MAY 24 GROWN UP CONVERSATIONS

Today’s Topic: Get Back In The Ring!

Without a goal in life, you will never have a good reason to wake up with a feeling of excitement every morning. My belief is, if you live your life well, you can live a full life without regrets.

Your thoughts and feelings determine how you live and how you live will determine how well you lived your life. Every regret, every bad experience, every past story can be turned into a fruitful vine allowing others to benefit from it.

Your goal may be to improve your physical characteristics like your hair, nose, and shape but be forewarned you will still be unhappy because you didn’t spend time working on the inner you.

It’s where all the secrets of the real you are hidden and tucked away in the rooms of your mind. We all have had our fair measure of secret wounds like rejection, abandonment, shame, betrayal, and injustice that left us feeling angry during different stages of life.

When the soul is wounded sleeplessness, exhaustion, nightmares, feelings of sadness, low self-esteem, anger, anxiety, and depression all play some sort of role in our everyday life.

Life is a series of events that we experience minute by minute. The decisions and choices we make will determine the quality of life we will eventually enjoy.

Some people live to be very old and still have not enjoyed living. So, it’s not how long you live but how well you have lived. Life, if well lived, is long enough.

How did I get from being there to here? I acknowledge that there were deep secret wounds that I had to deal with once and for all. I listened closely to what my heart was saying when I was alone in prayer.

I chose to forgive because I needed closure to the past. I rejected anything that challenged to keep me tied to the past. I replaced them with the truth of God’s purpose and destiny for my life, all of which had a brighter future. And when the ugly past tries to have a one-on-one chat with me, I quickly reposition myself away from the chatter.

I have always been a firm believer that anything worth having is worth fighting for. Coronavirus has forced us to acknowledge that life is far too short to sit around and wait for apologies and answers before you give yourself permission to laugh again.

Getting a degree, living in your dream home, filtering your selfies, marrying the perfect spouse, relocating, having children, changing your hair, tightening your stomach, fluffing your lips, changing the color of your eyes or go as far as even neglecting yourself will never fix the secrets of your inner soul.

Your only way to recovery is dealing with your painful secrets alone with God. Proverbs 27:19 says, “Just as water mirrors your face, so your face mirrors your heart.

When we look at a person’s facial expressions when they interact with others, you can often tell if they are friendly, kind, bitter, cruel, positive or negative. Our words may be saying one thing, but our face very often gives away the secrets of the heart.

Our goal is to live our life so well that one life will be long enough. Jesus only lived for 33 years. Without God life is hard. Why ask for prayers when the clock has started to slowly tick? I love seeing people living a full life. Life, if lived well, is long enough.

PRAYER TIME: Father, teach us to take note of our years so we can apply wisdom to them. In Jesus Name, Amen.

MAY 20 GROWN UP CONVERSATIONS

TODAY’S TOPIC: It’s a Done Deal

We all have made bad judgment calls that make us very uncomfortable to think about. But the one thing about waking up to a new day is the opportunity we have to put the past in the past and to know that we are not that person anymore.

Our bad choices don’t define who we are or where we are heading. We learn! We grow! We move on!

It’s very important not to become trapped in your past that you find yourself hostage to bad memories.

When nothing excites you anymore life gets boring. When life gets boring you become stagnated. Anyone can recover from the most shameful episode in life. Never give up, never give in once you can breathe. Every day is another chance to show you’re the author of your story.

Someone said, “The greatest glory in living is not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall.”

It’s not where you fell but how you choose to rise again. Focusing on regrets changes nothing. Be patient with yourself. Make peace with your past.

God has many ways to get you to your designated end. You are defined by God and not by people’s opinions. Take your regrets to God and leave them there. Stop living in your past.

We know that no one will ever be perfect. So, don’t fake it. You only live once, but if you do it right, once is enough.

God can take even our worst mistakes and somehow bring about good from them. God of all comfort comforts us. We in turn comfort those like us with the comfort we receive from God.

Isaiah 43:18 -19 says, “Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past. See, I am doing a new thing!”

God said it and that settles it. Forget the past. Move on and create a new beginning.

Psalms 19:11-13 “By your teachings, Lord, I am warned; by obeying them, I am greatly rewarded. None of us know our faults. Forgive me when I sin without knowing it. Don’t let me do wrong on purpose, Lord, or let sin have control over my life.”

Reading the Bible teaches you on many varied topics. It shows us our hidden faults and who ever obey the teachings will be greatly rewarded. Sin controls. Freedom comes when we walk in obedience.

There are two basic ways we sin:

  1. When we know we should not do something and refuse to do what’s right. To anyone who knows what is right and does not do it – it is a sin.
  2. A deliberate or spontaneous act in ways that does not please God is a sin. The cops doesn’t care whether you know the rules of the road. Your job is to know the rules before getting behind the wheel. It’s your job to know the things that pleases God.

