Grown Up Conversations

A Different Spirit

2021 clock is ticking away as we have arrived at Day #11. How well are you doing? As grownups we come to the complete understanding that a change of year doesn’t change our lives. It’s your attitude towards life that can shift the environment you live in.

Quote by Zig Zigler “Your attitude, not your aptitude, will determine your altitude”

 Don’t spend another year murmuring , grumbling, blaming everyone and everything for your lack of growth. Are you doing everything you possibly should be doing for a different result this year? Do you have a victim mentality thinking, well, if somebody only gave me this, I’d be fine? This year we will either grow or choose to remain unchanged.

None of us can change our past but never let your past define who you are. No one is too young or too old to dream again. Some goals maybe a little more challenging at the beginning to accomplish but with a positive mindset, the impossible becomes possible. Change your attitude and you will change the way you look at every assignment.

Pace yourself. You are in no competition with anyone. The goal is personally to be better than you were last year. God’s mercy is always bigger than any of our mistakes or our past. Having a different spirit is key to the altitude anyone of us will ever reach in life. Be brave. Be bold. If God can tell the sun where to hide till morning – He can kickstart your new beginnings in 2021.

The obstacles and challenges you see today choose to have a different spirit towards them. I will agree with you that there are some things that can rock our world and life can turn upside-down, but we are not alone during our times of transformation. We are pressing forward with the help of God. Don’t lose hope. Look for the good and trust the process.

Deuteronomy 31:8 says, “The Lord will lead you. He himself is with you. He will not fail you or leave you. Don’t worry. Don’t be afraid!” 

Above all else, guard your hearts. When you don’t know what to do, God will direct your steps. Trust God no matter what your mind tells you. Choose to have a different spirit. Happiness comes when we stop complaining about life. Let your actions reflect your words. A strong woman looks a challenge in the eye and gives it a wink.

I repeat – Pace yourself. You are in no competition with anyone. The goal is personally to be better than you were last year. Never let your mistakes nor your past define you.

PRAYER TIME: Father, thank you for giving us a different spirit in 2021. We will not be intimidated with the size of the mountains we have to climb. We will dream again. Thank you for another year to fulfill our destiny. We are confident that when you step into the picture, miracles happen. Thank you for loving us unconditionally and giving us another day to start over again. In Jesus Name, Amen

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Today’s Topic: Do you feel stuck dealing with an issue?

The dictionary meaning of issue is an important topic or problem for debate or discussion.

Many of us have a trust issue, fear issue, relationship issues, or communication issues. All of these can become debatable or argumentative depending on the views of each other. Then there are some people who live with people that have toxic and detrimental habits that can create a nightmare for everyone.

Life becomes extremely challenging to find a certain level of normalcy when you feel like you are being manipulated, disrespected, repeatedly lied to, or when there’s a breakdown of proper communication. It’s hard to avoid issues when all you have are painful recollections of a life gone wrong. When your issues become blurred with tears it’s easy for your heart to become hardened and disconnected .

Luke 4:43-45 says, there was a woman who had an issue for twelve years. Her issue was that she was hemorrhaging, and she had spent every penny she had on doctors, but no doctor was able to help her. She slipped in from behind and touched the edge of Jesus’ robe.

At that very moment her hemorrhaging stopped. Jesus said, “Who touched me?”

When no one stepped forward, Peter said, “But Master, we’ve got crowds of people on our hands. Dozens have touched you.”

Jesus insisted, “Someone touched me. I felt power discharging from me.”

When the woman realized that she couldn’t remain hidden, she knelt trembling before him. In front of all the people, she blurted out her story—why she touched him and how at that same moment she was healed.

Jesus said, “Daughter, you took a risk trusting me, and now you’re healed and whole. Live well, live blessed!”

Allow me to link the scriptures with my opening notes.

How long have you been dealing with your issue of fear, trust, unpleasant relationships, communication, manipulation etc. For some of you it maybe one year, twenty years, or some a lifetime.

For many of us we may have spent every penny looking for someone to bring some sort of resolution to the issue or issues we are facing but no one has been able to help like the woman spoken about in the scriptures.

