lid up and show up for the next performance. You are not trapped. You are not overlooked. You are about to jump out of the box. It is a curious act that you must take advantageous of now. You cannot allow other people to make you feel insecure about your performance. Your performance does not have to look like anyone else’s act.

Create new plans to have your own voice and not become an echo of someone who has gone on before. There is no place on the stage of life for impersonators. Dare to be an original and dare to stand alone. Years go by way too quickly for the blame game. Push the lid up, wiggle your head, laugh again, and make others laugh.

There is no box – only your imaginations. By you jumping outside of the box you scare people at first, but the laughter will follow. Never dim your light to make anyone feel secure. Your passion, curiosity, excitement, and your purpose will not make anyone stop hating you – so get on with the show. People will always find things to criticize and judge you for whether you do, or you don’t do – so do something positive anyway.

Matthew 5:14-16 (The Message) says, “Here’s another way to put it: You’re here to be light, bringing out the God-colors in the world. God is not a secret to be kept. We’re going public with this, as public as a city on a hill. If I make you light-bearers, you don’t think I’m going to hide you under a bucket, do you?

I’m putting you on a light stand. Now that I’ve put you there on a hilltop, on a light stand—shine! Keep open house; be generous with your lives. By opening up to others, you’ll prompt people to open up with God, this generous Father in heaven.”

Know your Audience

Everyone you meet on your walk through life has something to teach you. Everyone who meets you has something to learn from you. Real strength is shown when you take a stand for something you believe in even if no one is standing with you.

If you are always trying to be normal or to fit in with the majority, you will be an echo and not a voice.

The hardest step you ever take is to believe in yourself without the audience. It takes courage to accept the fact that even at your absolute best performance you still would not be good enough for the wrong audience.

Relax. You are an adult. God’s timing is perfect, and He works in unexplained ways. One touch of God’s favor can change everything.

Some people will never hear you regardless of how loud you speak – they are not your audience so let it go. Some days are good, some days are not – just keep swimming and never quit. Maya Angelo said, “We are only as blind as we want to be.”

To make a difference in someone’s life you must give them wings to fly. Be kind – you don’t have to know the full disclosure of someone’s battles to show empathy.

No one can make you look mean, rude, or discourteous without your permission. Guard your integrity. You teach people how to treat you so be careful what you tolerate and who you tolerate.

It is immaturity to go back and forth on your beliefs. Give honor to God and He will bring you before people of influence and not mean people.

Do not try to be relevant and people pleasers, your winning will be short-lived and you will become discouraged. You are encouraged to ask God for what you need not bargain with God.

When God approves of your life the evidence is difficult to hide. Your concern is His concern. Let your conscience be your guide and you will not live in uncertainty.

May your audience be receptive and may your lifestyles never bring disgrace. Maya Angelo said, “I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”

You will draw the kind of audience of who you are in your secret life. Be real. Be humble. Touch lives. Do not lose your value. Show up even when no one applauds you for it.

May we all seize the opportunity to stand before an audience of one with God as the silent listener. I hope we live a life that we are proud of. We are all a work in progress.

Lane Restrictions

Life is a race and the truth is, everyone of us must participate. It is a race against a predetermined time that was decided by God before our arrival on earth which none of us are privy to. Every day or birthday we celebrate be mindful that one day our time will run out. Life is filled with experiences, difficulties, heartaches, joys, celebrations, and special moments.

The incredible thing about life is, we were assigned separate lanes whether you are single, married, divorced, or living as a hermit. Your designated lane is single occupancy ordered by God Himself. There are barriers, impediments, stumbling blocks, haters, lots of distractions that can hinder you from staying in your designated lane which are all part of the circle of life.

So, if you are wise do not get caught up with the obstructions that have been strategically tossed into your lane. Do not allow anyone or anything to hinder you in the pursuit of your aspirations. Get past criticism without becoming angry and upset skilfully removing yourself from any form of suspicious activities left in your lane.  

Life gets competitive – move with wisdom because it is a special race that no one knows when the whistle will blow. You cannot blame anyone running in the other lanes for distracting you from your goals. It is a race against time and not people regardless of who they may be. It is unwise to stop and listen to what the other competitors are saying or not saying. The goal is, stay in your lane before your time runs out.