God in all His wisdom knew we needed a Savior. We cannot stop ourselves from sinning, so Jesus took upon Himself all our sins and paid the price in full on Calvary. So, we make a choice to walk closely to Him.

PRAYER TIME: Father, only you can heal our deepest hurts and use the bad in our life for good. Please comfort us so we can comfort others. In Jesus Name, Amen

MAY 18 GROWN UP CONVERSATIONS

Today’s topic: LIFE IS A JOURNEY

A journey is to travel from one place to another. Whether you are driving, running, flying, roaming, or crossing over you are on a journey.

If you are facing 1000 steps to climb, or you are on the peak of a mountain or in the lowest valley, or you’ve had many delays as exhausting as the journey can sometimes be you’ve got to keep going because life is like having a one-way ticket in hand.

Your journey cannot be exchanged or auctioned off on eBay or Amazon. It’s yours for as long as you are alive and the truth is, it was prepackaged with your name on it the moment you stepped into this world.

Good and bad things happen it’s the package life comes with and it’s uncontrollable by human’s hands.

We must ask ourselves one question – ‘Should we just sit here waiting to die because life did not hand us good cards?’

Everything you are facing is designed to stretch your faith and never to kill your momentum. God stretches our faith because He knows that if He can get us to trust Him in the scariest of times it will be less intimidating the next time around.

Faith is like the muscles in our bodies if we don’t use it, we will lose it. Faith must be used so it can grow. When faith is not used, we lose it and start accusing God of being unfair.

I’ve found that when my mind is spent thinking who, what, where, and how they are warning signs that my thoughts are being derailed and it’s a guarantee that I will lose heart in the journey.

Never become preoccupied with questions that you cannot answer for yourself. Keep moving! Be empowered! God is keeping watch.

Complaining doesn’t get you up or down 1000 steps. Trying to reason out the process leads to death of dreams, laughter, and seeing the beautiful things along the way. You should not be the same person you used to be when you started your journey.

Every obstacle, every person you have met, every place you have walked, every tear you have shed, every dream that was squashed, every love that you gave that was not reciprocated, every year you lost in the valley, every prayer you’ve prayed have all made you who you are today.

Some journeys take us through dangerous and difficult circumstances but through it all we will learn to trust God.

2 Chronicles 16:9 “For the eyes of the LORD roam to and fro over all the earth, to show Himself strong on behalf of those whose hearts are fully devoted to Him.”

Anyone can say they have faith in God but when uncertainties and setbacks are encountered then the real testing of our faith begins, and many lose courage and walk away.

Be encouraged your test is to increase your confidence in God. Therefore, we must cheer each other on for we do not know what tomorrow holds for anyone of us.

The next leg of the journey requires vision where you know your worth and know the value of holding your own pen.

PRAYER TIME: Father, thank you for constantly watching everyone. Thank you for the strength you give to all who faithfully obey you. In Jesus Name, Amen

May 17 GROWN UP CONVERSATIONS

Today’s Topic is ‘Be Authentic’

Life is not a dress rehearsal. We have no time for repeats or sideshow distractions. Who you were yesterday should inspire you to run stronger and faster living out your full potential before your expiry date. We have one life to do it right regardless of the many unforeseen things we are still dealing with. So, let’s do it right.

Be excited that your footprints can be a trail for others to find their way through the maze of life. When you are authentic you can change the landscape for you and the next generation. Life gets pretty boring if there are no new lessons to stimulate growth. So, be authentic and roll with the punches. Be proud of your resiliency despite the hiccups along the way.

Without pretending find original ways to stay on top of your game. Many times, all it takes is one prayer to make you the loudest cheerleader. Silence the chatter in your head by speaking loudly and reassuringly what your goals are for today.

You don’t have to be flawless but set reasonable expectations so you wouldn’t become discouraged.

Get out of your pandemic pjs and throw on your cutest layback outfits. Shampoo that hair and don’t forget your smile under your pillow. Life is real and many times it hits us some really hard blows, but you can always get back up again.

Deuteronomy 30:3-4 “God, your God, will restore everything you lost; he’ll have compassion on you; he’ll come back and pick up the pieces from all the places where you were scattered. No matter how far away you end up, God, your God, will get you out of there.”

You are not stuck. You just need to get out of the toxic environment and associate yourself with people who are confident, and goal focused to help you get to the finish line.

I know if you trust God there’s no speech nor language where His voice is not heard. He restores. God can pick up all the shattered pieces making a showstopper masterpiece.

You are loving, caring, funny, brave, smart, strong, good-hearted, hardworking, and understanding making you authentic.