Let’s see what this woman did – she slipped in from behind and touched the edge of Jesus’ robe. At that very moment her hemorrhaging stopped. Will you be openminded to removing all shame and take a risk to go to Jesus for help. Afterall, there’s no doctor or person who is able to help resolve the issues in your life.

So why not.

Quote: “If you don’t heal what hurt you, you will bleed on people who didn’t cut you.”

Your bleeding from those things that caused you a huge amount of pain can from the very first encounter with Jesus stop the bleeding.

The scripture went on to say that Jesus felt her touch and knew it was a different touch even though He was in a crowd. You can be in a crowd and Jesus will know when you touch Him. He hears the faintest cry and responds. Tears are a language that only Jesus can interpret. When the woman realized she couldn’t remain anonymous she stepped forward and told Jesus her whole story.

I don’t think for one moment that Jesus didn’t know it was her but there were other people in the crowd who needed to hear her story.

Jesus said, “Daughter, you took a risk trusting me, and now you’re healed and whole. Live well, live blessed!”

My question to you is – Will you take a risk to trust Jesus so you can be free from those things that bring you great distress? We can live well and live blessed.

It’s a New Year and Heaven is opened to offloading NEW BEGINNINGS.

PRAYER TIME: Jesus, we thank You that one touch from You bring quick resolution to everything that has caused us great discomfort and sadness. We take the risk to trust you so we can be free from a lifetime of pain. Thank you we can live well and live blessed. We walk freely into our Season of New Beginnings in Jesus Name, Amen

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It’s Time to Rethink How We View Changes

As good parents we may have done all we can to bring our children up in the fear of God. But like most things in life, we may experience pain as we watch in horror and disbelief as our adult children stray from the faith.

We all know that we can try our best as parents, but sometimes the results are different than we would have hoped for. The truth is, God has given us as parents and adult children free will to make our own choices, at the end of the day.

However, there is a promise that if we train up our children to love God while they are still in their formative years, when they grow up as adults the godly influence/roots will still be there.

I love palm trees. I talk to them like if they are my children. I let them how proud I am seeing them growing so lustrous and green. As we know all trees must be pruned from time to time. We must spend time to trim the branches as they grow in all different directions. So, this last week I decided to prune my palm trees. After hours and hours of trimming and cutting and adding new soil and palm food it struck me like a lightening bolt that to get to the overgrown and old branches I had to get to the root of that branch.

Then I had my AHA MOMENT:

As parents, some of our adult children take on many different personalities that make us as parents get bent out of shape but be reminded their roots are buried with our Godly teachings.

Children or trees left to their own ways are likely to change directions; they’ll become adults who go their own way… MOST times the wrong way. But with Godly wisdom we choose to hold tight to the promise and ask God to save them from self destruction.

Proverbs 22:15 that “Folly is bound up in the heart of a child.” Foolishness and irrational behaviour lands many of them into dangerous waters.

As parents we have the task of praying that our children understand their godly purpose and turn again to find their way back to God. This pretty much settles the fact that once you have done your part teaching your children God’s Word, they will return to the family’s values.

Deuteronomy 6:6-7 “These commandments that I give you today are to be on your hearts. Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up.”

Being in a position of great influence when our children are in their formative years pays big dividends in the family’s legacy. What we do today will matter in their lives tomorrow.

Prayer Time: Father, thank you for giving to us children that will walk in the fear of God. We will not lose heart when we spend hours and hours praying for addictions, laziness, anger, unforgiveness to be broken in their lives. You have equipped us with promises in Your Word and Your Word will not return to you null and void. May our children choose to walk uprightly and be good citizens of Heaven and Earth. In Jesus Name, Amen

GROWN UP CONVERSATIONS

Grown Up Conversations was inspired by a scripture straight out of the Word of God taken from 1 Corinthians 13: 12-13 “When I was a child, I talked like a child, I reasoned as a child. When I became a man, I set aside childish ways. Now we see but a dim reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part ; then I shall know fully , even as I am fully known.”

My daily dialogues are for all those who are ready to put away childish behavior.

Today’s Topic is “Change the Narrative”

I am totally convinced that everyone of us has a conversation or several conversations happening inside of our head that we need to pay close attention to what is being said.

