FriYaYaYa

Friday is a great opportunity to get out from our daily responsibilities and do everything that we wished we could have done all week long. It’s a beginning of weekend. So let’s get ready to kick off the weekend with our smiles.

Hope I accomplished my goal today, and I made you smile. Happy Friday everyone! Have a fantastic weekend! When you are smiling, the whole world smiles with you…so keep on smiling.

See you on Monday when life takes on a whole new meaning. Take time to hug your loved ones.

Know The Season

Everything about life has a reason and a season. We are in Spring (March 20 was the first day), but it looks like the weather (May 1) didn’t get the memo. A couple weeks ago there was snow on the ground. Then there were warmer days when people were outside in short-sleeved shirts. Like everything else in life … if we don’t like the weather today … chances are … we will like it tomorrow.

When we are in a bad season, we can feel like seasons never change. We may feel like it doesn’t make sense praying anymore because things are getting worse by the minute … but we must encourage ourselves that life does come in seasons, and sometimes seasons overlap … and like everything else …. we will enjoy the nicer days ahead … so don’t lose heart.

Sometimes things go wrong so we can appreciate when they do go right. There are times when we don’t know the value of something until someone else has it. But, the real struggle is, getting stuck in either a good season or a bad season.

I’m totally convinced that our most difficult season – the ones we hate, the ones we cry and throw a tantrum about, the ones that make us want to quit, the ones that keeps us up all night long, the season that lingers on and on … are the ones that make the most intriguing story when the season changes.

Personally, my best stories were written in the seasons that kept me up in the midnight hour …that was when it was God and I alone. I cried, screamed and even threw a pity party all by myself … but there was that little rock of HOPE buried in my soul that made me trust the process because I understood that if I remain brave and courageous in the most difficult season … the next season I will be unstoppable.

It’s not that I did not have my doubts and fears but I encourage myself that every season has a reason and a purpose. As long as we are alive, seasons will never end. Just as the earth experiences Spring, then Summer, then Fall, and finally Winter … my life and your life has its seasons.

Just because we don’t see anything happening doesn’t mean that God isn’t working. Sometimes God gives us a word/promise … and we have to wait from season to season…year after year.

It doesn’t mean that God isn’t coming through because God never wastes a season. What we do when we don’t understand our season is critical to what we will receive when the season changes.

How we handle our seasons will determine our loyalty to God. God didn’t put out the fire for Shadrach, Meshach and Abednego … He put JESUS in the fire with them.

As parents, spouses, family members… we have lots of seasons … but Jesus remains the 4th Man in the fire. We have come too far to jump out now.

Your Best Days are Ahead by Bob and Debby Gass

‘He heals the broken-hearted.’ Psalm 147:3 NKJV

If you’re trying to recover from a broken relationship, don’t rush into another one. As you become healthy you begin to make healthy choices.

Some hurts take a long time to heal, but don’t be discouraged; ‘He heals the broken-hearted and binds up their wounds.’ Give God a chance. Take time to search His Word and find out how He feels about you, for that’s the true basis of all self-worth.

If God can love and accept you with full knowledge of your imperfections, then the message is: ‘Lighten up on yourself!’ You can love, and be loved again, but only with the same wholeness with which you love yourself! (See Matthew 22:39.)

Next time make sure your choices are healthy ones, and not based solely on need, or the fear of being alone.

And be careful; when you don’t value yourself, you attract people who feel the same way about you, including those who seek to control you. You deserve better, so hold out for it.

Remember, you train others how to treat you by how you treat yourself.

As you become whole, you’ll start to see how unwholesome some of your relationship choices have been. If some people walk away, ‘so be it’.

Sometimes you’ve got to give up less so that God can give you more. He has new relationships in store for you, but He’s waiting until your values, perceptions, and self-worth line up with His Word. So take it step by step, one day at a time.

And rejoice – your best days are ahead!

Winning Is The Goal

Someone said, “A healthy relationship requires choosing to love each other, even in those moments when you struggle to like each other.” All relationships (parents and children, couples, family and friends) have its high and low moments even those we see on social media or those who tell you that their love life is perfect.