Always try to make people happy for when they are happy you are happy. Don’t waste your time on things that have not brought you any measure of peace. Chase your happiness. Wake up from your sleep with a burst of new energy. Watch your steps. Use your head.

Watch what God does when He sees your enthusiasm. Do everything to bring out the best in you. You may feel overpowered, but you and God make the majority.

PRAYER TIME: Father, thank you that you created my inmost being you knit me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful; I know that full well. Your eyes saw my unformed body. All the days ordained for me were written in your book before one of them came to be. In Jesus Name, Amen

MAY 13 GROWN UP CONVERSATIONS

Happy People

If you are missing happiness in your life, it absolutely makes a lot of sense. We were created with a void/emptiness that was deliberately left by our Creator. Happy people involve God in everything. Happy people pray about everything. Happy people see God all around and the void/emptiness shrinks in size. Happy people know that everyone wasn’t raised like them and they are okay with that.

Happy people cling to God’s Word rehearsing it in their heart knowing that regardless of what happens ‘it is well with their soul.’ Happy people aren’t easily offended. Proverbs 12:16 “Foolish people are easily upset. But wise people pay no attention to hurtful words.” Happy people set healthy boundaries. They will speak up but never disrespect anyone.

Happy people know that God’s plan stands up to every test of life and all His purposes will be fulfilled. From where God sits high up, He looks down on all the earth and watches everything. Happy people pray for others because they know that everyone is fighting a battle that no one knows about. They choose being kind over being right.

Happy people know that they are the apple of God’s eye and that He will protect them in bad times. They trust God to keep watch over them day and night and they sleep well at nights. Happy people ignore nonsense and laugh more. They know it’s not their job to change anyone and they have a peace within.

Happy people know how to dance while the storm is raging and leave everyone wondering how they do it. Philippians 4:7 “And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.” They live to be happy and not to impress. Happy people trust God as the author of their lives and confidently know their story has a happy ending.

There was a little song we learned as children – “A time to be happy is now, the place to be happy is here, and the way to be happy is to make others happy and create a little heaven right here.” Happy people make others feel happy and they create a happy environment wherever they go. Happiness is doing what feels right in your heart, making others happy, and do what pleases God.

Somebody once said, “A smile increases your face value.” There is nothing nicer than someone smiling at you and you smiling back at them. Happy people say to themselves, “What a wonderful world.”

Happy people love people and want to see everyone winning. They walk side by side and will carry the weak ones when summoned.  

One of the religious teachers asked Jesus a question – “Teacher, which command in God’s Law is the most important?”

Jesus said, ‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and mind and soul.’ This is the most important, the first on any list. But there is a second ‘Love others as well as you love yourself.’

PRAYER TIME: Father, we will love you with all our heart and mind and soul. Teach us to truly love others as you love us. In Jesus Name, Amen

REMINDER: The time to be happy is now, the place to be happy is here, and the way to be happy is to make others happy and create a little heaven right here.

May 12 GROWN UP CONVERSATIONS

Proverbs Wednesday

Proverbs 3 Contemporary English Version

Trust God

My child, remember my teachings and instructions and obey them completely. They will help you live a long and prosperous life.

Let love and loyalty always show like a necklace and write them in your mind. God and people will like you and consider you a success. With all your heart you must trust the Lord and not your own judgment. Always let him lead you, and he will clear the road for you to follow. Don’t ever think that you are wise enough but respect the Lord and stay away from evil. This will make you healthy, and you will feel strong.

Honor the Lord by giving him your money and the first part of all your crops. Then you will have

more grain and grapes than you will ever need.

My child don’t turn away or become bitter when the Lord corrects you. The Lord corrects everyone he loves, just as parents correct their favorite child.

God blesses everyone who has wisdom and common sense. Wisdom is worth more than silver; it makes you much richer than gold. Wisdom is more valuable than precious jewels; nothing you want compares with her.

In her right-hand Wisdom holds a long life, and in her left hand are wealth and honor. Wisdom makes life pleasant and leads us safely along.

Wisdom is a life-giving tree, the source of happiness for all who hold on to her. By his wisdom and knowledge, the Lord created heaven and earth. By his understanding he let the ocean break loose and clouds release the rain.

My child, use common sense and sound judgment! Always keep them in mind. They will help you to live a long and beautiful life. You will walk safely and never stumble; you will rest without a worry and sleep soundly.

So don’t be afraid of sudden disasters or storms that strike those who are evil. You can be sure that the Lord will protect you from harm.

Do all you can for everyone who deserves your help. Don’t tell your neighbor to come back tomorrow, if you can help today. Don’t try to be mean to neighbors who trust you. Don’t argue just to be arguing, when you haven’t been hurt.

Don’t be jealous of cruel people or follow their example.

The Lord doesn’t like anyone who is dishonest, but he lets good people be his friends. He places a curse on the home of everyone who is evil, but he blesses the home of every good person.