Depending on the season we are in the internal dialogue can be very depressing and hopeless. Those voices inside our heads are challenging to ignore if we aren’t prepared to put up a good fight.

To fight a good fight for healthy thoughts means that we must spend time in God’s Word regardless of what we feel or what we think we understand.

An overactive mind is Satan’s winning tactic. God’s winning plan is for you to keep your thoughts in tune with His voice. It always comes back to choices.

The reality is we will from time to time continue to experience seasons of an overactive mind but how we choose to fight back those internal voices will determine if we win the war.

Our biggest enemy is always ourselves and it takes a good fight and self discipline to retrain our mind. If you don’t fight to change the negative dialogues in your head your perspective on life and people will not change.

Be intentional. It’s time to break the ties with painful memories whether you were right or wrong. Holding family grudges does not make you or I strong – it makes us bitter. Forgiveness does not make you weak, it makes you free.

We can’t look to 2021 to bring us healthy internal dialogues if we leave 2020 with a broken heart or with a mind that is burdened with guilt and shame. They will tag along with you into 2021.

Genesis 41:51-52 says, “Joseph named the firstborn Manasseh, saying, “God has made me forget all my hardship and all my father’s household.” And the second son he named Ephraim, saying, “God has made me fruitful in the land of my affliction.”

It’s time to forget all the hardships and all that took place in your younger years. God can and wants to make you fruitful in the place of your greatest pain.

Don’t live the SAME YEAR 75 times and call it a LIFE. Nothing in life exempts you or I from life’s storms but reading God’s Word protects our mind when faced with the storms of unhealthy internal dialogues. Take heart.

Time to change the storylines. What’s happening on the outside may or may not change – but what’s happening in your mind will change your health.  

IT’S PRAYER TIME: Dear Heavenly Father, thank you for a New Year with new grown up conversations. Help us to have positive conversations with ourselves each and everyday. Give us new healthy conversations with our friends. Keep us from pain that we may not cause pain to others. In Jesus Name, Amen

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This is the Year you will believe in yourself and achieve your greatest accomplishment!

A New Year is here and believe you me – ‘We’ve got this one!’ Today, January 4th means that the first 3 days have already been filed away into our filing cabinets so let’s get it together now. No more talking about your goals and your dreams. Wake up and let’s take the chances we didn’t take before.

Old ways, past stories, grievances, blame game, little irritants, competing, hating, jealousy and all the junk will not contribute to the energy that is needed for success. God whispers to us it’s time to trust me. Every year comes full of potential,  promises, dreams, and opportunities just waiting for those who will take the risk to grab a hold of them.

Forget the reasons why it didn’t work before and say, ‘yes Lord I am going after my dreams.’

God is waiting to back up what you dare to believe. Your mind will believe everything you tell it so trust God and choose to press pass those things that has held you in bondage for years. God is the light for your pathway. Allow Him to lead as He instructs you. Everything you need to press forward is never found in your limited strength but in Christ alone your hope, your light, your strength, and your song in the late midnight hour.  

Psalms 27 “The Lord is my light and my salvation whom shall, I fear? The Lord is the stronghold of my life of whom shall I be afraid? When the wicked advance against me to destroy me, it is my enemies and my foes who will stumble and fall.”

Your confidence should always be rooted and fixed in Christ alone. He will not make you ashamed. He is your helper. 2021 is the year we are going to dig deeper into our bucket list and pull out those dreams we dropped inside of the bucket.

Remain confident of this – you will see the goodness of the Lord this year. Wait for the Lord. Be strong and take heart and wait for the Lord. Many times, you will find yourself FAITHing it – embrace it anyway.

Someone said, “The journey of a thousand miles begins with one step.” Let that first step be a step of FAITH. If you wait to feel equipped – you will never make one step forward because it’s never about you – it’s about God who will ultimately get the glory.

Every year your runway gets shorter. Stop holding back on those dreams you have been carrying around year after year. Faith says, “Even if I can’t, God can.” I hope you are convinced that it’s outrageous to try and do life without God.