There’s no perfect relationship. There are good and bad times and qualities in everyone … But when two persons who want to be in each other’s lives find a way to make it work … the relationship survives all odds.

The truth is, our real enemy isn’t each other but Satan who is walking back and forth throughout the earth looking ways to disrupt our lives.

There are times having no response in the heat of a disagreement is the best response. It means we know things have taken a turn for the worse…and nothing worthy and fruitful can come out of the issue at hand. So we use wisdom and call for a time out. During a basketball game, there are timeouts, pauses, and other breaks during a two hour and fifteen minutes game. Why not in a relationship that lasts longer than a basketball game?

A timeout doesn’t mean that you get into your car and drive out, or you put your music on blast….it simply means that you take a seat and then come back with a plan for a win win resolution. A team member playing doesn’t have an option to walk off the courts if they are losing the game. They sit on the bench and discuss a plan to win. Winning is the goal.

If you are in a parent/child relationship, or a marriage relationship, or any other kind of relationship, and you have one person who believes in you more than you believe in yourself … keep them around. That’s a good team.

If you believe in someone more than they believe in themselves .. stay close to them, they need you.

James 3:16-18 The Message (MSG) says,
Live Well, Live Wisely
Do you want to be counted wise, to build a reputation for wisdom? Here’s what you do:

  1. Live well
  2. Live wisely
  3. Live humbly

It’s the way you live, not the way you talk, that counts.

  1. Mean-spirited ambition isn’t wisdom
  2. Boasting that you are wise isn’t wisdom
  3. Twisting the truth to make yourselves sound wise isn’t wisdom. It’s the furthest thing from wisdom—it’s animal cunning, devilish conniving.
  4. Whenever you’re trying to look better than others or get the better of others, things fall apart and everyone ends up at the others’ throats.

Real wisdom, God’s wisdom

  1. Begins with a holy life and is characterized by getting along with others
  2. It is gentle and reasonable, overflowing with mercy and blessings, not hot one day and cold the next, not two-faced
  3. You can develop a healthy, robust community that lives right with God and enjoy its results only if you do the hard work of getting along with each other, treating each other with dignity and honor.

Father God,

Help us to forgive others and ourselves when disagreements become hostile, and words get in the way. Help us in our human state of mind to remember that those crazy emotions when we are under an attack makes us very vulnerable to hurting others, and the truth is, our real enemy isn’t each other but Satan who is walking back and forth throughout the earth looking for ways to disrupt our lives. Help us to live well, live wisely, and to live humbly. Teach us to let go of those things we have no control over. In Jesus Name, Amen.

We Only Got One Life…So Smile A Little More

Life doesn’t come with an undo button, delete button, or an edit button, so I work hard all week long to get it right so I can finish the week with a smile. Whoever is reading this, I hope you have at least one reason to smile.

When I smile, I feel good … and when I can make you smile, I feel better.

Our smiles are dependent on our thoughts….so choose your thoughts and the smiles will follow.

Let’s get ready to smile again.

Happy Weekend to you and yours. A smile can change someone’s world.

See you on Monday! Thanks to all my new and old followers. I’m eternally blessed to have you in my life.

Without YOU, there’s no ME. Thanks for choosing to join me on my journey.

Don’t Add To The Noise

Dear friends, if you choose to live among the wise, you’ve got to be wise. A wise person knows there’s something to learn from everyone and in every situation.

Step One – Refuse to get involved in frivolous discussions; they always end up in fights.

Step Two – Hatred backfires.

Step 3 – A desire to hurt someone boomerangs.

Jealousy, revenge, hatred, anger, pride – are emotional warning bells that we need to listen to before they destroy everything in the pathway. Someone said, “Speak when you are angry, and you will make the best speech you will ever regret.” I think we can apply the same theory to any of the other emotions listed. A jealous person: a person bent on taking revenge; an angry person; a proud person, or a person full of hate… can make the best speech he/she will ever regret.

Nothing that we have experienced is beyond what others before us have had to face. There’s nothing new under the sun…our parents faced it and it is common to all human beings.

