The Kids Aren’t Ours

Could it be that as parents we may have missed the instructions from God concerning the raising of our children?

Without Godly direction we can be clueless about our children’s destiny. I’ve been thinking that maybe much of our frustration with our kids originated from being misinformed and misdirected.

In Judges 13 we read where the people of Israel did evil in God’s eyes and God placed the entire country under oppression for forty years. (Sounds pretty much like the world we live in today….well that’s another topic by itself).

During the forty years of oppression, God selected a barren and childless woman to conceive and bring forth a son. (Even in an evil and oppressive world God rules in mysterious ways).

God never does anything without clear instructions, but unfortunately we sometimes miss the instructions and we end up clueless as to where we went wrong.

In the Bible…This barren and childless woman was visited by an angel who gave her full disclosure of what was about to go down with her.

1. She was going to become pregnant and bear a son.

2. She must take much care of herself

3. Drink no wine or beer

4. Eat nothing unclean

5. No razor must touch her son’s hair from birth until he dies

6. He will be a powerful and incredibly strong leader like a modern day

7. He will bring the people of Israel out of captivity

Being alone is not a horrible idea. God speaks in our alone time. No competition with outside noise.

The mother to be was alone when the angel first appeared to her … she ran off to inform her husband that an angel appeared to her telling her that she was going to have a baby boy …. (isn’t it interesting to know that angels produced our first 3D pictures. There’s nothing new under the heavens).

The overly excited husband prayed to God asking God to send the angel back so he can be taught how to raise his son who was yet to be born. The BIBLE says that God listened to his prayer and the angel came again.

The Bible says, that Manoah and his wife never saw the angel again after the second visit.

The woman gave birth to a son and named him Samson. The boy grew and God began working in his life.

Here are my thoughts on this:

1. Parents, have we missed God’s voice speaking to us about our sons and daughters?

The angel appeared to the woman while she was sitting in a field. God speaks to us in the quietness of our hearts.

Every child has a Godly purpose that requires clear instructions from God and obedient parents.

There’s a far greater purpose to raising our children than wanting them to be educated, wealthy, get married and start a family. That is for our pride…but God has a deeper vision for our children.

2. Fathers, have you asked God to repeat the instructions on the upbringing of your sons and daughters? Without Godly wisdom our children can misdirected.

Our children are not our own. They are gifts from God. They are loaners…they are to be given back to God at the end of their expiry dates.

Is it POSSIBLE that we could be raising a mighty man or woman who can bring freedom to our people?

Why did God choose a barren and childless couple to raise Samson?

Could it be, that God wanted to reaffirm and to cast away doubts that there’s nothing, absolutely nothing too hard for Him to do? For a barren and childless woman to give birth to a child – is a miracle.

Our God sees things call impossible and goes right to work to make things happen. He is also a God of second chances.

It might be a great idea for us to pause for a second and have a chitchat with God asking Him for clear instructions concerning our sons and daughters.

It’s never over until we take our last breath….so we keep on praying….and God keeps on listening to our prayers.

It’s not impossible to recover from our mistakes and missteps. God used a barren and childless woman to prove that He can do the impossible.

Super Moms it’s Finally Friday

To all the amazing, loving, selfless and super moms of the world – Happy Mother’s Day to you. To the world you are a Mother, but to your family you are their world.

Thank you for not giving up on the most stressful job on the market. Thanks for all you do openly and secretly for your family. Thanks for giving up the last piece of pizza to make your your little one happy. Thanks for drying the tears and soothing the aching heart.

On Sunday the world celebrates you, but you do everything for everyone every day of the year. Thank you!

Here’s my little contribution to kick off your amazing weekend.

I have added a few extra funny quotes for you to share. Please choose one and pass it on to another Mommy ❤❤❤❤

Hoping every mother has a blast. You are loved.

Thanks a zillion for being part of my reading audience. This week my blogs were written with you in mind, hope you loved them all.

Together we are better.

See you on Monday when life is back to normal.

My Mother is The Queen of my Heart – Mother’s Day 2018

I dedicate this post to my mother who passed away 35 years ago.

My mom was a quiet gentle soul with a very hearty laugh. She was an emotionally strong woman with a strong faith in God. She showed respect to everyone, even those who didn’t deserve it.

Her selfless and unconditional love for her children earned our respect and adoration. We had our mom’s heart….she held our home together. Maybe, I should mention that every one of our spouses loved and respected my mom.

I gave my mom the credit for who I am today and by extension who my kids and grandkids are today.

My mom is my hero. Her courage leaps to my mind when I think of the many heroic moments that I personally witnessed during my childhood.

She was not popular or perfect, but she was real. Her best friend was the wife of a rich businessman. I cannot confirm if her friend knew how to read or write, but many times my mom would take us to her home where my mom would be writing letters on her friend’s behalf. Someone once said that the highest form of knowledge is empathy…

My mom loved to sing. Her singing would wake us up like the chirping of birds as she went about the early morning preparation of the day. Her singing reassured me as a child that everything was good…..I felt safe.

My mom loved to laugh…you know when the joke was really funny… when she clapped her hands and buried her face in her hands while laughing. I love people who make me laugh too. I honestly think that the best gift you can give yourself is the ability to laugh.

All that I am today was built on the foundations of my praying mother. I thank God that I had a praying mother. She created a positive world for her children.

I clearly got the best mom.

Help, the Kids are Adults!

Life gets busy, babies need to nap, kids get sick, there’s after school extracurricular activities, husbands get home late from work, plans have to be canceled, meals have to be prepared for the family including those special requests for the picky eaters, university papers are spread across the dining table, and the list can go on and on. By now you guessed it….I’m talking about the household chores of Mom, Mommy, Ma, Mama – a rose by any other name is still a rose.