Isaiah 41:10 says, “I’ve picked you. I haven’t dropped you.’ Don’t panic. I’m with you. There’s no need to fear for I’m your God. I will give you strength. I will help you. I will hold you steady, keeping a firm grip on you.”

The LORD never faints or grows weary of you bringing all your requests to Him. He increases your strength, so you can finish strong. 2021 is the year to worry less about people and spend more time focusing on your goals.

PRAYER TIME: Father God, thank you for a brand-new year where we can fearlessly do the best we can with Your help. Let us start and finish strong. Teach us to trust the process of grabbing those secret things we deposited into our bucket list. We let go of the excuses that once held us back and we are going for everything that was predestined by you. In Jesus Name, Amen

Happy New Year to all!

There’s Nothing Magical about a New Year

GROWN UP CONVERSATIONS with June Doyle.

2020 was NOT a year for us to forget, ignore, be mad about, or delete. 2020 proved to us that we are resilient human beings who can be brave and terrified both at the same time. Many days we were emotionally challenged but we took baby steps and kept on going despite the fears and the uncertainties.

Regardless of whatever our varied opinions are about 2020 – the truth is, we showed up each day refusing to become a victim of an unhealthy mind.  

There’s nothing magical about the New Year 2021. If God allows us to be alive for all the 365 days ahead of us know for a certainty, He has a plan for your life and for mines.

Breaking News: Satan also has a plan – so be ready for both. Just be wise enough to know which plan to resist and which one to embrace. As grownups, let’s purpose to hold ourselves accountable with the help of God to leave regret, pain, anger and bitterness behind.

2021 presents to you another opportunity to stand before an open door to FREEDOM of choices. Choose wisely! Your thought patterns, your words, your emotions, and what you do with your personal life will ultimately influence the level of success, satisfaction, and happiness you will attain in 2021.

Your values will be mirrored by your daily routines without you uttering one word. It’s the ‘show me don’t tell me lifestyle magazine.’

Happiness cannot be found in a new year, or a new house, or a new country. It doesn’t matter who tell you what you can or can’t do – if God says ‘yes’ then no one can say ‘no’ to your future destiny but you.

Some people invest so much time trying to impress others that they are happy. What good is driving a beautiful car with malfunctioning brakes? Something’s got to give.

A life without God is a wasted life. God knows what He is doing, and when you trust Him , His peace will guard your heart and mind. God’s way is perfect! His peace is a gift. God knows we have been through a lot in 2020 but they that know their God came out stronger and not bitter.

 Someone said, “If I’m wrong about God then I wasted my life. If you’re wrong about God, then you wasted your eternity.’

There are NEW chapters to write. Stop re-writing the same pain, anger, drama, and old stories. Time to change both the Title of the song and the chorus.

Your runway is getting shorter every year. What the New Year holds starts with what you are bringing with you from the old year. There’s no magic to four digits – 2021. The magic depends on who or what you make your god.

The times we are living in – GOOD will be called ‘NOT cool or VERY old fashioned’ and EVIL will be called ‘ACCEPTABLE and NORMAL behavior.’ BE WISE! CHOOSE CAREFULLY.

Psalms 92:12 So teach us to number our days, that we may apply our hearts to wisdom.

PRAYER TIME: Heavenly Father, thank you for 2020. Through it all we have learned to trust You in the midst of the fears and uncertainties. Thank You for holding us together and for showing us your mercies which were new every morning. Teach us to number our days IN 2021 so that we can make wiser choices. Our happiness is found only in knowing You and experiencing Your true peace. In Jesus Name, Amen.

Happiness CANNOT be found in a New Year, a spouse, a new house, or living in a new country. Happiness is revealed in our daily choices. A life without God is a wasted life. God knows what He is doing, and when you trust Him , His peace will guard your hearts and minds.

The Lord bless you and keep you; the Lord make His face to shine upon you and be gracious unto you; the LORD lifts His countenance upon you and give you peace. Amen and Amen.

HAPPY NEW YEAR TO YOU AND YOUR FAMILY.

Wednesday GROWN UP CONVERSATIONS with June Doyle

You are Valuable

If you don’t value yourself, then you will always be attracted to people who don’t value you either.