The Lord sneers at those who sneer at him, but he is kind to everyone who is humble.

You will be praised if you are wise, but you will be disgraced if you are a stubborn fool.

MAY 11 GROWN UP CONVERSATIONS

Time is in God’s Hand

The dictionary meaning of delay is, to wait until later. Sometimes, our prayers are not answered immediately, and this can make us heart sick as Proverbs 13:12 says, “Hope deferred makes the heart sick, but a longing fulfilled is a tree of life.” Having a purpose gives you something to live for.

Sure, we all wish we won’t have to wait on God but with God, one day is as good as a thousand years, a thousand years as a day. God is not like man. There have been times in my own life where God gave me a promise. The promise was so surreal that I knew it was from Him, but I had to come to terms with the truth that He is God and at the right time He’ll make it happen.

Days do look like years but to God our years are like days. God gave Sarah a promise, but guess what? It took a very long while before He carried out that promise. Sarah waited years for a child, and God gave her a godly son by the name of Isaac. And like Sarah our greatest blessings will be the ones that we’ve been waiting on for years.

Proverbs 3:5-6 says, “Trust in the Lord with all your heart; do not depend on your own understanding. Seek his will in all you do, and he will show you which path to take.”

When you fix your minds on the problem rather than trusting God’s timing it’s hard to live an abundant life. You wait years to graduate just to get a degree. Google says it takes athletes 3,000 to 7,000 hours to reach world-class status after four to seven years of purposeful training to get to the Olympics. Then, why can’t we wait on God?

David says in Psalms 31: 14-15 “But I trust in you, Lord; I say, “You are my God.” “My times are in your hands; deliver me from the hands of my enemies, from those who pursue me.”

Take comfort in knowing that our minutes, hours, days, weeks and years are in God’s hands. God has a plan and a purpose in keeping us here.

God’s will, plan, and purpose will be fulfilled. Someone said, “God’s delay is not God’s denial.” Keep the faith. There is one thing that God says to His children regardless of how serious the situation may be, “Trust Me.’ The delay is not a denial. It’s taking longer than you expected but our times are in His hands. Remain faithful.

The sun will never go down, and the moon will never disappear until you see the LORD’s goodness in this present life. Be patient while you wait for the Lord. He hears your cry and will answer you.

PRAYER TIME: Father, teach us to wait patiently for you and to be strong and courageous. In Jesus Name, Amen

Reminder: As children of God, be confident when the time is right it will happen. In our waiting God is working on the inside of you teaching you all you need to learn about Him.

May 10 GROWN UP CONVERSATIONS

Do Not Nurse It!

Unless you change your thinking, you will keep having the same life. Sometimes God knows we won’t move unless circumstances force us to.  Psalms 18:19 says,When I was fenced in, you freed and rescued me because you love me.” Your life is in God’s hand. God chose you! God has a plan!

Weeping may go on for a night, but all nights must end. It takes an incredible amount of strength to pull yourself out of a dark place but the longer you stay there is the more unhappy you will become. Nursing wounds can become very additive as self-destructive. Anyone who sees other people’s faults more than their own will never be a happy person.

It’s important to find solutions and stop rehearsing problems. Some people block their happiness by complaining about everything and everyone. It’s unhealthy to wake up everyday complaining and expect to have a happy life. It’s time to stop nursing wounds and stop believing that others are robbing you of a life you deserve.  

Psalm 91:4 says, “He will cover you with His feathers; under His wings you will find refuge; His faithfulness is a shield and wall.”

Think of this as a hen that gathers her chicks under her wings and protects them in time of danger. Say, “God, I don’t know how you’re going to do this, but I can’t wait to see it all unfold.” Whatever the problem is do not nurse it, curse it, or rehearse it. Just hand it over to God and He will reverse it. Pray when you feel like worrying. If you don’t know what to do, it’s time to pray.

Sometimes the walls you build around yourself are the same walls that block your happiness. Stay positive and break the habits of rehearsing your troubles. You might not see change right away, but you will get peace.

Numbers 6:24-26 “The Lord bless you and keep you; the Lord make his face shine on you and be gracious to you; the Lord turn his face toward you and give you peace.”

When you are ready to move on God will cause situations to come together and work in your favor without asking anyone for permission. No one can block your blessings but you. Someone said, “The only difference between a good day and a bad day is our attitude.

Psalms 51:10 “Create in me a clean heart, O God; and renew a right spirit within me.” It’s time to stop nursing our painful past.

PRAYER TIME: Father, when we are fenced in, you will free us and rescued us because you love us. In Jesus Name, Amen

“Whatever the problem is do not nurse it, curse it, or rehearse it. Just hand it over to God and He will reverse it.”