Motherhood changes everything in your life and in the home, but it’s a choice we make to put our kids first in our lives. We get emotional but yet we are the rock in our families.

Some days mothers feel like superheroes when their kids are young and impressionable ….and then there are those days when they feel like the villains in a movie as the kids approach their late teens and upwards.

When our kids are little they sit on our laps and fall asleep peacefully in our arms.

When they are older they break our hearts but we still love them with all the little fragmented pieces.

When did our kids grow up? When did this happen? When did we stop tucking them into bed? When did they stop throwing a tantrum because we had to leave them behind?

Seasons change in our children’s lives … but Mom … she struggles to let go.

Can I say that I repeatedly got lost in transitioning from my role of being a mother of young kids to becoming a parent of adult children.

The hardest part of Motherhood is when your kids are grown up. I think letting go is one of the most challenging experiences in parenting. You go from being a helicopter Mom to having an empty nest in a blink of an eye.

The Book of Ecclesiastes teaches us that there’s a time to hug someone and a time to stop holding so tightly. There’s a time to speak and a time to stay silent.

I learned that the best thing for people to do is to be happy and enjoy themselves as long as they live.

Simply ways to take back your life when the kids have reached adulthood:

1. Take care of yourself. Sleep deprivation affects your mood. Get more sleep. Get more sleep. Get more sleep.

2. Lower your expectations….then no one gets disappointed.

3. Don’t compare yourself with other mothers. Everyone looks perfect from far away, but you will be surprised to learn what happens behind the doors.

4. Do something you always wanted to do but never had the time.

5. What has happened in the past has happened, and what will happen in the future will happen.

“The older you get, is the better you get unless you are a banana.” Betty White

Don’t Get Tired and Stop Trying

Life is a marathon…sometimes we are ahead and sometimes we are behind. It’s a long distance race, and we are in it for the long haul….until we take our last breath.

The beautiful part of the marathon of life is…we are only running against ourselves. So stay calm!

The race is long and there are many obstacles that are waiting to trip us up. We need lots of self confidence, courage, and faith to get us to the finish line.

The days that I am ahead …I work hard to keep the momentum. I wish everyday would be the same. I love the feeling of contentment and the pride that comes as a reward for running well. But that’s not reality.

Thinking loudly here:

What about those days when I am lagging behind and I feel like a failure and there are no cheerleaders in sight?

Chances are…there will be tears…and my close friends “Nobody cares, and Nobody loves me” will be hanging out with me.

Sometimes I just need one good cry even if I’m not sure why I’m crying – 🤔 😏

So what’s next?

I am allowed to cry….but I’m not allowed to give up.

So here are my pick-me-up thoughts:

#1. Pace yourself. We are competing with ourselves. Worry, anxiety, fear and doubt slows us down. Pull down every vain imagination and every thought that exalts itself against the knowledge of God.

#2. Increase your stamina. It’s never about speed but it’s all about being resilient. I will get tired but I must keep moving. Let us not grow weary, for we will reap a harvest if we do not give in. The race is not for the swift, but for those who endure to the end.

#3. Talk to yourself….fill in your name in the blank “And ——– found strength in the LORD.”

Using our thoughts to feed our soul is a must to stay in the race of life. Whatever is of a good report, think on these things. Find strength in the LORD. Rest when needed and pick up the pace when reenergized.

#4. Don’t forget to smile for the finishing photo. We are surrounded with people who are looking on at us. So run well and finish strong. No quitting now. Get rid of anything that slows us down. Keeping our gaze on Jesus.

Wrapup thought: Don’t become discouraged and stop trying.

Here’s hoping that we all finish strong.

Relationship Is Work

Within recent times I began seeing this hashtag “#relationshipgoals” when referring to a couple that someone admires.

Relationships takes work. There are no cookie cutters or duplicates when it comes to relationships.

It’s folly to believe that one can look at pictures of Mr &Mrs S. Carter and assume that they want to make them their #relationshipgoals. It’s simply ridiculous.

The truth is, even the happiest and most loyal of relationships require work. And certainly it’s not the majority that wants to put in the time and loyalty to make their own relationship work.

Couples who make their relationships work knows how important it is to swallow their ego, bite their lips and pick their battles. A healthy relationship requires time, attention and lots of affection.

Ego is deadly. A harsh word is a roadblock. Anger burns the house down.

Suggestions:

1. Know what makes her happy or what makes him happy and focus on that

2. Do something, anything exciting. Excitement creates a bond. I enjoy times when we both get to experience something different from the norm. The memories live on…

3. There’s no perfect marriage, so give each other a break. Don’t dwell on the negative. Think if you had one last chance to say something to your spouse what would you say. Life is not guaranteed to anyone – even your spouse.

4. Support each other in whatever way you can. Encouragement keeps the relationship from becoming a lonely walk. What makes the other person tick…should make you tick.

Three things you will never recover:

1. The occasion you missed

2. The time after it is missed

3. The person after they are gone.

Accidents changes everything. Sickness levels the playing field. Death is the common denominator.

A Day Without Laughter

A day without laughter is a day wasted. A cheerful heart is good medicine, but a broken spirit saps a person’s strength.

Fridays are my chosen days to relax and enjoy the lighter side of life. Hope you take a little time to laugh.

Laughter is relaxation. Rest is important. Rest allows your mind, body, and soul to renew and start all over with even strength.

Thanks to all my faithful followers, my new followers, my die-hard supporters, and last but not least …my personal Saviour Jesus Christ for faithfully giving me daily new inspiration for my blogs. My life has not been the same.

Without YOU, there will be no me. Thank you!!!

Stay tune Monday through Friday when there are fresh thoughts to share.

Have an amazing weekend and don’t forget to smile.