When someone makes themselves easily accessible, they repeatedly are attracted to the wrong people. Insecurity makes someone go from one relationship to the other – unfortunately with great ease without missing a beat. Insecure people never pause to consider that maybe they deserve better – they make themselves fairly happy in the misery.

On the other hand, a confident woman knows what she will accept and what she will not accept. She recognizes that being single is far better than remaining in a horrible relationship. A confident woman doesn’t set herself on fire to keep someone else warm.

We all deserve a relationship that never makes us have to guess where we stand in it. Long before you were born, God defined your worth from His perspective. He watched you being formed, and He put together every part of you in the womb. He recorded every day of your life–past, present, and future–before your mom ever heard your first cry.

Even in our brokenness God sees our worth and gives it value. He sees our pain and gives it purpose. He sees our need to be loved and gives us a bright future. It’s important that you live everyday knowing your worth. The dream you had yesterday – God has given you another day to work that dream.

Isaiah 53:2-7 tells us that there was nothing attractive about Jesus. He was looked down on and passed over. He suffered and knew pain firsthand and no one looked at Him. They thought He was scum, but the fact is – He was carrying our pains and all the things that were wrong with us. Never doubt that Jesus does not understand what you are going through because He does.

God is putting together every episode in your life to bring about your success story. God is more than enough even if no one else sees your worth. He saw you at your worst and still thinks the best of you. The words you hear becomes the house you live in. Change the way you think. Do it for yourself. Do it for your children. Do it for your success story.

PRAYER TIME: Dear God, thank you that you saw my brokenness and you give it value. Thank you that you saw my pain and give it purpose. I am whole in you. Today, I change my status from broken girl to  a healthy woman. Thank you for loving me unconditionally and showing me another way of thinking. In Jesus Name, Amen.

Tuesday GROWN UP CONVERSATIONS with June Doyle

Relationship is Essential

Everyone of us had a time in life when we wanted to breakdown and cry but pretended to be happy simply not to worry the people we care so much for. God created us to have relationships.

The LORD God made a woman from the rib He had taken out of man. It was God’s idea for humans to interact, learn to trust, support each other, and to build friendships.

Our relationship with God pretty much works the same. When we interact with God and learn to trust Him – He quiets our heart when we become anxious. Daily conversations with God produce faith even if He remains silent or immediately answers our prayers.

In my relationship with God I’ve found that His Peace is a priceless gift as many of my anxieties remain bottled up in vials before the Throne. It does not make me exasperated if I don’t immediately get all the answers I have been waiting for. It’s a TRUST FACTOR.

John 14:27 Jesus says, “ I’m leaving you well and whole. That’s my parting gift to you. Peace. I don’t leave you the way you’re used to being left—feeling abandoned, grieving. So, don’t be upset. Don’t be distraught.”

True relationships never leave you feeling abandoned, upset, or distraught.

Tony Gaskins Jr. says, “Ladies hear this – If a man isn’t following God, he isn’t fit to lead. If he doesn’t have a relationship with God, he won’t know how to have a relationship with you. If he doesn’t know God, he doesn’t know real love.”

Whether it’s God or a person you are in a relationship with – respect, trust, support, and daily dialogues survive the true test of times. The hymn says, ‘Can we find a friend so faithful who will all our sorrows share? Jesus knows our every weakness just take it to the Lord in prayer.’

God never leaves us the way He met us – we become whole with nothing missing. God sets the example for us to follow when looking for signs of a healthy relationship.

True love doesn’t make you feel abandoned. We were made in the image of God. Relationships are important so it makes sense that we should mimic everything that God has taught us.

It should be the benchmark in all relationships. No matter how long you have been waiting – do not rush ahead of God. Trust takes years to build and seconds to break.

If a man doesn’t have a relationship with God, he won’t know how to have a relationship with you. If you don’t have a relationship with God, you won’t know how to have a relationship with others. May our bad days keep us near to God and prove that He is good.

PRAYER TIME: Father, thank you for teaching me to understand how relationships work. You have never abandoned me and left me feeling misplaced. Let my relationship with You be so real that I will know when I am surrounded with healthy people who carries your image. In Jesus Name, Amen