Life is a marathon not a sprint – pace yourself. When you focus on the negativity around you, you will hear more, see more, imagine more, and believe more. Be confident and wise with your time knowing fully well there are other good competitors competing in the other lanes. Do not run without direction. Run in a way to reach the end.

Life will always seem hard when we center our happiness on others. So, stop imprisoning yourself waiting for others to coax you to reach your goal. You will need all the energy you can to pick up your pace as you approach the end of your lane. Success takes work and work always has its rewards. Do not give up. Remain steadfast under fire, for when you pass the test you will enjoy the benefits.

Just keep on running. It is a race against time. Not everyone can run and stay in their lane but to win you cannot cross lanes or invite others in your lane. Some have a long time, some have a few years left , some may have minutes , but the point is run as fast as you can before your time runs out.

Hebrews 12:1-2 ESV – ‘Therefore, since we are surrounded by so great a cloud of witnesses, let us also lay aside every weight, and sin which clings so closely, and let us run with endurance the race that is set before us, looking to Jesus, the founder and perfecter of our faith, who for the joy that was set before him endured the cross, despising the shame, and is seated at the right hand of the throne of God.’

I do not know about you, but I am running in my lane and I am giving it everything. I am not going to get caught napping or telling everyone else all about staying in their lane and then I miss out myself. I am staying in my lane.

We Can Do This!

Did you hear it’s FRIDAY? Its time to get our funny bone up and kicking. Let’s LIVE! Let’s LOVE! Let’s LAUGH!

To all the people that made us laugh and smile this week – don’t forget to thank them.

Never waste one day looking back and regretting anything. It’s time to make the most of today.

HAPPY WEEKEND EVERYONE!

The Audacity of TRUST

When we become overwhelmed with troubling issues the struggle to wait on God becomes unbearable making us nervous as we wait for the outcome. Doubt and fear create anxiety. Anxiety brings about uncertainty. Uncertainty makes you lose hope.

Have you ever expected God to answer in the affirmative and as your self-imposed deadline approaches suddenly out of nowhere a wave of disappointments catapult you into the roughest place of your life? Who do you turn to for guidance when it looks like your world just came crashing down before your eyes?

Suggestion #1: Do not take advice from anyone who do not have to live with the consequences of turning your heart away from God and looking to a person for help. When your back is against the wall it can be tempting to make two golden calves (substitute for God) to replace your faith in an invisible God. Pause for a moment! Listen to your inner voice! Then turn around and say loudly, ‘I will wait on God!’

Suggestion #2: Some prayers requires a level of trust for maturity in God to grow. A toddler is left at the daycare and he or she is afraid that Mommy or Daddy will not return for them. Everyday toddler throws a tantrum until he or she is convinced that Mommy or Daddy has not forgotten them. Now toddler is dropped off and there are no more tears but kisses, hugs, a big broad smile, and waves of excitement. Some prayers require a level of trust for maturity in God to grow. It gets better with each test.

Suggestion #3: Sometimes we are praying about a son, daughter, husband, friend, sister , or neighbor and just like that in God’s style – He teaches you how to blossom where you are planted without the evidence of things changing in the lives of those you are praying about. Lesson – prayers are answered in many ways apart from how you anticipated the outcome. Sometimes, God wants to work on us more than those we are praying for.

When God is your shepherd you do not need a thing. You may WANT, but never NEED a thing. Sheep do not look after the shepherd. The shepherd looks after the sheep. He gives you everything that is needed for today. God will hide you during the uncertainty long enough for you to catch your breath and send you in the right direction.

When you trust Him – He will walk with you making you feel secure. He reminds you 365 times every year ‘Do not to be afraid.’ Fear is not an attribute of God.

Every time you resist acting in fear, you are rewiring your brain to be calmer by the minute and to trust God in the midst of uncertainty. He is a realistic God who remembers you are human, and He knows where the bumps and patches are along the way. We make elaborate plans, forgetting that God has the last say – so let courage arise and keep relying on God.

Let’s see what happens if you and I don’t give up. Our strength goes when we think we cannot go on. God cannot fail but our self-imposed restrictions can get tricky. Run far away from ungodly counsel. One lone advisor doesn’t qualify. This is where we can go wrong.

Thought for Today: The devil doesn’t care if you go to church or read your Bible, as long as you don’t apply it to your life.