I thank God for my praying Mother who taught us children that all we need to remember is that God will never let us down nor will He allow us to push past our limit. He will always be there to help us come through whatever may come against us.

I believe what my Mom taught me, and now I’m repeating the same words to you, “God will never let you down, and He will not allow you to be pushed past your limit.”

So regardless of what happened yesterday, the day before, or what may happen tomorrow, “blowing out someone else’s candles doesn’t make yours shine any brighter.” Our options may be very few, but sometimes we have to count our losses and move on.

Negative emotions will hold us emotionally hostage to things we have no control over…”could have’; ‘should have’; are all unproductive thoughts.
Forget the stuff that you have no control over; do not live there; promote yourself to another level with folks who think like you. God is doing a new thing EVERYDAY!

Don’t miss the new thing while holding on to the pain. Together we will watch the beautiful sunsets … and with great expectations the sun will rise the next day opening up a whole new world of greater opportunities.

I don’t know about you, but I’m moving forward to get to the finish line. I’m giving it everything I’ve got. I’m staying alert and in top condition. I’m not going to get caught running off track.

One thing never wavered, one thing never changed…I never lost my hope, my joy, my faith, and my gratitude to God.

Mama, You Are The Heart Of the Home – 3

Today I’m reblogging one of my blogs… with a little editing. It may be the first time some of you may be reading it, so it should be an interesting read.

The following nursery rhyme is quite popular all over the world…”Five little monkeys jumping on the bed,
One fell down and bumped his head,
Mama called the doctor and the doctor said,
No more monkeys jumping on the bed!”  

There are five verses and each verse the monkeys become less and less as they fall off the bed.

Allow me to stretch my imagination a little as I swap the five little monkeys into kids.

Parenting is a job that can make the wisest person feel like a high school dropout, or make a saint feel like a sinner, or a non-drinker feel intoxicated. As much as we hate to admit it for fear of being ostracized…. Parenting is hard work, and it’s definitely for the strong at heart.

I’ve had my share of questioning my own parenting skills where sometimes it felt like I was on a winning streak…until a kid fell off and bumped her head and the doctor had to be called out…not once, but many times. When that happens … you seriously begin to second guess yourself and your competency.

Maybe the mother of the five little monkeys (kids) was frustrated, angry and feeling like her life was out of control as one monkey after the other was falling off the bed and bumping their head. It’s no mother’s dream to be calling the doctor on five different occasions…but life happens.

Did you notice that there was no mention of a father? So, mothers, if you have ever cried yourself to sleep because you felt incompetent…then CONGRATULATIONS, you are a great Mom! It’s all part of juggling the demands of the family.

What keeps us going as mothers when all we want to do is to escape the chaos? We are the heart of the home regardless of the dynamics of the family. Our role in the home is way too important to call in sick, to apply for time off, or to seek a replacement. Parenting is not the kind of job that you can ask for a sabbatical when you have five little monkeys.

Monkeys falling out of the bed is certainly a living nightmare. We all dream about having happy and well-adjusted kids… but life with kids teaches us difficult lessons at different stages, and sometimes many unplanned calls to the doctor. Every decision we make has a lasting effect on the entire family for the rest of their lives. There’s no part-time employment in parenting … it’s a full-time job from the moment the first little adorable angel graced us with their presence until mother takes her last breath. When we are in doubt about a decision it may be helpful to ask, “How will this decision affect my child or children in the next 5 or 10 years”?  

 

Good parents do everything with their children’s best interest at heart. Don’t worry that your children are not listening to you…be more aware that they are watching you, so stay consistent in faith. If they see bad…they become ten times worse …. if they see good…hopefully they stand a greater chance to do ten times better.

Psalms 127:1-2 says,

If God doesn’t build the house,
the builders only build shacks.
If God doesn’t guard the city,
the night watchman might as well nap.
It’s useless to rise early and go to bed late,
and work your worried fingers to the bone.
Don’t you know he enjoys
giving rest to those he loves?”

  1. Allow God to build the family
  2. If God doesn’t guard the family, we might as well take a nap
  3. God enjoys giving us rest. Don’t lose sleep and stop worrying over your children

When God is in control, He makes even your enemies to be at peace with you.